grandma hates me?

Question

im 15. i havent seen grandma for 2 weeks. i usually see her once a week. she never calls me because she is always busy. i always have to call her. i havent called her for a week and she still wont call me. i left dozens of voicemails and she wont return my calls. i hate it when she neglects me. i cry every night because i miss her. everyday i sit home bored and everyday is wasted because i sit around waiting for grandma to call. tomorrow im gonna wait around for grandma. how can i make her call me? when i talk to her next, she will say "what havent you been calling me?" then what do i say?

Answer 1

Are you serious?

Answer 2

This may come as a surprise... but.... Grandma has a life. Maybe she's busy. I can't believe you are sitting and waiting for your grandma to call. At 15 you should have friends, and a life of your own. You should be so busy being a teenager doing teenager things, like school, hanging out a the Mall, boy friends, dates, parties, this should keep you busy enough, that you wouldn't worry when grandma is out doing her own thing. When she has time to call, she will call. If you have time to call her and she's not there to answer the phone, leave a message and let her know you are thinking of her and looking forward for a visit or call.

Answer 3

What you need to start doing is one day a week ... pick a day... Most use the Sunday Morning. Pick a time...not too late but early morning. Then let her now that you have been trying to call her and now you have decided to use a SPECIAL time one day a week on a SPECIAL hour to call her. If she misses it - she then can call you ... if that is missed tell her she will hear from you again on that same day and that same hour. So really you need to find the perfect time she will be home always, so she does not miss it.... Maybe in the Evening sometime after dinner. But This is where i would start and this is what I would tell her because you have made a great effort and gave up a lot to do that. I wish you luck.

Answer 4

Let your grandmother know that you have been persistent and tried to call her but she has been very busy and must have missed your calls.

I understand your love and devotion to your grandmother, but you're 15 .... why are you sitting still just waiting on grandma? Grandma is living her life and is going and doing and you need to get busy doing some of the things that you enjoy too in this way you won't have to sit and fret and wait on Grandma.

It is evident Grandma has something going on to keep her interest and has distracted her and she needs and has a life, she isn't sitting there waiting for phone calls so why are you sitting there waiting to make a phone call?

Get some activties, some fun and excitement in your life. Life is worth living so live it!!

Answer 5

Why do you care? She's old. And 2 weeks is nothing. Go hang out with friends, don't be bored. If she's busy then more power to her. She has a life, let her live it. As for the guilt thing, tell her you did try to call her...since your efforts proved futile you thought you'd give her the space to call you when she felt it was a convenient time. If you're not home when she calls then call her back. At least then you'll know she wants to talk to you. My grandparents are the same. You need to train them to respect you. Respect goes two ways.

Answer 6

I'm sure that your grandma doesn't hate you. Maybe she is busy and needs space. She could also not be checking her voice mail messages. Instead of worrying about your grandma calling you, why don't you play a sport, join a club, or hang out with a friend. If she doesn't call within a few days, than maybe you should visit her with a relative or ask a friend if she is alright. Good luck.

Answer 7

that is really sad! I'm sure she must be busy. Maybe you should make her something really nice and go over there and give it to her. And then you should definately sit down and talk to her about what's one your mind, she will listen, and she'll tell you the truth. If she still works, she could be very busy, also, old people like routine , a lot, she is used to YOU calling her, so she may be thinking to herself, "well, I figured she wouldn't want to come over here and hang out ALL the time, she's 15 years old!" Becuase a lot of teens stop spending time with their families around your age, they are more into friends. So don't fret, a suprise visit will do the trick!

Answer 8

Did you have a fight with her? backanswer her? If that is true, it might be that she needs a bit of time to cool off. but what you are doing is the best ... leaving her voice messages. I do hope that the lady is ok. Not answering the phone, could be because she is ill.. if she lives on her own. I do hope you make up with Grandma. It is n't nice when someone you love falls out with you. We all suffer that from time to time, and then envy the rest of the world who we " think " has everything going perfectly.

Answer 9

i really feel bad for you because i've always told my kid's the day i become a grandma and you need me to babysit i'll do it in a heart beat i would always pay attetion to my grandkids so if i were you tell your grandma why she acts this way with you? i mean you say she's busy but she cant be that busy not to answer your calls that's plain out rude you have to have a very good talk with your grandma about your feelings good luck.. i wish you the best...

Answer 10

She's probably not neglecting you. She's busy like you said and she'll get back to you as soon as possible Im sure. Don't wait around. That'll only make you think about her more and cause you to miss her more. So just enjoy your day to day life. hang out with your friends and stuff. maybe they can help you not feel so lonely and excluded.

Answer 11

How old is she?
It sounds like she may be in the early stages of mild dimentia. She really might not tremember that she hasn't contacted you. Be patient with her. She probably doesn't hate you. She may be frustrated. Can you visit her?
Leave pleasant messages on her machine. Like:
Hi Grandma. Just called to say Iove you.