or would they rather just be childless forever and live the good life? is it depressing for them to have a child? it sucks. guys say they cheat and act like jerks because the natural instinct to "spread their seed", but once they have an offspring on the way, they dont want anything to do with it. why??
2007-08-30 08:16:28 · 17 answers · asked by Me 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Honey, sounds like you've been hurt. It's true there are a lot of jerks out there but you can't judge them all based on the jerks. Any guy that cheats & makes an excuse for it is immature & doesn't care about anyone but himself... which should make it obvious that if he had a child he wouldn't want anything to do with it. All I can say is I'm sorry if you're the one stuck in this situation. There are plenty of great guys out there who'd love to be faithful & have a family with the woman they love. Bottom line: some father's don't care & some do. It really depends on the guy.
However, on the flipside I could ask you some questions about why women do things too. I know a situation where a girl was so hell bent on getting pregnant that she didn't really care how she got that way. Well, she finally did get pregnant by a great guy who's been trying to help our but she's the one refusing the help & has told people lies about him since day one. I have no clue why she does it & I've tried talking some sense into her but... anyway, just don't hate all guys because of one jerk. I hope things turn out better for you than they are now. Good luck honey!!!
2007-08-30 08:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Love Me or Hate Me... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about everyone else but my husband wants this baby that's on the way and is pretty mad that he is in the navy and missing alot of my pregnancy and that he isn't going to be at the appointments with me and worried that he isn't going to be there to see the birth and really pissed that he had to go on deployment when the baby is 6 months old. So Not all guys are jerks and cheat...Alot do and probably because they are immature....Me and my husband are young he is 23 and I'm 21 and have been trying for a baby for 2 years so i disagree with your statement..Not all men are like that...
2007-08-30 15:25:24 · answer #2 · answered by NavyWife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it really depends on the man that you have chosen. I know that my husband was at least as thrilled as I was with all three if not more. He was there through everything and cried and cried when our children were born. Not every man can be labeled to be a jerk. Though there are plenty out there, there are good guys too!
2007-08-31 03:59:30 · answer #3 · answered by jhg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its the guys and the situation my Baby Dad aka Bd was super excited to have a baby he went to every Dr appt and all that now our son is 6 he is still around for first day of school and so on. He is still a cheating jerk but what can we really do about that. And I know alot of dad's who love being around their kids they just hate they're Bm aka baby mama's
2007-08-30 15:25:46 · answer #4 · answered by MYAB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know there are some a$$holes out there but not all men are like this!! My hubby was excited from the day he found out I was prego. He went to every ultrasound with me. He was there from the moment I went into labor he was in the delivery room and he would just die without his little girls. they are both of our life's and the reasons we get up in the morning! He doesn't want to have anymore he is more then happy with his 2 lil girls!
2007-08-30 15:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by mother of twin girls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just finding the wrong males. Thats not a man. My hubby loves his children, loves my children and loves our child together. Hes a wonderful father and they are his number one priority and he tells anyone that asks that. Its not him and I its the kids. He was there at the births of his first two children (which we have full custody of) and he was there at my 4 year olds birth ( i met him when i was 2 months pregnant) and he was there at our sons birth who is now 2 months. He was very involved and still is. hes a great father and theres alot of men out there that care deeply about their children
2007-08-30 15:26:33 · answer #6 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't answer for all men, but my hubby is a great dad- and he loves his kids more than anything.
Just like anything else, some guys are jerks and selfish and immature. Being a dad really has nothing to do with it.
2007-08-30 15:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by P&Rsmommy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not all father's feel like that. My husband works his tail off to support me and our four children and when he is home he is always playing with the kids or taking our oldest to school. This guy sounds like a complete jerk, but rest assured their are good ones out there!
2007-08-30 15:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Andrew my partner was there for the birth of our sons, I never saw a man cry so much!!
So he always been there for the boys as well as me, and never had so mch as a wandering eye.
I think it would be some mens maturity levels, as why they leave. Losers!! But there are some good guys out there
2007-08-30 16:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by *Charli* Mamma Di Gemini's 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have had a bad experience with a man! I assure you most "Daddies" are not that way.
My husband was absolutely giddy when he became a daddy! He was right there in the delivery room snapping photos and once our son arrived my husband told me "alright, you already got to carry him for nine months...now I get him for nine months" lol My husband and our son have a fantastic relationship with each other.
2007-08-30 15:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by western b 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋