he was kicked out he is only 16 can he stay with us
2007-08-30 02:23:35 · 12 answers · asked by susan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he can but do you really want to do that?
2007-08-30 02:29:58 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to be kidding me? Forget the "illegal" part of the question for the moment!
What parent in their right mind would allow their daughter's boyfriend to stay in their home? Hmmmmm.... can I say unwanted pregnancy? Can I say she'll be looked down upon by her piers? (Yeah, there are still those teenagers out there who will think of her as a slut .. and those who don't - are sluts.) Can I say it isn't good for her to be serious about a young guy who isn't even a man yet - she's not even a woman yet (she's more like a loaf of bread that's only half-baked, so she's still soft and malleable on the inside - and can be ruined if messed with too early!)
Second of all - why the hell did his parents kick him out? He may act respectful in front of you, but we all know how people tend to be on their best behavior around people we barely know - but our true selves are usually someone quite different when with those who know us well, day in and day out. I'm sure that he's not an angel and is very darn well at fault for what happened.
The question about illegality shouldn't even be about him staying with you. It should be "is it illegal for parents to kick out a minor child?" That you can call the local Dept of Children's Services and ask.
If you let this kid into your house - you are NOT parenting your daughter properly. I question why you would even entertain this idea... is it because your daughter wants it and you're too scared to say no - afraid you'll make her mad? Or is there some reason you need to make yourself feel good, by "saving" him from what happened?
Either way - I wouldn't let a 16 year old boy even stay past 11 pm at our house with our daughter, let alone stay as one of the family.
2007-08-30 10:01:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mama's on the half tip 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My daughters boyfriend was kicked out of his home, she is 29 now, she was 16 then. I let him have a spare room in our house and it all worked out alright, until they broke up. He had no where to go and I didn't know what to do. He ended up living with another friend.
2007-08-30 10:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to make sure with the laws in your state. I know where I am from (Oregon) it would only be a problem if his parents created one. It would only be illegal if they wanted him to come home and you prevented that from happening. That happened to me when I was that age. I was kicked out and went to stay at a friends, my mom didnt create a fuss so everything was ok.
2007-08-30 09:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by hyiik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course thats not illegal! lol unless his parents are unhappy with the situation, or he ends up staying with you for a very long time, i doubt ther will be any problems at all. you cant act as his legal guardian (ie giving consent for stuff) unless his parents say they dont mind and hand over theyr guardianship for you. if i were you i'd call the parents and politely say that their son has asked to stay at your house and ask if they are comfortable with that and if they would like to make any arrangements with getting his stuff, seeing him etc. this shud help you gauge how serious it is (a weekend, a month, 4eva) and also help you understand the issue and how everyones feeling. make it clear you are neutral and your just trying to provide a place for him. dont sound critical about their decision, and dont explictly say 'youve kicked him out' avoid it by saying stuff like 'i get the impression you dont want to live with each other for the time being' etc
2007-08-30 09:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by bojanglestothemax 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not do that parent to parent. Why exactly did he get kicked out? You need to talk to both him and his parents because that's what parents do...parent to parent. I'm not saying to communicate in a bossy or assuming manner based on teen theory. I'm noting you both as parents have a son and you/your daughter in common so both parents. He is not respecting his parents and the story may go that he didn't get kicked out he may have created a situation with his parents so he could intrude on living in your home with your daughter.
If that's the case his behavior needs to be dealt with by parents including your part of telling him no. If you don't communicate you may end up with the cops to your home.
2007-08-30 10:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want to be a savior. You are looking for touble here. Why did he get kicked out? What is going to be different at your house.... other than your daughter now living with him? When he gets kicked out of your house will your daughter go with him? Do you want this kids parents knockin on your door at night? You are getting sucked into a nasty web here be carefull!!
2007-08-30 12:02:17 · answer #7 · answered by mpasnick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him stay with you. He was kicked out for a reason.
2007-08-30 09:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, if they kicked him out then there wont be anyone filing a law suit or calling the cops against you....it should be okay....the only thing is if he ever needs parental consent for anything, he's going to be **** out of luck because only his legal guardian can sign for him...good luck, and its great you took him in instead of leaving him on the streets...yall are great. take care...
2007-08-30 09:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by Ingenua...or something like it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i think its great u wanna help him just as long as she dont get pregnant lol!!!but im sure uve already observed that situaiton
2007-08-30 09:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by The heartbreaker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes he can but if its OK with his parents
if his parents file a complain you be in trouble
2007-08-30 09:31:48 · answer #11 · answered by maya 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋