Do you think she was being rude or am I a little sensitive?

Question

My math teacher today was handing out interims and she said that it was a hard first five weeks. Then she said that one parent had come in early one morning to ask if "their darling little child" could be moved to advanced math. she said that she said "well she wasn't recommended".

I knew that she was talking about me and I am slightly disgusted with her choice of words. Darling little child? Really! and she said that in a sort of annoying tone, and that just made me feel a little angry and I KNOW that I was recommended for advanced math for this year, and i especially hate it how she said it in front of the entire class.

do you think that she was rude or i am just sensitive?

Answer 1

Your teacher behaved very badly. She should never have brought up the subject in class, albeit anonymously, she knew that you knew she was referring to you.

It shows a total lack of respect for you and your mother. It also tells the other kids in the class that she will "disrespect" them, too, if they wished to make a similar request.

You are not being overly sensitive. She is not only being rude, she is being UNPROFESSIONAL and should be reported for her comments. I suggest that you speak to at least 2-3 other classmates who heard her comments... and be sure these are "reliable" sources! ... to ask them if they would back you up. Talk to your mother about what happened and tell her that you felt belittled by her comments, and that you wish to report the teacher. Your mother/parents should be the ones to approach the school's principal with a written letter of complaint about the teacher. She should demand the teacher be reprimanded and apologize to you for her comments.

Dear... you felt "a little angry" because you were being belittled and disrespected. NO student deserves such treatment, especially from a teacher who even considers herself to be a "professional." I do not feel that reporting the teacher is making a "mountain out of a molehill." If she shows this attitude towards you, what kind of attitude is she showing towards other students AND their parents? Are her attitudes affecting her grading of these students?

As I said, she is the one who is wrong, and should be hauled up short by her superiors. You, and your mother, were wronged by her, and you have every right to be offended, and stand up for your right not to be insulted.

Have a great day!

Answer 2

You are not being insensitive, your teacher was a jerk. A teacher should not say in that kind of public forum a comment in that kind of way.

I see you have a couple of choices - you could either consider the source (this teacher is a bit of a jerk) or you could make a stink.

You could approach the teacher and say that you didn't like what she said and how she said it. You could tell your parents and you could talk to the teacher or the principal.

Who does the recommending for advanced math? If you indeed were recommended, then get that person involved and get to the bottom of this.

I had a jerky teacher in fifth grade and my parents talked to her, the principal talked to her, but the problem was never solved. When my sister was about to start fifth grade, she was placed in this teacher's class. Only when my mom said she absolutely would not have another child in this teacher's class and wouldn't take no for an answer did my sister get transferred.

So be diligent with this, just because you're a kid doesn't mean you have to put up with jerky teachers, and good luck!

Answer 3

It was kinda pointless for her to drag this before the entire class, even if she kept your name confidential.

I can understand her annoyance - most parents think their child is special and deserves special treatment, and teachers get frustrated when so many people ask them to give preference to students who are no better or worse academically than the rest of the class. But it was still rude of her to release her frustrations before the entire class.

Tell your parents what she said, or talk directly with the teacher - let her know that while you respect her decision to not send you to a more advanced math class, you felt upset by her condescending tone and the unnecessary discussion of the topic before the entire class. You can also discuss the matter with the vice/principal - it's their job to manage how teachers behave.

Answer 4

If you KNOW you were recommended for advanced math, and the 'darling little child' wasn't recommended, what makes you think she was talking about you? Did one of your parents go in to talk about moving you to advanced math?
I think you're being oversensitive here. That doesn't mean the teacher was correct either - it isn't pro forma to refer to students in a derogatory manner, or to denigrate the interest of a parent.
But really, if you look at what you wrote, and match things up, it doesn't sound as though you were the target at all.

Answer 5

Your math teacher is a social moron. Not a handicap in the world of mathematics.

You, on the other hand, are being a bit too sensitive.

Go through channels. If you believe you should be in a more advanced class then contact the head of the school. But unless this teacher's remark is part of a larger pattern, you should let this incident go.

In mathematical terms : less is more.

Answer 6

She should not have said this in front of the entire class. That was rude of her.

(However, I do understand the comment. I worked in a school setting. Parents came in to complain that their child could not possibly be guilty of things that the school had said they were. Often, it was the kids who acted up most, who's parents were of the opinion that their child was above that.)

In your case, you know that you were recommended for the advanced class. So, get your straight A average, and prove her wrong. Or, go to the principal (along with your parents) and ask that the mixup be settled.

Answer 7

Your math teacher was rude, inappropriate, unprofessional and even a little hostile.

You should inform your mother of her actions and the two of you (you and your mother) should talk to the principle about this. You should also request to be transferred to another math class. With this sort of attitude, this teacher isn't going to treat you fairly. I definitely would not recommend letting this go. A teacher is supposed to behave in a mature, professional fashion, not like a petulant and spoiled child.

Answer 8

yes that was VERY rude, sounds to me that she is a little jealous even. I know i know, teachers shouldn't be jealous of their students, but it happens a lot. Especially if that teacher maybe struggle with math a lot when they were in school, or if that teacher feels threatened because you are soo smart. Instead of rewarding you for doing so well, they punish you. I would tell my parents, and address it with the principal. This is NOT something that should be tolerated. AT ALL.

Answer 9

I think she was being insensitive I wasn't there so Iam only judging the situation from what I have read,but I think she was being harsh and if you knew/had a strong feeling it was about you,then telling the whole class is pretty rude,I think you should tell your parents so that if she's like this in the future at least they know.-but bearing in mind your teacher may have just had a bad day,and it's not right,but she wanted to let it out,and you happened to be on the receiving end.

Answer 10

Maybe it wasn't you then.

If you truly believe that the comment was made at you, then no one has to know. If you just sit tight and bide your time, this will be all over in a matter of months.

However, whoever the comment was directed towards or about it was extremely unprofessional for your teacher to make a remark like that.