i really wanna do this job but he's so restricting ,he doesn't want me 2 do this... i ve tried convincing him but he fights with me... plz help... what should i do?
2007-08-30 05:22:11 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thnk u all for ur support and response ... and yeah its a normal office job.
2007-08-30 21:52:32 · update #1
Your boyfriend obviously doesn't understand that you have goals too, you have dreams you want to accomplish. I guess it would all depend on your relationship status right now, if you've come to the point of being engaged. It would explain why your boyfriend's acting like this, he wants to settle down with you. But if this is just how he is, you have to set him straight, make him respect you or else he'll never do it by himself. Best of wishes
-Kar
2007-08-30 05:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, I don't understand.. What do you mean he isn't "allowing" you? He doesn't own you... How can he be restricting, when he lives abroad? You don't have to convince him of a thing. If he cannot be supportive, then you need to let him go. Take the job if it is something that you want, and get another boyfriend. This isn't 1920. Don't let a man, especially one who lives OVERSEAS dictate what you can and cannot do. That isn't a real man.
2007-08-30 05:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by iamtooproud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your boyfriend control your life or your decisions. It is YOUR life. If you truely want the job you should take it. If he doesn't support your decisions then he isn't a very good boyfriend. However, never base your decisions on a man or let a man decide for you, because how do you know you'll even be with him forever? So, if you don't take the job and you end up breaking up with him, you'll be left with regrets and with no man as well as no job. You need to do whats best for YOU.
2007-08-30 05:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what the offer is and I don't know how close and how restricting your boy friend is but ....I don't like when my life is restricted by anyone else....I don't think that the answer lies in what someone else tells you too.....the thing is , that you are the one responsible for you....and sometimes you do make a mistake ...but life is yours and from mistakes comes experience.....i don't think someone else should restrict or fight ....he may recommend that you do something but the final decision is yours alone......again I don't know what the job is and therefore I don't understand the restrictions....but ...your relationship is what is there to deal with not even the job.......good luck................
2007-08-30 05:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by frieda l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what your calling is. If you end up not working a job you like because of him, then IF you break up down the road, you will have no experiene in anyting and have no way to make money. If you are not self sufficent, then you will feel traped for the rest of your life, dependant upon someone else.
I wonder what the job is? The only justification your BF could have is if the job is as a stripper, shot girl, escort, or crack dealer...... everyting else, your good.
2007-08-30 05:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by workin man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ma's Boyfriend or your Boyfriend? You are not married to this man. I put many things in my life aside to please others. If i had the chance to do things again I would do them MY WAY. Do not let other people control your life. Sounds to me like you need to make a change and move on.
you need to but do what YOU want to do. if you do not make your stand now he will always think he can control you and YOU will never be happy. Good Jobs are hard to come by so work for YOUR future not anyone elses. Good Luck
2007-08-30 05:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by redheadedgramma831 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's living abroad and you're living here then I say go for the job. This is your career you're talking about. He's not your husband or anything so he shouldn't have a say in what you do or don't do w/ YOUR career. I say go for the job if that's what will make you happiest! Tell him to back off, if he doesn't like it then he's not a very good bf... You bf/husband should support your job decisions not make you feel bad about them!
2007-08-30 05:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by parhelion2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, why are you letting a guy control your every move? Especially one that doesn't live anywhere close to you? If getting a job is something you want to do that's your decision and no one else's. A boyfriend should be supportive and understanding, not restricting and controlling. My advice to you is to dump this loser and live. That's all I should have to say.
2007-08-30 05:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by allstar080805 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all how could he be telling you what you can't do when he is living abroad. I would just say screw you and take the job especially if it pays well. But in his defense if this new job is at a strip club I kinda understand where he is coming from.
2007-08-30 05:29:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,,, (an old experience) ,,, If the wife can join the husband not more than 6 months later,,, it is ok,,, but to get married and leave her alone , and just sending money,,, it is better to postpone this step,,, both the man and the woman will be in un fair situation,,,, I think also , If the job and conditions are not known to the man ,, it is better that he goes first and then asks the wife to join (if he sees it is ok with the job and the life's conditions) otherwise returns home (weman sab Daroh,, etal mkdaroh)...
2016-04-02 07:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋