Does your perception of someone's appearance alter as you get to know them? Especially in a negative way? Or can you overlook the bad traits if they're easy on the eye?
2007-08-30 07:57:22 · 69 answers · asked by tilly 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For me yes, its like having a ferrari with a **** interior, it may be nice to look at, but terrible to be with...in my opinion when I call a girl beautiful i am not only describing her looks, i am describing her personality
2007-08-30 08:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Personality affects people in different ways. and the personality make-up of that person is what keeps a relationship/ friendship going.
The whole overlooking the bad trait thing may work at first, especially during the so called "honeymoon period" where every bad thing is blindsided. However, after the period, say from weeks to a month or two, people tend to get down to realistic facts. they want somebody who knows them personally, who attends to their needs and wants. So your answer can be both YES and No. Yes to the initial period, and no later on, depending on how long you can withstand the girl's attitude.
Personally speaking, it does affect my perception of a person as the conversations ease into the next level, say after the initial meeting. Personalities can be revealed through just normal day actions and behavior, say attitude toward servers, word usage and simple kind gestures- smile!
pretty is subjective, and it doesnt last forever. you want someone, even a friend, who sticks with you till the end, and not just indulging in their beauty.
Good luck!
2007-08-30 08:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes. Completely would find someone less attractive if they were not a good person, and would find someone more attractive as I got to know them and they were a great person. I would not overlook bad traits if they were easy on the eye. There is no use in being with someone who is not a good person.
2007-08-30 08:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Outside appearance can only take you so far, it's how you are as a person that leaves a lasting impression.
I knew this really cute guy at school, who even the strait guys had a thing for, but it turns out that he was a real tool. All of his appeal pretty much just went out the window after that.
2007-08-30 08:01:55 · answer #4 · answered by AnarchyONtheSHORTbus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, definitely ...
It happens all the time. The perception of someone alters in a negative or in a positive way depending on the personality.
2007-08-30 08:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by NA 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Many times, it is looks that initially get us started talking to someone. If they are really attractive, but mean or have no substance, then their looks start to matter much less. If they are super sweet, then they start to look a lot better. I would bet that most people would say that for a LASTING relationship, personality is way more important than looks! I know for me, if I can't get past the attitude, then the exterior is much less appealing.
2007-08-30 08:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by CuitePie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, deffinitely. And I can prove it.
After a woman get's a man's ATTENTION (which usually takes zero-point-five seconds) she MUST pay attention to her BEHAVIOR.
Because a woman's BEHAVIOR is the ONLY thing that matters as to whether or not the guy will be interesting in sticking around.
The only kind of 'guy' who treats a woman based on how "easy on the eye she is" . . . is a WUSSY.
BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY -->> Think of Paris Hilton.
It wasn't her great LOOKS that put her in PRISON.
It was her OWN, LOUSY BEHAVIOR.
And that is NOT attractive.
The judge gets 100 Mantastic points.
:)
2007-08-30 08:09:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. 99% of the time that's how they all are. But there are some that are pretty inside and out. But character is what counts. If you stay with someone that looks hot and has a bitchy attitude, and you end up staying with em your gonna be sorry. Pretty people are o.k to **** and so are the average, but it's sooo much better to stay with the average.
2007-08-30 08:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Ivy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question!
I definately think that negative personality traits can make a person seem less physically attractive!
I guess it matters what you are doing with that person. An attractive co-worker can be less so if they are mean, but if it's just a booty call, then who cares, right?
That's why I never make the mistake of getting to know any of the women I'm with! (Just joking!)
2007-08-30 08:01:47 · answer #9 · answered by Frinn 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people definitly want to be with someone NICE, even if they are beautiful. You may be able to deal with an asshole for a few weeks but after you get used to her looks, the way she is on the inside is way more important. Especially if your looking for a relationship!
2007-08-30 08:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finding out that a person is not a very nice person doesn't make them "look bad" persay, but it does make them less desireable. Especially to be around if they are an anushole all of the time.
2007-08-30 08:02:45 · answer #11 · answered by Moe_Fugga 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋