We've been together for a year...he wants to live together before getting married, but I really don't. Ever since I was a little girl I've been planning in one way or another my wedding. It's very important to me! I think he's mostly concerned about money. But I would get married in my backyard, no ring, no cake kind of wedding and it would be the best thing ever, because I just love him so much and want to do the vows, and not to mention we are planning on going to the Peace Corps in 2009. Nothings final or anything, we haven't even put in our papers, but we HAVE to be married to do this. He knows it, so why isn't he asking me to marry him? SO, I was thinking of asking him! I'm not this type of girl, but we're very open with one another, and was thinking of doing it in more of a "Hey, I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you. I can't think of a single reason why we shouldn't start planning a wedding." Guys, what would be your response to this? Girls opinions welcome!
2007-08-30 08:01:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Bad idea.
You said it yourself, he knows you HAVE to be married, and yet he hasn't asked you. No matter what his reason is, that fact is that he HAS a reason.
If you ask him you'll be pressuring him into something he's not ready for. You are obviously ready; he is not. It has to be up to him.
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2007-08-30 08:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Chewie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not certain how old you are, but I would recommend that you wait until you're at least 23 before you consider marriage.
It sounds to me that your man is uncertain, possibly afraid of such a large commitment. I would advise you to live together for about 1 year before you make a final decision.
That way, you can get an idea of what it will be like to live with him for the rest of your life. In my honest opinion, don't pop the question just yet.
Think it over; this is the bigest decision you will make in your life.
2007-08-30 08:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Carefree Alpaca! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you would do anything to be married. dont ask him. dont live with him. he is far too young and you sound extremely unrealistic. you could say, where do you see our relationship going in the next two years but no more. you would have no cake no ring no real wedding and you would tell him that it is because you want to get married right now, dont you have any family or money? do whatever you like but if you ask him to plan a wedding with you he might say sure to shut you up, but dont expect him to agree to any real date for it.
2007-08-30 08:51:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I highly suggest you move in together before you marry. There could be things about him that will annoy the crap out of you that later on you wont be able to stomach. Then if you dont see marriage in the picture anymore you can break up and there wont be a messy divorce. Or he could see something in you that he just doesn't see you as wife material, but you could be just a practice girlfriend. good luck
2007-08-30 08:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by ron197192064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be dating longer, like two years.
There's nothing wrong with the woman doing the asking, but personally, I would really miss not having an engagement ring... for the symbolism, not the bling factor. Another reason women usually wait for the man to ask, is that you then know for SURE that he's serious and ready.
2007-08-31 04:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't you think he has has thought about asking you and would rather live with you to see if you are compatible. i think you should not ask because if he really wanted to married he would have eluded to marriage to you already without wanting to move in together first. he's hesitating for a reason so you should find out the answer to that before you go ahead and ask him to marry you
2007-08-30 10:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by Tee G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound really young. Give it more time. The fact that you've been planning your wedding doesn't mean it's the right time to get married.
He isn't asking you to marry him because he's not ready yet. End of story.
2007-08-30 08:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by Courtney 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You seem young and boderline desperate.
He's not asking you to marry him because it's not 2009 yet!
What about start planning your life and as independat and mature adult rather than to put your teenage boyfriend on the spot. Please.
Good luck
2007-08-30 08:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
persoanlly i think you should wait until your man does the job.. it will be taking away from a very important part of his life if you do- my husband always tell me how that's the best day of his life (that i said yes...)
so wait- be patient
2007-08-30 08:10:58 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think girls propsing is a bad idea. let him do it.
2007-08-30 08:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋