Why do guys always try to get some from girls right away, and when the girl actually gives it up, b/c we think thats what yall want, you ditch us???????? How does that make any sense?
2007-08-30 05:39:17 · 39 answers · asked by Beautiful Blonde 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
IM NOT saying giving it up the first time a guy asks, but when is the appropriate time to actualy do that with out having somebody thinking you are a slut..???????????????????????
2007-08-30 05:48:34 · update #1
ok this 1st girl right here, has no idea what she is even talking about, im not even talking about a specific experience of mine, you dumb ***, i just meant in general.
2007-08-30 06:16:24 · update #2
Such a great question and even though Im not a guy I have tons of guy friends. And this is the answer I got. They dont want a girl that is going to give it up on the first atempt. Its too easy and its not worth calling that girl because they dont want to have anything to do with you. They treat women like sluts. So my advice quit giving yourself to men just because you think thats what they want. You need to do what you want to because its what you want not them. Then you wouldnt be worried about them calling you the next day!! You wouldnt give **** because you used them. Just look out for yourself. If you want a chance wtih a man dont sleep with him the first time you go out. Make it fun a chase. Get to know each other.
2007-08-30 05:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by HottShorty78 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
It makes a LOT of sense actually when you think about it.
Guy who "try to get some from girls right away" are ONLY looking "to get some". Thats it. Thats all they want from the "relationship". They are being pretty straight forward about it. They want to have sex with you. No hidden agenda... Its pretty up front.
Its up to you to decide if thats what you want as well. If you don't.. then tell him. Once he knows you will not give him any he will move on. the end result is the same either way.. he WILL move on.
If you are looking to date someone who isn't just looking "to get some". Try changing where you hang out... chances are you will meet a different class of guy.
2007-08-30 05:47:55 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There she is well on her way to being a bitter man hating cat lady... Few things annoy me more than girls who pretend that sex is enjoyable only for the guy.
Look he didn't "get some". What are you a sex toy he bought online? The reality is you both had sex and unless you were stupid it was enjoyable for you too.
Stop trying to find a way to be some poor little victim. You had sex, by the way sex is fun, and now you want to act like someone robbed you at gunpoint.
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And "in general" is exactly why your post is ridiculous. You're generalizing. Take responsibility for your own actions. Stop wrapping sex up in some faerie princess fantasy and you'll realize it's actually supposed to be fun. I know it can be shocking to hear but your grandma was wrong it isn't just a way to get a ring on your finger.
In the end you're guaranteed to pick some other whiner as the best answer and frankly I couldn't care less. The fact is that you and a whole lot of others are living in the Victorian era as far as sex is concerned. If you grow up about sex you'll stop walking around springloaded to feel like a victim.
2007-08-30 05:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by T Loiselle 1 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Because 90% of the time if a guy doesn't try they will not get any. Think back to every first time you have had. Now think, how many of those were you the aggressor all the way through. Not just a sign that it is a go ahead. Most guys don't catch signals.
2007-08-30 05:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by specail ed 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
People are designed to reproduce its only natural. Men are wired differently though to where that is pretty much all they think about. Women need to be aware that is typically all men are after and abstain from having sex with them until they are married (ideally) or at least in a stable relationship but women have the same desires as men.
2007-08-30 05:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It makes perfect sense if all they are interested in is sex.
You're fighting the evolutionary urge to reproduce. For male humans, it makes sense to knock up as many women as you can. Women don't have the same desire for quantity of random partners simply because if they succeed, they're devoting more resources (at least 9 months!) to the process.
Yeah, society makes it a lot more complicated - but ultimately most guys have a visceral urge to screw many different women. Their ability to supress this urge is a measure of their level of civilization.
2007-08-30 05:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by Elana 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
okay, for the last f***ing time, don't generalize.
i do not ever, and have never, tried to "get some" from a girl right away. it is a low, scummy thing to do, and frankly, it cheapens the relationship from the get-go. that being said, i've been with my gf for three years, and STILL have not had sex with her, BY CHOICE.
as for the girls who get dumped, when you give it up to a guy right away, regardless of why you do it, of course he's going to dump you. for one of two reasons.
either a) that was all he was after, and since you just offered it up, he took it and ran
or
b) he thinks you have absolutely no respect for your own body, so why should he respect you?
2007-08-30 05:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
your going after the wrong guy, If a guy is trying to sleep with you right away then he's not that interested in you otherwise. Find a guy who will pursue you and will wait for the sex.
2007-08-30 05:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by labken1817 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Guys ALWAYS want it, so don't try to figure that part out. haha.
I guess we suck, because we DO want it from you, but at the same time, we'd like to think you're kind of classy, and not slutty. So it's like if you give it up, sure we'll take it, and it'll feel good, but then we don't really have any respect for you. We'll just move on to something else because you were such an easy win.
Yeh it sucks, but that's the truth. We like to be as slutty as we can, but if YOU are, then that's a whole different thing. Sorry.
2007-08-30 05:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 5⤋
Word to the wise - if a guy is persistent about it as if it's the only thing that exist, chances are, it IS!
Don't cry when you finally give into his cries because you lead yourself to this.
After being lead on my so many females I can't count as well as other guys I know, I see the balance, here, so deal with it.
2007-08-30 05:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Corvus 5 · 2⤊ 4⤋