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Hey All. I've asked one or to leading questions earlier tonight and I've pretty much gotten the point that even though i want more out of a certain friendship, i have to just maintain a friendship without anything more.

Just not sure how to do it for much longer, i have struggled to hold it together this long.
The thing is we are really close and i only want whats best for her, she needs a good friend right now too so i don't want to walk away. Its just we are so close and i can't seem to shake feelings of inadequacy and rejection, and even anger that she doesn't see me as good enough for her, you know the "Your a great guy" line when they won't touch you with a 10 foot pole. It hurts. I feel like if i stay its going to be so painfull and everyone will just tell me to deal with it

I know she cares, and most of this is in my head i just can't seem to shake it. If anyone else has advice on how not to lose my head i'd really love to hear it. Thankyou

2007-08-30 05:12:03 · 8 answers · asked by steaphan101 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

8 answers

thats so sad.. don't just not tell her. she deserves to know and you deserve to make her listen. but you really should tell her because you never know anything she could like you too and if you dont tell her then theres no way you will get more than a friendship. just tell her how much you look out for her in both relationships, tell her how you look out for her as her best friend but you want to protect her like the man in her life would. she will melt, i promise.

2007-08-30 05:18:31 · answer #1 · answered by TawnyLee 2 · 0 0

You said she needs a good friend right now, just from what you said it sounds like she's going through a tough time at the moment. I would be there for her as a friend for now then once the hard times pass then sit her down and talk to her about how you feel. This actually happened to me before. My best male friend fell for me. I knew he had, when he talked to me about it I told him I don't want to ruin our friendship. We were still best friends after that talk and he was actually pretty persistent w/ me on the whole "dating thing". I finally gave in after a long discussion about "If things don't work out we'll still be friends thing" A lot of rules and regulations crap. Well, I fell for him and now we're getting married. Same thing happened to my co-worker and she's marrying her best friend too. I'm not saying your situation will turn out that way but you could try and talk to her about it and make sure she understands your feelings won't get in the way of your friendship if you still want to continue to be friends with her. I wish you the best of luck!!

2007-08-30 05:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by parhelion2006 2 · 0 0

Sometimes we just have to go on with our life. With that said and done, as hard as that is, you may find that she feels the same for you as you do. The thing is that you are there for her. Sometimes we truly appreciate what is there when it is gone. If she does not feel the same then it is best to learn that now before mistakes are made and a friendship is lost. Good Luck!!

2007-08-30 05:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by msgolf 2 · 0 0

In my existence, it particularly is mandatory to not deceive safeguard a friendship with me. mendacity shatters the beginning of have confidence that i think is significant for any relationship. i will cope with the certainty, even awkward truths, lots lots greater effective than a lie. I truthfully have an severe intolerance of deceit nevertheless. i in my view do not understand why human beings sense the could deceive others. some use the excuse that it particularly is to circumvent hurting them. yet i think of you may temper hurtful truths in a climate of love and have confidence. If there is somebody you may deceive on your existence so as to maintain a relationship with them, that's not somebody i could evaluate a pal. it particularly is a relationship phantasm, outfitted upon a faux beginning.

2016-11-13 20:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

You have to consider what is best for you right now. If you cannot handle being close to her, then walk away.

Don't feel guilty about walking away, and don't worry about the fact that she needs a "friend" right now; believe me, she can always find another friend if that is really all that she needs. She is using you for emotional support, and she probably knows it. She is not being a friend to you.

2007-08-30 05:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0 0

You would be so much better off doing a 180 and turning your energy and affection towards a new girl. Pining for her longer is just going to start to hurt. Even more. Cut it off and hope for another girl who you can be even more passionate about because she reciprocates your love and care.

2007-08-30 05:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0 0

in love with your best friend look she dont like you..move on and find a girl friend

2007-08-30 05:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany F 2 · 1 0

geez i dont know sorry....

2007-08-30 05:17:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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