I was invited by a girlfriend to attend an event put on by a car dealer. There was no cost for either of us, but there was free cocktails and hors d'oevres. There was a drawing with lots of door prizes. I won 2 tickets to a racing event (3 day pass). I was going to take my boyfriend day 1, and my kids (and buy a third ticket for my daughter) on day 3, and asked my girlfriend if she wanted to come with us on day 3. My girlfriend asked what I would do Saturday, and I had something else to do, so she said "the tickets are mine on Saturday". I agreed, since I wasn't going to use them.
This morning, she called up and told me that since I was only there because she invited me, that I should have given her the tickets. I wouldn't have attended the race without winning the tickets, and I still had to buy one more, but she thought I should have offered for the 2 of us to go. Should I have given them to her?
2007-08-30 02:59:39 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No. You are NOT obligated to give her the tickets, nor should you be expected to go "halfsies" on them.
I find it obnoxious and annoying when people become so egotistical that they believe they are owed EVERYTHING in life, even when they have no right to it. Or, as the above person stated, thinking they are entitled to everything.
No. No. No. You won those tickets fair and square - WITHOUT HER. She didn't buy your ticket, since the event was free. And regardless if she did pay, she isn't entitled to them. It was, however, very kind of you to invite her to day three and when you couldn't go on Saturday, to let her have them. But that was out of kindness, not etiquette.
She's being a sore loser, and in my opinion, a baby. Those are yours fair and square.
2007-08-30 03:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by beeREN 1 · 7⤊ 0⤋
No, I think she's being greedy and have some nerves to even demanding those tickets. She should be happy that you won and it's up to you whether you want to share with her. I think you have the decency to offer her but she has no right to demand and even makes that kind of comment.
Lets say if she paid for the tickets to get in, she still shouldn't even demand it. She invited you, you're lucky to win. She has nothing to do with it. I'm sure if she paid for it, you would offer her the tickets that you don't use anyway.
Some kinda friend huh? Not a decent one obviously.
Imagine if you won a car. She probably takes you to court to get it back just because she invited you.
2007-08-30 11:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the event put on by the car dealer cost your friend money to get you in, it would have been nice of you to offer to take her to the races with you.
If the event did not cost your friend money to get you in, and you only went with her so she didn't have to go alone, you were totally right to keep the tickets for yourself.
I think you did the right thing by offering to take her one day and she is in the wrong for thinking you should have taken her every day. What if you had won a tv, car, or some other big ticket item? Would she have insisted you share that?
Maybe you need to look closely at your friendship with this person.
2007-08-30 10:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At first your friend sounded like a sore loser. Then after reading the last sentence and a half I really think she has a point.
Yes, you did win the tickets fair and square, but it sounds like you invited her as an afterthought, like you have an extra day so you'll just invite her to that one. I've been in a similar situation and I've always shared with whoever was with me when I won the prize, or whatever it may be.
That's just how I do it. It's up to you though. Those tickets are yours, but you were an invited guest of your friend. It might be a good idea to just split the tickets with her and save a friendship or at least some frustration.
2007-08-30 12:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by Not quite perfect 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's like this ~ your friend invited you and you went. Because you were there, you won the tickets. If you had not gone and she was alone, she would still NOT have won the tickets, because she was not the one who won to begin with. The tickets would have gone to some stranger. Would they have been obliged to give the tickets to her because you would have won them if you'd been there?
I think you can see how silly this gets!!!
Regardless of who invited you, the fact is, you were there, and you won the tickets.
You are not under any obligation to give the tickets to your friend, although you have been kind enough to include her in your plans.
Sounds like someone has been offering your friend a serve of sour grapes and she has swallowed them whole!
Enjoy your plans, and let her enjoy her Saturday, as arranged!
Cheers :-)
2007-08-30 10:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by thing55000 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
You gave her the Saturday tickets and she's complaining that you didn't give her all the tickets? You had no obligation to give her all the tickets and it was nice for you to give her the Saturday tickets. If you hadn't been there, that does not mean your friend would have won.
2007-08-30 10:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would have kept them. And I think that was fine for you to offer the Saturday tickets. That should have been enough right there.
2007-08-30 10:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, you won them, they're yours. If you didn't go at all, chances are she still wouldn't have won anything. She should be grateful that you are giving her the Saturday.
If she had won instead, would you have told her that she only won because you went with her? Uh, probably not.
2007-08-30 10:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by CW1967 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well you did offer to take her on one of the days right? You need not extend any more courtesey than that. If she had taken you to a paid event then it would be a bit different.
2007-08-30 11:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by mpasnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won the tickets, not her. Enough said. She is the impolite one here and frankly not much of a friend.
2007-08-30 11:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋