I live in student accomodation. Most people who know me know I'm a christian. I'm still a virgin. There's guy who lives in my building. I wouldn't like him for a long term relationship. But I would like to sleep with him. I'm a virgin..but it's because I don't really date and the one guy I did date wanted to wait. If I sleep with this guy, are people going to think less of me? Or judge me because as a christian I should be more ethical? I'm 24 years old. One of my friends was talking to me assuming I would wait for marriage and trying to convince me to only wait for love..the funny thing is I'm not sure I can even wait for love..I'm sick of waiting for love. I'm starting to doubt it's going to happen.
2007-08-30 08:38:38 · 37 answers · asked by shaomit 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
lol...I love tempests answer..not the best answer but funny in that there is no way. I would like there to be at least some resemblance to a relationship. I have actually joined ALT.com, but I've (thankfully) got past that stage of foolhardyness.
2007-08-30 09:45:44 · update #1
If you want to do it just do it. You don't owe anybody else anything. If they don't like it then tough. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks.
2007-08-30 08:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well, I went to a Christian college and I know how rumors FLY around the campus. If he is a man of honor, he will tell no on about it, but that is a gamble that could get you kicked out of school if it does not pay off for you. Don't risk it.
I can TOTALLY understand you not wanting to wait any longer for sex. Not a problem. BUT, I do recommend that you reconsider your choice in men for this task.
Since you have pretty well decided that you ARE going to have sex and soon, I recommend that you do one of the following:
1. Go to a neighboring town to a dance club or a bar and look for a possible "mate".
2. Set up an account on Alt.com or Adultfriendfinder.com to find a partner there.
I recommend that you go AWAY from the town where your college is located, just to prevent being seen.
And, whatever you do, MAKE CERTAIN THAT YOU USE CONDOMS!!!
Good luck!
2007-08-30 08:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by tempest_twilight2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're a Christian doesn't mean you can't have sex. It's a personal decision. If you want to make that decision because of God or values, then that's cool. But if you want to make the decision for other reasons (being ready, etc.), then that is cool, too.
I do have a question for you, though. Why this guy? If you don't want to have a long-term relationship with him, then why sleep with him? Is it just to get past this hurdle? The bigger question is: If you sleep with him and it's just casual, are you going to get hurt? Are you going to want more than a casual relationship or a one-night stand?
If you are okay with casual or a one-time thing, then follow your feelings.
Good luck with your decision!
2007-08-30 08:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by BellasMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
.I know that you are sick of waiting but it is worth the wait. If you sleep with him ar anyone else before marriage. You will create a soul tie with this man,he will not respect you and there is no turning back once you make this decision. God want you to stay faithful, if you stay faithful when you do marry the man you marry will be faithful. Don't wind up in a relationship the will follow you the rest of your life and it will be a unending nightmare. I know for I'm a christian also and have been where you are trying to go. Believe me in the name of Jesus don't do it. Wait for marriage and pray to God for the right mate. It's not what people think of you but what would God think if you did this. Love, real love is worth waiting for. You are not missing out. but if you do there are great consequences that will even affect your children. pray girl that you be not tempted . gwl
2007-08-30 10:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Gwl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Doubtless, some people will judge you. But people will *always* judge you. Decide what you want for you, and do it. Whether that means waiting until marriage or doing every guy in the dorm.
I will say this: loosing your virginity is a big, big step. You'll feel better later if you do it with a person you feel something for. He doesn't have to be The One, but don't just throw down with the first guy who doesn't disgust you. Trust me here, I know whereof I speak.
2007-08-30 08:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In this question you raise many concerns and ideas. I feel that the most honest answer I can give you is one that isn't very helpful.
1. Forget about what everyone else thinks of you.
2. What you do is ONLY between you and God to judge.
3. Love comes in its own time. It is nothing you can force.
4. Don't settle for less than what you deserve.
2007-08-30 08:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your virginity is the greatest gift you can give your future husband. When you have sex with a man you don't truly love, you give something away that you can never get back.
I think if you do sleep with this guy you will think less of yourself.
I'm 21 and I waited to have sex until I was married. I'm a Christian too and was taught that my body is a temple.
Don't give away your virginity!
2007-08-30 08:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well the thing is, if you're one of those Christians who preaches to people all the time and judges others on decisions you disagree with, then yes you'll be jeopardizing that if people find out...and it's likely that they will. People talk.
On the other hand, who cares what people think. Why live your life worrying about what others think. Start enjoying life and make decisions based on what YOU want to do!
2007-08-30 08:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by luckygurl284 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it is one person, just dont go sleeping with everyone. Who does not have sex, most people dont wait for marriage and you are 24 years old if you would like to have sex with a boy then go for it. Just dont make a big deal out of it and others will not either.
2007-08-30 08:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can do whatever you please but before you do, consider these things -
You are special.
There is only one of you in the world.
God put care into making you.
He has been with you always and you love Him for it.
You're a Christian.
You are worth someone dying for you.
You have waited 24 years so, your virginity is special.
Give it to the person who deserves it, the man who loves you, the man whom you love, the man who completes you, your husband, that's the reason you kept it.
2007-08-30 08:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by brainbox 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends where you live and how men perceive about sex and marriage and virginity .
If you are in where true love don't see virginity as main reason to fall in love and true commitment.
It is wait which is kill you to meet and sex is on overdrive. Control your self first on sex and then take time out think on it. Sex is not bad it is your mind makes it bad.
can you handle after this and be cool about this
You should not take decision under sexual urge or religion or society.
2007-08-30 08:53:06 · answer #11 · answered by Jazzy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋