My boyfriend has a real temper.He snaps at all the people in my life for no reason.First it was my 2 sisters and yesterday it was my friend.He just doesnt like anybody thats close to me,but to me he's the perfect gentleman.Do you think he ther's a chance he could ever change if i descipline and correct him.
2007-08-30 03:01:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. He has to see the problem and want to change himself..... Just like drunks...they can't change unless they admit to it and WANT help. n
2007-08-30 03:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am in the same situation sort of.My boyfriend has a bad attitude alot.I thought it would change.I have a huge heart and I figured well not to change him but maybe I could get him to think before he spoke.I mean the term stickn your foot in your mouth doesnt apply to him its more like sticking his whole leg in.He snaps as you called it alot.The difference is he does do it to me now and some how it always comes back to me.It was my fault or what I said or whatever.Do I think he will change NO.When he snaps like that its embarassing to you right.Well what is gonna happen is people are gonna start saying what are you thinking?or they are going to think that.Why are you putting up with this jerk.I dont think people can change.Well I think they can change certain things but in my opinion or personal experience either you learn to deal with him like this(cause thats how he will be)or you realize you dont need a man who's gonna be an *** the the people who are good to you.He should treat them with respect and honor because they are close to you.So even though hes snapping at them hes hurting you by doing it whether you see that or not.Good luck.I wish you all the joy this life can bring you.
2007-08-30 03:13:37 · answer #2 · answered by jt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is snapping and verbally abusing others, he has anger issues. He needs couch time with a mental health care professional. There is nothing you can do or say to him that will make him change. He may not snap at you right now, but the patterns point potentially to one day he may. If he doesn't agree to get help with his anger management issues, then you need to break it off. You shouldn't ever approve of him mistreating your family and friends.
2007-08-30 03:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Snapping and being impolite to your friends stems from his insecurities. He is probably very very insecure about you. By rights he should also be getting upset if he thinks you are spending time with your friends or family, because he will in his mind have a lot of his insecurities conjuring up images of you cheating on him, or the fact that others will try to wean you away from him.
That sort of a thing rarely stabilises, and just gets worse over time. Sometimes it manifests itself to stalking, spying or snooping or worse..., fights!
You can try to live with it or you can try to dump him, but please don't expect dramatic changes...
You take care, Nozee...:)
2007-08-30 20:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by ronniejacob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change someone like that, belive me.....and do you know what will happen eventaully if you stay with him. You will have no friends or family to talk to when you need them, because he is basically chasing them away. I belive that he is trying to control who is and who isnt in your life. Honey, thats not a very good thing......so my best answer to you is no he will not change and eventually if u stay with him long enough he will do the same thing to you!!!!
2007-08-30 03:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Xiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person's temperament is one of the most difficult things to change. I would take a hard look at all the red flags that he is giving you, and then I would RUN before it becomes something physical towards you, clearly he does not respect you.
2007-08-30 03:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why r u trying to change him? did u or did u not know about this when u first starting going out? why now do u not want him to do this? if u didn't know about it when u first starting going out, and u want him to change, get rid of him and find somebody that does what u want. But don't try to change him. That causes much hate in the relationship.
2007-08-30 03:09:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt sound like hes going to change anytime soon. it sounds like he only likes people who hes dating. sad but true,. since hes so close with you, ask him why he acts like this. if he gets angry at you then htats not relaly fair to you, youre just trying to help him.
see if he wants some counseling. its really helps
2007-08-30 03:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by szweets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a woman marry a man, she secretly hopes that he will change but he doesn't whereas when a man marry a woman, she secretly hopes that she will not change but she does !
2007-08-30 03:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by chuckgom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋