im 15 and i've got parents who are immigrants from india.. they're all bout having a perfect education and marrying someone of the same race & religion.they never let me go out with friends unless they absolutely know them and they're parents. and knowing a boy is Satan to them. now that i'm in high school i think its time they start letting go. but how can i do that?
2007-08-30 05:52:19 · 6 answers · asked by EmOESKiMo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Start by doing small things to earn their respect and trust. Then you can convince them that you are responsible.
2007-08-30 06:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by Tonyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite your friends to your house so your parents can get to know them. Then get your parents to meet their parents. Once they meet some US parents, they will get more used to how things are done here. But don't expect them to loosen up totally. Any responsible parent should have rules and limits.
Maybe when you have several friends over, you can include a couple of boys. Don't make it a boyfriend thing, just a friend thing.
I know almost everybody in high school wants a boyfriend or girlfriend, but this isn't really necessary. You know you are not ready to choose a mate yet. What you really need is good friends.
2007-08-30 13:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience Indian parents are very tough and they don't give an inch. I think you're really stuck, you can try your best to explain that you're now in high school and you'd like to go out a little more and have some fun. Try to get involved in groups at school, that way you have an excuse to get out of the house, go to as many sporting events as possible, this will help you get if out and meet more people.
Good luck, I feel for you, just remember to not get too upset and to take it slowly, don't rebel against them, also if you have good grades use that for your advantage.
2007-08-30 13:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by mindseye06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
good luck! im 22 with immigrant parents and i still have that problem. The're as strict now as they were when i was 15. i have good grades, they know my friends and their parents really well. ive basically led a double life, lied to them my whole life and it looks like i'll be doing it for the rest of my life. i say start pushing at an early age, rebel and yes u will be shunned and hated and maybe cut off or disowned but thats the only way...dont wait too long!
2007-08-30 23:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by Diana c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your parents really love you.
2007-09-03 12:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by happy@50 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm...
talk to them,
if they arent reasonable...
lie.
2007-08-30 13:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by wowzies 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋