why do 18teen year olds fight there parents?

Answer 1

Because the parents spoiled the 18 year old - Adult. Not a teen anymore... but the adult is wanting freedom.

I believe parent's are now doing too much for their children to the point the child is expecting things and not appreciating the parent's contribution - money, use of car, insurance paid for... without really having to work for it.

Gone are the days when kids learned responsibility through newspaper routes, working at McD's or working the family business. Kids just have a good time hangin with friends, playing video games and other stuff.

It's time to cut those apron strings, lay down the rules of the house, if still living at home and not going to college.

Answer 2

I clearly remember being a teen, and I was a good kid but I did fight with my parents a lot. I am a parent now. Fighting doesn't necessarily mean that a kid is spoiled or disrespectful.
For me, being a teen was difficult (as it is for many others) because of being in transition between childhood and adulthood. Yes, sometimes teens want to be treated as an adult, but want to act like a child. However, adults often expect their teens to act like adults while they treat them like children. It's about finding a balance, and for some that balance comes easier than others. Remember that teens also don't have the scope of experience that many adults have, so yes they may look back in a few years and see that their parents were right. But let them get there.
There could be many other factors that cause teens to fight with their parents. Are the parents overbearing? Too controlling? Are the parents having marital problems? Do the parents/authority figures treat them with dignity? Some parents may be too lenient and the teen could be looking for guidance. The teen years are confusing years. The world is shifting as teens take on new roles and prepare for adulthood. Some reject them, some embrace them. Some are just plain scared.
I know that my anger came from resurfacing memories from childhood, parental marital problems, an overbearing and hot headed stepfather that I always clashed with. I only know this in retrospect though. We all had a lot of growing to do though and my family worked out their problems. Now we're really close.
I believe that parents have to stand by their children and help them get through their problems. Often parents have to sort out their own issues too. It's not always the teen's fault. These years are about struggling to become your own person and everyone has a different path.

Answer 3

Not all 18 year olds fight with their parents. Some do it earlier, some later, some never. My friends are starting to have issues with their kids. My teenaged kids aren't being difficult at all. But we are spending a lot more time talking about how to "be" and how to react to the world. We spend a lot of time talking and using our relatives as examples (good or bad). I'm certain we will argue, but I know for certain we won't be in a long love-hate relationship for the duration of their teen years.

Answer 4

I believe that they are fighting for their freedom. They know that 17-18 years old (depending on the State) they are legally adults and wanted to be treated as such. I know that when I was 17 i was pretty much already out of the house, but my parents still tried to control my life. I think that if teens show their parents that they can be responsiable that that there will be less fights and more family unity.

Answer 5

Not ALL 18 yr olds fight with their parents all the time. Only the ones that dont know how to tell the kid like it is.

Answer 6

From personal experience I find that most of the time its all about self control..You are 18 and feel like you are an adult because you can move out..buy cigarettes..whatever ..but you feel like your parents are holding you back and you feel that since you are an adult you should be treated like one and think you can make it on your own..I gave my parents a really hard time..bc I thought I could handle life on my own..which in reality I couldn't...cut them some slack they know what they are talking abou

Answer 7

because they are 18. hey don't even understand themselves at that point. They are trying to become independant but they are scared of a lot of things (they will never admit it though).
They still want to be mama's little boy, but they also want to be grown ups. it is a difficult stage in their life, and as parents the only thing you can do is support them and try to be there for them without making them feel you are invading their privacy.
Good Luck.

Answer 8

I'd fight with my 18 year old if she couldn't even use the correct "their". ....... or used "18teen" (you know that says eighteen teen, right?)

Answer 9

I think it's because they become "legal" adults when they turn 18 and they want to be independent and prove that they can think for themselves...ready to make their own mistakes and take responsibility for them without the shadow of their parents still calling the shots!

Answer 10

because parents try to control the 18 year old, instead of teaching their child self reliance. don't give your kids a chance to rebel. put all the responsibility on the kid at a very young age. your job as a parent is to prepare your kids to be responsible people. you don't do that by controlling them. use the laisseir faire approach to child rearing. teach your kids to trust them selves to do the right thing.