She is 17 and is pregnant. She wants to keep the baby but her mom wants her to get an abortion. Mother says she will kick my friend out of the house if she keeps the baby. Plus her mom is racist and the dad is a mixed guy, so she really doesn't want my friend to keep it. Now my friend feels aweful and is saying that it might be for the best if she got rid of the baby. How can I convince her that her mom can't legaly make her and that she should keep it if she wants it?
2007-08-30 09:05:30 · 21 answers · asked by .X.fang-tastic.X. 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
She called me this afternoon crying...she wants to keep this baby so bad... but her mom is demanding abortion
2007-08-30 09:13:16 · update #1
Give her this hotline: 1-800-395-HELP
They'll connect her to the nearest free pregnancy clinic, find a place for her to live, even help her pay for baby supplies! They can also go over adoption with her, if that's something she's considering.
Some of these answers have been just terrible- don't listen to them! You're doing the right thing sticking by your friend in this difficult time.
<3 Kelsey
2007-08-30 10:46:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kelsey H 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has every right to keep the baby. No one can make her have abortion. Taking on the responsiablly of someone else's choice to keep a baby is a big no,no. There are many place's you can go for help. Have your friend go to a free clinic, and be checked by a Doctor, first and now. Tell the Doctor what is going on, and let your friend make up their own mind what they want to do with there life. If she decided to keep the baby, yes she would have to move out, but she would have to move out anyways to provide for this child. Making a choice to move out should not be the bottom, sounds like they need to have there own life anyways. There is always a place for a pregnant mom. Our State has always made that possible.
2007-08-30 16:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Living Life 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a horrible mom!!! I got pregnant when I was 17 too, and my mom said that she wanted me to keep it because I would have a very hard time coping if I didn't. She supported me all the way. She is now 11 years old and I love her. My mom smiles everytime that she sees how beautiful her granddaughter is. Yes I graduated High School.
I don't think an abortion will help your friend out at all it will give her more problems she might have complications afterwards. My co-worker had an abortion, and now she cries for that child. Not just that she can't get pregnant and she's 45. She blames it on the abortion and the doctor that did it.
2007-08-30 16:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
If she is not in the right situation she should not keep the baby. You need to be financially stable and ready to take care of one. A child is not a pet. You can't just take it to the pound when you're done with it. She says she wants it? Can she afford to feed it? Buy those expensive diapers and a lot of food? Daycare?! She should re-think this. Her life will never be the same. No more girls nights out or dates. Things change when you have a baby. However, I am very much against abortion. She should think about adoption. There are many families out there who desperately want children and can't have them. She'd make their life so much happier if she blessed them with a child. Talk to her about this. She could possibly even do some kind of adoption where she keeps in contact with the baby every couple of months. They don't have to loose contact. It'd be a good choice. Tell her mom about this idea. She might consider it. Good luck to her and the little baby.
2007-08-30 16:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She cannot be forced to have an abortion, but her mother can legally kick her out of the house. If she wants to keep the baby then she needs to make a plan on where she is going to go when she is kicked out. I'm sure there are programs that can help her, have her contact a social worker.
Depending on the state, her mother CAN kick her out at 16, she should ask the social worker.
2007-08-30 16:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her mother can not make her get an abortion and can not kick her out until she is 18. She's a minor and her mother will be guilty of endangering the welfare of a minor. Just explain to your friend that her mother has no say in what she decides to do with her body and stand by her, she will need alot of love and support from her friends. Other than giving her that advice, you are best to stay out of the fight between her and her mother. Good luck to your friend.
2007-08-30 16:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by qυєєи of му cαsтlє ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Legally that is her baby and she has the right to keep it. No one can make you have an abortion... not to say that her mom can't kick her out, just talk to your friend and see if your parents would let her stay with you or if she could stay with someone else she knows. Good luck.
2007-08-30 16:12:19 · answer #7 · answered by ASHLEY D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's is so nice of you to help your friend... ok well ask your friend's mom if she wants to be responsible for taking a life off this earth... I mean that is what abortions are.. they are killing an innocent life... why would she want to punish an innocent little harmless baby for doing nothing... this baby didn't do anything ot her... try and tell her that.. I hope she keeps it tho... :)
2007-08-30 17:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by ♥colombianfia123♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest that your friend get in touch with a local church. They will put her in touch with people who will help her if she wants to keep the baby or put it up for adoption. She is clearly being pressured into making this life altering decision and she needs to realize that it is one that she will have to live with it the rest of her life. A lfetime of regret is a really long time. Good luck and God bless!!
2007-08-30 16:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by BERT 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The baby shouldn't pay for her mistake. If she wants to keep the baby she should be able to keep it. How does the baby's fathers parents feel about the situation?. Maybe she can move in with his family. She will never forgive herself if she aborts it. Her Mom is just afraid she will have to raise it.
2007-08-30 16:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by blessed1 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋