She is married to an army guy and has 4 kids with him. She is originally from Europe but is now based in the States. Till now she is not a US citizen though. He's been treating her shabbily eversince which made her think from time to time to go back to her country, same reason why she didn't pursue to attain citizenship.
Her husband got an army girl pregnant and now wants to divorce her and take 2 of the kids with him. My friend just wants to go back to her country with the 4 kids but her husband won't allow her to do so.
How small or big is her chance to be able to do her plan?
Thanks so much in advance!
2007-08-30 05:24:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Nice husband the dirt bag I feel bad for ur friend but here is the deal are the children American citizens,and if so she is going to have a hard time getting those kids out of the country and why because despite the fact that she married a dirt ball who got another woman pregnant and now wants to bail on her and she is not a US citizen and is here because her husband is military and a US citizen he has the advantage on his side that will be a fight and why only two of the kids does he want.
But you know what I hope she wins and gets to take all of the kids and goes back home, see this is what gives the military a bad reputation when jerks like this one do things like this and I am a veteran so I know and have seen and heard of this before.
But if the woman he got pregnant is married or and officer than she can get him for adultery or fraternization under the UCMJ,the military frowns very heavily on that tell her to check that aspect of it out or at least the adultery part alone should help her as well.
2007-08-30 05:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
I would have to say that her chances are not good. I am also not sure that they should be good, what about the dad? would you deny him his opportunity to know his children? that would seem to me to be a cruel thing to do. Maybe she should go back to her country and leave her children with her husband? wouldn't that be the same thing as her taking the children away from him, just opposite? How would she feel about that? That is probably how the dad feels. You can't just think of the mother in this case and there may be more to the divorce than what meets the eye. The father has rights too you know.
I think that once you have children you should make a committment to stay together regardless of the circumstances, it would be in the childrens best interest and the children are more important than either of the two of them.
2007-08-30 12:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by beachbum 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Hollywood54 is closest to the truth...which is, she has zippy (zero) chance of getting any of the children if the serviceman is the father on record and the children were born either in the US or on a military base overseas (and the proper documents were completed making them US citizens by birth). If she has never been Naturalized, she has no legal right to remove American citizens from this country. I know it sucks, but that's the law.
2007-08-30 13:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
This would be difficult enough without the international jurisdictional issues. The answers will depend on precisely which country she is from, and what legal action is taken in the US. Please note: Transnational parental kidnapping may seem the easiest route, but causes many problems down the road. Your friend can begin to explore her options through family/legal services offered on base.
2007-08-30 12:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by Curious1usa 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Her chances are good, for the simple fact he is only asking for two children out of his four. A true cocerned, caring, loving father would want all four. A judge will look at the case in this way. If he was asking for all for the judge would probably allow two to stay with him or not allow her to go to Europe with the children. The only thing that is really against her is if the children were born in America. Otherwise her chances are good, although she/ or the children may still have to come here once or twice a year for visits with their father.
2007-08-30 13:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by bigmama35 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
why is it everytime something happen like this - it's all about the children - no you can't leave her/him because of the children. I'm a product of divorce parents but grew up a regular guy who went to school - with a job and bought my own house. and I was 6 when my mom left my dad because he was cheating. I think it's how the parents handle and take care of the kids when both of them agree to divorce. just my .2 cents for the guy who answered they should stay together no matter what.
2007-08-30 13:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by nismosr 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
She needs to go to the JAG as soon as possible to determine what she is entitled to.
Most bases have some sort of Fleet and Family Resource center which offers counselors, etc which she would also be able to talk to for free.
I would also suggest she check out militaryonesource.com and a book called "Divorce and the Military" (I believe there are 3 editions right now, but it covers a variety of different situations).
2007-08-30 12:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by not amused 2 · 6⤊ 2⤋
I think the first thing she needs to do is contact the Judge Advocat Generals Office on the base that she is stationed with and make and appoint to talk with them. They will help her out!
2007-08-30 12:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
Hollywood54, a veteran, has given the best advice. Ask her to contact the other lady, first. JAG branch, of course comes in, afterwards.
2007-08-31 10:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
contact the Judge Advocate Generals Office on the base that she is stationed thay know what to do..
2007-08-30 12:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋