they say everytime we hang out i have a beer in my hand, but none of them drink. I have a few beers when i get out of work to wind down and i dont think im an alcoholic because i just drink beer or maybe occasionally a mixed drink. I feel kind of weird drinking beer around them and im usually the only one. Should i listen to them and not drink as much or throw a party and get everyone wasted so i can laugh at them when they have hangovers???
2007-08-30 04:05:31 · 24 answers · asked by Balrog 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
dude, as long as you aren't a blackout drunk or need to have alcohol daily to be able to function, you are NOT an alcoholic. that is pretty much what it boils down to. just because your friends are fruity and don't drink, doesn't mean you can't.
2007-08-30 04:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by HERE WE GO BROWNIES, BEAT PIT!! 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, ask yourself a simple question, which may help you evaluate your position a bit better.
"Would you enjoy yourself, and/or the company of these friends, if you did *not* have a few beers, or a beer in your hand?"
If you would, why not simply try to hang out with your friends without first having a "beer-assisted pre-hang out wind-down session" and see if the pleasure of their company doesn't have the same effect, e.g., helping you relax and wind down.
If you wouldn't have a good time without the beer, or wouldn't enjoy these friends without the beer, then you need to evaluate why, and proceed appropriately.
It's quite possible your friends see another side to you which is less pleasant, when you are drinking, and are concerned for your well-being. It's also quite possible they are just a bit uptight or moralizing. There are two sides to every situation, and thus far, we only know your side. You could be with some boring friends, or, you could be a real ****** when you're drinking.
The advice, above, to take a point-by-point AA test is good advice. It's also simple common sense to know that the quantity of alchohol has little or nothing to do with whether one is an alcoholic. It's your response to, behavior with, and reliance upon alcohol, among other things, which helps make that determination.
Good luck!
2007-08-30 04:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by KF 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sister-in-law said the same thing about me, because I enjoy my wine. She drinks wine, too, but will only have one glass, where I'll have a glass or two.
Usually, though, I'm nursing my drink. I can't help it if my mother-in-law comes around and says "Oh... you're running low on wine. Let me get you more!!" Before I can stop her, she's taken my glass and refilled it. Can't let it go to waste! lol
People who do not drink, do it of their own accord, normally. They choose not to imbibe, and that is perfectly their right. If you choose to have a beer once in a while, they have no right to complain about it. However, you might want to check to see if any of them are alcoholics. Those going to AA have a hard time watching others drink, because they so want to be able to drink, too.
Alcoholism is a disease. There is no cure for it, which is why AA was formed. They will help step you through the problems, day or night, and help you get yourself straightened out. (If alcohol really is a problem for you.)
If you don't have the disease, and your friends are just uptight, either tell them it's good for the heart (which has been proven) or tell them to shove off. You don't want/need "friends" who dictate what you do on your own time.
Good luck.
2007-08-30 05:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by penguino8165 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A couple of beers to unwind after work will probably help you live longer. A couple of six packs might lead to liver damage.
What I find curious about proselytizing teetotallers is that they have all of the smug answers, but lack any experience whatsoever. They've merely been browbeaten into anti-alcohol bigotry by latter day Carrie Nations.
As you make the above point to your "friends," you can punctuate it nicely by lighting up a quality cigar and enjoying it.
2007-08-30 05:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by grumpy geezer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw a party and laugh at their hangovers. Tell them to lay off. People that don't drink love throwing around the term "alcoholic".
2007-08-30 14:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who don't drink can't help but notice the habits of friends who do. If they enjoy your company, which they obviously do, I wouldn't worry about this. When you hang out, let them enjoy their non-alcoholic drinks and you continue to booze it up! Just kidding, my friend. Enjoy your friends and a few beers as well. Sounds like a great mix.
2007-08-30 04:18:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't your friends drink?
That makes a big difference in the story...personally, I don't drink around any friends or family who do not drink. I figure I don't need the alcohol,& would never want them to feel uncomfortable for whatever reason they abstain from alcohol. However, I enjoy drinking with my friends that do drink alcohol, so I save my drinking when I am with them!
2007-08-30 05:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by quilt-babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bunch of friends who are T-total cannot judge whether you have a problem, they have no baseline from which to judge.
eg: I was once told by a girl i had a drink problem because i had 2 beers during a night out at a comedy club........we didn't have a second date.
If you can choose to not drink then i suggest you are probably fine. Don't just think this though, try it and prove to yourself that you are on control and canskip the beer if you want to.
2007-08-30 04:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by Michael H 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I always have a can of beer in hand (Not IN public)
and I have been accused exactly the same
then I ask the nerd to hold my warm half full beer
he just might realize I had the same can in my hand for the last hour.
2007-08-30 05:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's rather convenient. Your buddy doesnt realize the bible, so that you have got to realize yours. Catholics worship God by myself. There is a change among "Mediator" and "Intercessor". Prayer at the behalf of others is for the period of the bible. Acts eight:24 And Simon responded, "Pray for me to the Lord, that not anything of what you will have mentioned might encounter me." 1Timothy two:a million I wish for that reason, to begin with, that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all guys: The Saints are Alive. Mark 12:27 He isn't the God of the useless, however of the residing. You for that reason do commonly err. The bible tells us the Prayer of a Righteous character does a lot. Who extra Righteous than the Mother of God and the Saints? Proverbs 15:29 The Lord is some distance from the depraved: and he's going to listen the prayers of the simply. James five:sixteen Confess for that reason your sins one to yet another: and pray one for yet another, that you'll be stored. For the continuous prayer of a simply guy availeth a lot. Revelations eight:four And the smoke of the incense of the prayers of the saints ascended up earlier than God from the hand of the angel. Peace be with you <<
2016-09-05 18:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by elzey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are your friends, I would at least consider what they are saying. Would your friends really have a motive for making something like that up about you? If one person in my life says something about me I don't necessarily think it's true, but if more than one person in my life says the same thing, I definitely consider it.
If you think you may be headed towards alcoholism, the sooner you arrest it the better, but it's your choice :)
2007-08-30 06:07:07 · answer #11 · answered by Phantom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋