so i finally went up to the school (college) to get started......... he said it was an excuse to leave and get away from him!
My friend called and asked if I wanted to go..... I guess I just needed a lil encouragment and a lil push to get my butt there!
So I went... when he called he had a n attitude like i was doing it on purpose to be away from him!
Whatever.!.. Im trying to better myself like Him AnD I want! Then he tries turning it around.... we are having issues with spending time with eachother right now because im always going to a friends to hangout ... he always makes me mad to the point where i dont want to be around him!
So, I have been spending more time (hasnt even been a week)! He just doesnt realize or appreciate it i guess!
We try and try to compromise and work things out... but we are both stubborn and get touchy/mad easily!
We've been living tg 2yrs!
Well.... i guess that sums it up.....
Any thoughts? What should I do? Been through anythng similar??
2007-08-30 04:17:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well sounds like you're going thru what i went through couple of months back, remember that ex of mine, she still calls and all that, cuz we cant seem to let go of each other even tho we fight every 2 seconds, like you said, we are as stubborn as it gets and very emotional, so constantly there is something to fight about, but when we have a good time together, its really a good freaking time, and thats what we both want, but just cant have cuz of our personalities...so, your bf sounds very jealous just like i was, he is probably afraid you're going to lave him for someone else, which i dont blame him, you just might, happened in my case, but its annoying when he is insecure non-stop and makes you actually leave him, so i think what you should do is appreciate him a lil more, i know its hard and i know you want your way, but trust me, once they're gone, its really easy to see what you could've done better, understand him a lil more, pamper him, put yourself in his shoes for just a moment, and as crazy at his world may seem, he loves you very much to care about you that much and to want to be together 24/7, its tough cuz you're young and want to have fun, but thats a decision you're going to have to make now...dont lead him on if you're just trying to have fun, guys are simple and want a few things here and there, and if out of the blue you decide to leave him you're gonna break that man in half...so please sit down with him and talk it out and try to meet each other half way, cuz that's what matters the most, and if you see that you just cant find common ground, you might just consider a break-up, as hard as it may be, a talk about it is better than a fight about it...trust me on that one, and you dont want to lose him in that way, cuz you're not with him just to be with him, you must love him too to stay through all this, so think about that...he may be just a "guy" and "insecure" and "paranoid"...but "HE" is "YOUR" guy, and you should love him for who he is...if you cant do that, again...think about your relationship with him and your and his future individually if you dont see them together...hope this helps girlie
2007-08-30 16:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two questions:
1) How old are you and your boyfriend (it does matter)
2) When you say always going to a friends, what is always? 1-2 a week, or like 3-5 times a week? Also, how often do you have evenings available together?
The reason the first question applies is because if you're both young, you're both most likely just learning how to live with someone else. Its give and take, and thats where many relationships can get rocky.
The second question is the clincher. If you're going to a friends once or twice a week and you only have a couple nights a week to hang out...thats a bad thing. Basically, if you are already feeling a need to "escape" and its only been two years....well, good luck.
I am not trying to bring you down or anything, but two years is relatively early for a relationship and a relationship doesn't really show its true colors until you live together.
I wont tell you what you should do, you're heart and mind will fight that one out, but just keep your head up and work on making yourself happy. If you're happy it should rub off on your mate. If you're not happy, it'll do the same. If one is happy and the other isn't...thats not good.
You shouldnt feel like you're constantly giving in.
2007-08-30 04:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by Phil M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good luck! Guy's are good at making women feel like it's the women's fault. Women's mistake is giving in to the stupidity of the guy. Most guy's are insecure because they know how they treat their wife, gf, fiance and so on. You see they most of the time are lazy and inconsiderate. A women is God's Blessing to man. She will work, cook, wash, mop, have the kids, sex and then the guy's still say, what have you done today. That is totall stupidity. Hope this helps.
2007-08-30 04:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure and thinks you're gonna find somebody better then him, which is probably going to happen eventually, cuz he's a jerk. I married a man like that, and spent 7 miserable years trying to re-assure him. It was never enough for him, and it was way too much for me, so I left. Don't waste another moment on this guy, go be young, have fun and live life on YOUR terms! Good luck in school!
2007-08-30 04:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hie Angel. Well to me when you are facing this problem then it is good that you should try to divide the time between your studies friends and also boyfriend, when you have divide it then it is good that you can solve the problem, so it is good that you should try to put up a schedule or a timetable of one whole week and from there you can take break on the weekends of like one whole day of a saturday you can at least be with your boyfriend and on the sunday you can be hanging with your friend or so on and when you have done that then for sure you can at least solve it and instead of you mixing it together and when you have done it then for sure it will be helping you alot and when it has help it then it is good that you should try to stick with it and instead of you going on like that. Try this and hope it might help you..................
ALL THE BEST.......................
2007-08-30 04:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless if you've lived with him for 2 years, if he doesn't support your decisions to better yourself or live your dreams--you don't need him!
Him saying that it is an excuse to get away from him is his way of saying, "I am insecure with myself."
Do not let him stop you from accomplishing your goals. I'm glad you have a friend that gives you encouragement. You should find a bf that does the same. Good luck to you.
2007-08-30 04:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Workcompguru31 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs to be a man and stop acting all clingy. If you are trying to better yourself and he doesn't understand then get someone who will. I had to get rid of 11 men that were like that because they were insecure. I could understand why you wouldn't want to be around him. Either the two of you talk and work this out or move on.
2007-08-30 04:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Survivor 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about this guy, I would recommend the book, "the five love languages." It is so insightful, and i really believe it will help you out. I have been through a similar situation, which is why I read it. Made a big difference! Best wishes!
2007-08-30 04:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by j c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol my boyfriend and i are like that. both stubborn, hate to admit defeat, i know i get frustrated easily. but if you both want this to work, you'll have to see that he's going to feel one way about one thing and you another way. it will have to be agree to disagree sometimes. but maybe he's scared that when you go away to college you'll find someone else. sounds like you to need to have a chat. it might possibly come down to stay together or break up. good luck
2007-08-30 04:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by million$? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him space to do what he wants
But equally spend enough time with to make him feel loved
If you are going out with your mates more than him he might feel tht you dont love him anymore
Try and see things from his point of veiw also
Good luck x
2007-08-30 04:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by xBaybii-Ashleex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋