My fiance's ex asked him how much he paid for my ring. I think she should mind her own business, but he thinks it's a valid question from someone he's known for a long time.
2007-08-30 03:38:59 · 29 answers · asked by jen b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is extremely rude to ask and I don't care who's asking. If she wants an idea, let her go to a jewelry store and look for something similar.
2007-08-30 03:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by Lady G 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your soon to be husband should be in contact with his ex unless they have children together. And even if they do, how much he paid for your ring is not her business.
I think she's jealous, and trying to use the price of the ring as an approximation of how much he loves you.
The only questions that have ever been asked regarding the price of my ring were my husbands friends who were looking for rings. Otherwise...rude question.
2007-08-30 03:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes she was out of line. Like everyone else said- the only reason I can think of to ask a question like that is if you were also shopping for an engagement ring. Even then, it would have to be asked the right way for it to not seem nosey.
2007-08-30 04:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Amy P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right. That's DEFINITELY none of her business. I think I'd snap if I'd found out my boyfriend's ex had asked something like that! One of my bf's female friends simply asked how much we paid for rent once and I almost flew off the handle (well, they also have a bit of a past, but we're not going into that...). That's one of those things that should just be left out of conversations.
I could understand if one of your fiance's guy friends had asked (in private, of course) because he was in the market for his girlfriend. But HIS EX?!? This chick needs a check up from the neck up on etiquette. I certainly hope you let your fiance know you weren't happy with her uncalled for question.
The next time his little friend decides to get all up in the Kool-Aid about sensitive information, politely explain that you'd rather not say because it's uncouth to ask such things. She'll get the message.
Good luck, dear!
2007-08-30 03:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's very important to have jewelry formally appraised so that it can be properly insured. But if he just wanted to know how much she paid for it, well, it sounds as though this couple has an awful lot of issues to work out before they get married.
2016-05-17 06:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's rude and the fact that it's an ex makes it worst! It's one thing to ask a good friend to get an idea of a budget but it's rude to just bluntly ask someone that.
2007-08-30 04:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell that chick to mind her business. Maybe she was trying to see how much he paid for the ring trying to see if she could put a value on his love for you. This doesn't have anything to do with it. He could have spent $1.00 on the ring and if he asked you to marry him it's none of her business!!!!
2007-08-30 06:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by hungirl921 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with you. She has no business asking him that question.
Especially since there is a major conflict of interest. But above and beyond, because talking about money is rude.
But why does he want to tell her? I find that very very strange.
2007-08-30 04:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Between good Friends, it's not rude, but to tell others (a third person) about this question being asked, and by whom, is none of the third person's business.
There are some things it's better to just not know. Ignorance is bliss!
2007-08-30 03:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by SimonJ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Coming from his ex, I cant think of a good reason for her to ask. A friend who is also shopping around for rings, sure. Not an ex.
2007-08-30 03:45:27 · answer #10 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋