I lived with this girl for 2 years we actually moved to Boston together so I thought so was a good friend, nope. I got engaged Sat and was texting everyone. Everyone I called me back but her to ask how did it happen? I talked to her earlier in the day before it happened and she sounded depressed so did not want to make her worse and brag, plus she told me she was true drunk to call anyways and was having a rough time with the news. She said she didn't think she was suppose to call. Why can't she be happy for her friend? I was even going to have her as a bridemaid but not anymore, not a good friend.
2007-08-30 06:11:12 · 18 answers · asked by Kelsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am always helping her and listen to her but then when it is time to talk about me she does not wanna here it, so I am not selfish people. Just this one time I wanted her happy for me,
2007-08-30 07:06:43 · update #1
Why do you keep asking this question? This is like post number 4 for you on this same topic. Get over it and don't be friends with her!
2007-08-30 06:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
You keep asking and asking this same question. Are you looking for us to shower you with fairy dust, too?
Your friend was depressed. She was drunk. Would you have preferred that she call you and say something that would have embarrassed both of you in the cold light of morning? Do you honestly think the fact that you're getting married somehow means everyone in the vicinity must put all their personal problems on hold for your big day and the entire year leading up to it?
Get over yourself. Your friend was in pain when you texted her. Someone else's good news can be salt in the wound to someone who's suffering already; it's not an automatic cure.
If you are really selfish enough to cut off a friendship over something as petty as her not responding to your happy news quickly enough for your satisfaction, then she's better off without you. A true friend would be a lot more worried about what made her so depressed that night than how much her life isn't All About You.
So be a crappy excuse for a person and cut her out of your life or be a good friend and find out what's troubling her.
Either way, you've had plenty of advice on this question. Until you're ready to ask for some help in helping her or on some other unrelated question, it's probably best that you not waste more points on griping about how you don't feel loved because one person was too unhappy already that night to gush over you.
2007-08-30 13:37:30 · answer #2 · answered by gileswench 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I know this has obviously upset you. But you really do need to get over it. You are going to be a BRIDE not a QUEEN. The world does not have to bow at your feet. I'm sure you have more important things to be getting hung up over rather than a friend not calling you. You can't make her be happy for you and if she isn't and she is depressed maybe you should be a little supportive her.
It goes both ways - she probably feels you are abandoning her in a time when she really needs someone.
I'm sure she didn't do this to purposely hurt you. If she is having a hard time she will be having alot of trouble being happy for other people.
If you are this cut up about it don't be friends with her.
please don't ask this question again
2007-08-30 19:25:34 · answer #3 · answered by Roxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was already having a bad day, you can't expect her to jump for joy. Part of her is probably sad because she isn't getting married, because you'll be getting married and leaving, etc. So she probably cares much more than you realize. The world doesn't start revolving around you and your feelings just because you got engaged. Talk to her, find out what's bugging her so much. Just because she isn't engaged doesn't mean she's any less important than you. A diamond ring doesn't make you important.
I just read your Q about the friend of your fiancee's who proposed. SO WHAT? IT IS NOT ALL ABOUT YOU TWO. Maybe him ring shopping kind of made him decide to get her a ring. Maybe he had thought about it but wasn't sure, and when ring shopping, decided he was ready....The two of you are absolutely selfish and probably horrid friends the way the two of you obsess over the stupidest things.
2007-08-30 16:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There has been no update. This isn't even a question. You're just writing the same thing over and over and over.
You said she has sounded depressed. Well, she is probably suffering from...depression. It has nothing to do with you so stop being so arrogant.
Anyway, if it was such a big deal, why did you not call her (you said she was supposed to be a good friend, right?) instead of sending out a bunch of impersonal texts?
2007-08-30 14:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I still think she's a good friend...she's upset and depressed...she doesn't necessarily want to hear about your good fortune--can't you understand that? I know this is an exciting time for you, but honestly, everyone else's life is just as it was before you got engaged. I think if you were a good friend, you wouldn't be so quick to write someone off like that.
2007-08-30 13:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She didn't call you....so what? She was drunk and decided not to call...big deal. When I told my best friend of my engagement, she expressed happiness, but also some sadness at losing her wingman. Some people think of an engement and impending wedding as losing a close friend. You should put in some effort to assure her that you two will still be close...otherwise, it's you whose not being a good friend...getting so angry at her reaction like that.
2007-08-30 13:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like SHE should drop YOU as a friend.
BFD she didn't call you to ask how it happened.
She was DEPRESSED, you should have talked to her and got her out of that funk!
So, stop being selfish that she didn't pull herself out of her depression long enough to be happy for you.
Did you find out WHY she was depressed when you called her earlier???
I didn't realize it was a requirement to call, since you didn't bother calling her, you just TEXTED. Which IMO means you do not have to reply immediately.
Sounds like YOU are the one that isn't the good friend.
2007-08-30 13:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
What the heck is she supposed to do, throw you a parade?
Just because you're getting married doesn't mean everyone has to congratulate you and fawn all over you. Maybe she was having a bad day, or maybe she doesn't like you or your fiance(e).
YOU are the one who sounds like a bad friend here, because you're only concerned with why this person didn't heap attention and praise on you. Instead of being angry that you didn't get more attention, how about being CONCERNED for your friend in case something is wrong in her life?
2007-08-30 13:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by BeatriceBatten 7 · 12⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you're posting this again? I can't believe you're so bent out of shape about this when you're getting married.
You know, people have other things going on in their lives and sometimes those things are a lot more immediate. If you were a good friend to HER, you'd realize that.
Get over yourself, and maybe reach out to HER with some support.
2007-08-30 13:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by Bill 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to be a good friend and help her through the hard time she is having instead of getting upset that she didnt throw you a parade! Seriously, maybe you need to talk to her because there could be alot going on in her life and well being alone isnt going to help!!!
2007-08-30 13:47:45 · answer #11 · answered by RedSoxRock!!! 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋