Would u get married at a church where u didn't agree with the practices just because ur fiance really wants to

Question

Both of us are christians. But some things are different among christian churches. charismatic, conservative, etc. which is our case. and i do not feel comfortable with some things that are practiced in her church

Answer 1

I would not do so, and anyone I married would understand this. A church is more than just a venue, after all. Since you are both Christians, perhaps you could find a middle ground on this. Her clergyman and your venue, perhaps?

Answer 2

This raises a bigger question. If you can't work this out how are you going to raise the children you may have? Which church will they go to? You need to discuss this with each other and if you can't work something out, I'd reconsider getting married.

My fiance and I were different faiths. He told me he would not marry someone that was of a different faith because it causes to many problems. This isn't true for every couple, but for us, it was really important we were both on the same page. I made the CHOICE to change, and it was an informed decision. I just think if one is REALLY devout in a faith, then it's harder for someone of another faith to be with them. If this is causing a fight now, just think what happened when you have kids, or his lifestyle or yours changes and he or you start telling the other you're living your life wrong. I think you need to be on the same page.

I became catholic b/c I didn't find any practices wrong. And if you didn't with his I would say thats fine to get married there. But there ARE things you don't agree with. So don't do something you don't feel comfortable with. However, it could just be that you need to be more informed about why they do what they do, and maybe you wont have a problem with it anymore. Good luck.

Answer 3

Are you converting? If not then I don't understand the problem.

Are you incorporating thing in the ceremony that you don't agree with?

The church is just a building, the people and congregation are the real church (biblically speaking) so if you can have the ceremony the way you want it and you are not converting, then I would say go for it, no one is asking you to change your beliefs.

The important thing is that you are pledging a vow before you family and God to live together and love each other for life. Focus on the reason for the ceremony, not the venue.

Now if you have to convert, that is a totally different story, I would say find a compromise.

Good luck!

Answer 4

It would depend on how strongly I disagreed with the practices vs how much it meant to my guy.

I never wanted to be married inside a church. I'd have felt like a hypocrit (since I'm an atheist) and I'd always wanted an outdoor wedding among the redwoods. My guy didn't have much of a preference as long as it wasn't a religious ceremony, so we did it my way.

But if there'd been a disagreement, we would have talked it over and come to a compromise of some sort.

Answer 5

I am Christian and I believe it's so sad that Christian fight over the little differences on how a church runs their services. I can't believe that that would be an issue to even consider whether you want to get married in the church or not.
The main focus of Christians should be the gift of living by grace and asking for a blessing over your marriage, not the futile little difference that the take out the focus of where you are living for.

Answer 6

I am currently faced with the same issue and I have decided to marry in my finance's church simply because I know how important it is to him. As well, marriage is about compromise and if both believe in the Christian wedding ceremony then does it really matter which Church it is held in?

Answer 7

Your question goes deeper than where to get married. If you guys can't figure this out, what are you going to do if you have kids? Who will they go to church with? Which church do you attend during the holidays? Once you figure this stuff out, where you get married will be an easy decision because it just won't matter in the larger scheme of things.

I grew up Christian, my fiance grew up Jewish. Since we're not religious at all, nor do we intend to be, it didn't make sense to get married in a house of worship, so we're getting married in a garden.

Answer 8

well maybe you should not be getting married at all
marriage is about sharing about gyving . it s about making sacrifice's and doing things that some times you don't fully agree with its about give and take, so why not talk about it have a wedding in your church and in his or her church. there will be lots of things you don't agree on in a marriage the trick is to work them out. if you love them yes you would if it makes them happy so have the best of both worlds have two services one in each church . when your church is paying your bills well then you can worry about the church

Answer 9

Yes, I would, because to me, the point of my wedding is to be forever linked in love to my fiance...
i quit the Catholic church years ago because I didn't agree with their practices, but my fiance's family is very involved with the church. I told him we'd get married anywhere he wanted since the location wasn't the thing to me...it my sweetheart that matters...we're marrying on St Thomas in February.

Answer 10

I am Methodist and my fiance` is Catholic. We are getting married in my church that I grew up in. He does not have any problem with that. If you two can not come to an agreement have a wedding outside of a church.... Happy Endings!