Why am I so sensitive?

Question

I feel like I have a problem being too sensitive. I am a friendly person and if I sometimes write a message to someone on myspace for example like an acquantaince to say hi etc. and they don't answer it hurts my feelings. I am like a big people pleaser and I want everyone to like me. If something says something that's not so nice about me, I feel awful. I wish I could just be like those people who rub it off, don't care, and move on.

someone says something*

Philosophy what a mean person you are.

Answer 1

because your a female!!!

Answer 2

There's "sensitive" and then there's "sensitive"! Wow! What a subject! "People pleaser..are you cancer,? They can be people pleasers, set everything up so nice and comfortable and cosy, but then they can often be very sensitive..in extreme cases, withdrawing into their "shell" for days.

But I think you are honest and open, and that's worth oodles, to get help and feedback from others.

Ideally we'd just like to be like this guy who's so drunk on "Happiness" and altruistically helping others that we can just sit under the table, and they can even kick us and we don't feel a thing, but in the real world of asphalt dreams,..It just don't work like that!

So you just gotta do the best you can and try and forgive 'em even if they really seem to have gone to "Jerk school".

On the other hand, that other kind of "sensitive" where everything buggs you and no-one can do anything "right" enough is just plain old criticalness, probably! Watch out for THAT one. John Wesley was quoted as saying, "Madam, That is a talent that you can afford to bury!"

Hope that helps, Wanna stay short!
Sionarra

Answer 3

Some people are just made more sensitive then others, you can't change who you are, but you can train yourself to not let it bother you so much. Sometimes people are busy runnign around in their lives and forget to get back to others, most don't mean to be mean or disrespectful, they just forget or think gee i'll call back later and they forget. It happens all the time, don't take it personal just call them again. Understand that you can't make everyone in this world like you, as long as you like yourself cause thats all that really counts. People talk bad about others for all sorts of reasons from jealousy to ignorance and no one likes being talked about so if you know that they are talking about you or saying nasty things confront the matter and figure out if its their jealousy or their ignorance.
Also remember that there are some just plain mean people out there who take pleasure in hurting people. Like yourself and don't worry about the rest of the world.

Answer 4

I am a people pleaser too, and it made me pretty sensitive if people werent always happy with me! Especially towards my parents. I used to feel like my parents love was conditional - meaning I had to live up to certain standards they pushed on me, or else they wouldn't love me. I've gotten to the point after much anxiety that I realized I can no longer let what other people think, say or do to me make me feel like scum. I've been on a long journey to discover what i'm all about. My likes, dislikes, etc. Now I no longer (or remind myself), that if that person doesn't like me than there missing out, not me.

Answer 5

I am sensitive too. When people say a joke about me, I take it seriously and feel hurt until they say they were joking. When I talk on my messenger and say something and the person I am talking to just says "o" or "oh", I feel offended and get really annoyed. I also feel awful when I'm talking to someone online and they take a long time to respond. I totally know how you feel. I think we just need to toughen up. Everybody has people that like them and people who don't like them, even the nicest of people.

Answer 6

probably because you expect the same from others that you give.
I could tell you to try and not be sensitve, to remember there are more important things in the world besides a message on myspace, however, you can't just change something like that over night. Next time you feel like you're being "too sensitve" take a step back, a deep breath, and say "you know what? it's okay, I'm going to be okay."

Answer 7

If people dont respond your greetings it doesnt mean that they dont like you. There are so many reasons for not responding like some people are too lazy or busy to reply while soe have the habit of not responding at all. There are different kinds of people and dont be sensitive by what people says.Be yourself and don't care what other say about you. Some people have the habit of searching minor mistakes of others while they dont see their own. So dont care and walk on your own path.

Answer 8

Being to sensitive can be a problem, i have been through similar...

You soon learn to harden up and ignor those people that are really thougthless of others feelings.

You cant go around trying to please everyone, some people are just naturally grumpy and do whatever they can to make the people around them un-happy too.

Live life for yourself - make yourself happy and if others are at the same time - well good on em!

Answer 9

Some people are just more sensitive than others. Not much you can do about it except focus on the positive. You are probably more likely to consider other peoples feelings in the decesions you make and this will make the friendships you have that much stronger. Focus on the positive and the negative won't seem so negative.

Answer 10

I used to be like you. I would honor birthdays and other special days for friends with cards, etc. and sometimes they would not even acknowledge it! I was always getting my feelings hurt. But then, I learned a very important lesson. What was I doing it for? Who was I doing the good deed for? Me or them? Was I so lonely and in need of having someone to boost my ego that I was sending the wrong message? I eventually got over it. I began to study the Word and really get into what "LOVE' means. If you have to have someone to always 'like' you - it means that you have not learned yet, how to like and love yourself. You will learn that you don't need people to validate or approve you. You have to love you first and then you will not feel the need to have to please everybody all the time. It's not about that you 'don't care', but you learn to focus your energies in other directions. Don't be like other people - just learn to be like yourself.

Answer 11

Okay-been there myself most of my life. You are a caring and loving person and you are neglecting the most important person you will ever come to know. That person is yourself. Get to know "her" and be her best friend. Before long you'll find that you can value yourself enough to withstand whatever anyone else says about you. Suggested reading materials:
When I say no I feel guilty by Manuel Smith and I'm O.K. Your O.K.
Now why would that merit a thumbs down? Good thing I value my self and my opinion over people who thumbs down it. 8:)