Lately my fiance has been talking more and more about a female co-worker of his. Coincidentially, his boss just happen to have to place them on the same shift. Also, while he is talking with me, he will interrupt and call his job to speak with her. Even on off days, he voluntarily goes in to work overtime with her. And lastly, he claimed to have exchanged phone numbers with her to invite her to our wedding. Are my suspicions legitimate, or is it just jealousy, Im a little confused right now. All is appreciated!
2007-08-30 05:16:31 · 20 answers · asked by soundlikewhat99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks guys for the input, It may be insecurity, I know he's not cheating, but Im pretty sure he is strongly attracted to her. He would rather talk with her than me....I think its over
2007-08-30 05:35:29 · update #1
I'd be very suspicious. If he is fooling around with this chick then he's clearly trying to let you know that it's over. Guys often try to cause problems in a relationship (when they want out of it) so that you will end it. And if he's not cheating on you, then he is probably just very attracted to her. Which would still worry me if I was getting married to this guy. Just confront him about it and see what he says. If everything is legitimate he should let you know that there's nothing wrong without sounding defensive. If he gets defensive then there's something more behind this story.
2007-08-30 05:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Rita F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know. Is his job the kind of thing that this co-worker might have to call him on his off time about a work related problem? He may be working the overtime to make some extra money for a honeymoon or to start a nest egg for the two of you. I would invite her to dinner with you and your fiancee' to see just what is up. If it looks like they are chatting with eachother and ignoring you, then I would be concerned, but if they include you in their conversation then it would be okay. You may also have to sit him down and ask him about her and why he is doing the things you mentioned. In a good relationship honesty and respect has to be given.
2007-08-30 05:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt you have anything to worry about, I mean he is doing it right in front of you. Its not like its behind your back, but I am the same way. I would feel and react just like that. I say that the best thing to do is to just talk to him, tell him that your a bit uncomfortable with him volunteering himself to be with her and stopping conversations with you to speak to her...thats just wrong and rude! Tell him how you feel, and that maybe he's getting a little too close to his co-worker, hopefully he will calm it down a bit
2007-08-30 05:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by ILoveuCJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call him on this. Ask him how he would feel if you had a male friend and talked on the phone. I would get these issues resolved before getting marriend. He may not be truly ready to commit. Better to learn now then after the fact. Good Luck.
2007-08-30 05:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by msgolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you're right about being suspicious of him. Going to work on off days ? talking more and more about his co-worker ?. Trust your guts, you know him better, if your guts tell you that you have reasons to distrust him, don't marry him.
Talk with him, confront him, listen what he has to say about this. It's better now that do this now, don't hurry up to marry him, if you have strong reasons for not to trust this guy. It's better to be single for a while, than being married and miserable
Good luck !
2007-08-30 05:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by Idon'tlivehere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to confront him on it... reminding him that maybe he needs to keep a little space from her since he is taken... and that he may be sending her the wrong signals. Since he's so open with you about her, I doubt he's cheating... he may just be happy with who he is working with and it gave him a renewed excitement about his job... talk with him and remind him that all those things make you feel a little uncomfortable because you feel like he enjoys his time with her more than with you sometimes. Maybe he just needs a reminder.
2007-08-30 05:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would be.
Work is work, leave it there. There really is no need to bother with it on your day off, you're out of the business on that day!
Interrupting you? He obviously sees her as being more important than you.
You should be his everything, and you shouldn't be feeling suspicious. Trust yourself, if you feel suspicious it's because he's making you feel it. It's his fault, be suspitious!
2007-08-30 05:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are jealous then at least you are for the right reasons. If he is doing all of that and you know about it, do you really think he's going to change once he says, "I Do" you may want to give him that ring back because chances are she is going to be married right along with both you and him.
2007-08-30 05:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by Survivor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be suspicious as well. But you should talk to your fiance about it. Tell him how you feel and what you think is going on. If he gets defensive about it then its probably not too innocent, but you really should talk to him because if he doesnt care about what you are telling him then do you really want to be marrying him anyway?
2007-08-30 05:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by TawnyLee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's attracted to her and the feeling must be mutual. That is too close for comfort. Jealousy is one thing, female intuition is pretty close to accurate. Ask him how he would feel if the table was turned.
2007-08-30 05:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by Sleek 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋