Im coming to an age now where im growing tired of sleeping with guys when there's no relationship in sight. I would like to pursue a relationship or at least start dating guys properly.
However I dont want to come across as a hussy and have sex too early, likewise i dont want to wait ages either and give the impression that im tight!
Its a fine line, and i'd appreciate your opinions.
Cheers!
2007-08-30 05:25:43 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The key to not coming off as a hussy is to have him chase you...
become mysterious to him and evasive so that he would work harder towards you (guys love working for something they think they can't have) and in the process he will grow to appreciate you and respect you.
Hold off the love making until you feel like he respects you and appreciates you. No man will ever respect a woman that is too easy in every category...
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good luck!
2007-08-30 05:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by aleasha_Sam01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the person, if you want a long lasting relationship jumping in the sack too early will definitely give the wrong impression. Me and my husband where on and off for 3 yrs before we even slept together. We have been married 5yrs so far. It also depends on the guy, the guy you choose is key. If he has no issue with waiting until you are comfortable, he is a keeper. Some guys come off as too sleazy, stay away from those, they don't want a relationship just a quick release. Definitely longer than just 4 dates, so if you go out every friday night, it will take longer than a month. It is difficult, because if you go longer he might wonder if you are even attracted to him sexually, or you might wonder why he hasn't made a move yet. These are all things to consider. I hope I haven't confused you more.
Wait 1 month if not a little more.
2007-08-30 05:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by chinita25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you can wait for marriage. If he loves you he will wait. If you don't want to wait for that and just want to make sure the relationship is solid, then that's what you do. When you know you have a good, solid relationship with him. That's certainly not 4 or 5 dates, that's more like 4 - 6 months, depending how fast everything moves. You may feel like you are in a solid relationship before that, but it takes more time.
Never sleep with a guy before AT LEAST 2 months.
I also agree with the answer above mine! =0)
2007-08-30 05:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by jon jon's girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two down sides to 'sleeping' around. 1. You get known as the town bike, 2. You could catch some thing horrible. If you both have sufficient feelings for each then surely you can wait until you are at least engaged or to be correct,married. If you 'surrender' now and it all goes pair shaped you could regret it when Mr Right does come along.
2016-05-17 07:04:22 · answer #4 · answered by edythe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dating guys that have nothing in common with you. A relationship (or marriage) is a contract that the two of you agree to work together toward something you both want, and to mutually support each other. Go to the personal ads, look for people with similar interests to yours.
It doesn't matter how long you wait to have sex. Sex has less to do with a relationship than the TV commercials that sell you deodorants, soda pop, and cars would like you to believe.
2007-08-30 05:34:09 · answer #5 · answered by auntiegrav 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think if you realize there Is no chemistry there is little that sex can do to revive that. So if there is no chemistry kick him to the left and move on to the next. If there is chemistry and you are really feeling that guy I think 6 weeks is a great amount of time to seem if this is someone you want to spend time with and be intimate with. In this day and age however long it take to get the aids test results back is the amount of time you want to be sure that you are not humping.
2007-08-30 05:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by PuCcI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that there is a certain amount of time that makes it okay or not okay. It is all circumstancial. There have been lovers that I have slept with rather quickly, but we spent oodles of time talking and getting to know eachother first. There have been others that have taken a long time, but we didn't communicate as well at first and it took several months to make that decision. It really depends on the level of closeness that you achieve that matters the most.
2007-08-30 05:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by StephiPets 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion its up to you. Sex on the first date is always seen as a big no-no, but it really is your decision. when the time comes you'll know when it feels right to sleep with a guy, not only that but the fact that u waited for a while makes the whole thing alot more enjoyable!
2007-08-30 05:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait at least 1 month. Guys like to have to 'pursue' you. In addition, it will allow some mystery and excitement to build. Also, if you sleep with them too soon, you may discover that they're not someone that you want a relationship with... I wouldn't want to give something so precious away to just anyone/everyone I met. Sometimes it's hard to wait when the chemistry is flying but hold on! It'll be worth it in the end!
2007-08-30 05:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by spiffy 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Its different for everyone. Just wait til the timing is right. I went through the same thing about 2 years ago. Def. make him wait a little bit though. Guys like a "challange" and they will respect you for not being easy. If they get mad that you won't sleep with them right away then that is all they wanted and the relationship wouldn't go anywhere anyways.
2007-08-30 05:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋