Okay..I love my boyfriend very much..I even moved 20 hours away from everyone I knew to be with him. His last few relationships were really rough and he has a hard time trusting girlfriends,although I have never given him a reason to doubt me. I have never lied to him, Led him on or given him some reason to go "Hmmmm??" But yet he has been acting odd..I asked him if we are going to be okay and he said he didn't know. I asked him why, what is the matter and he said "It's a bunch of Little Things." and that he is doubting "us" but when I pushed him on it he couldnt tell me one thing...
I didnt move here to be with him for this to happen. I dont think Its fair that I am being punished for an ex girlfriend or what ever the problem is..the thing is I dont know what it is. Can someone tell me what the hell to do? I really love this man and want to do what ever I can to make this work. What is going through his mind??
2007-08-30 02:10:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't sound like this has anything to do with his ex girlfriends abusing his trust. To me...it kinda sounds like he's just really doubting YOUR relationship. Maybe he's afraid things are moving too fast...maybe he thinks the spark is gone...maybe he's just feeling pressured by the future. Whatever it may be, you need to sit down and tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him that you love him to death and whatever you can do to make those "bunch of little things" go away...you will, but he needs to tell you what they are. Communication is key here. If you guys are going to make it through this...you need to be very open with each other! Good luck!
2007-08-30 02:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the situation is something I have gone through I was like your boyfriend for a while I cannot pretend to know what he is thinking I can just tell you this it is not your fault the best thing you could do is to go and tell him that whatever it is you would like to support him to make it through it and also tell him that you love him and that he shouldn't doubt you because you will do anything in your power to help him if you have already said those things then just repeat him and tell him that not everyone is that lucky as he is because he has someone that loves him . But I believe the words alone are enough at least that is what I wanted to hear at that period of time.
Bye and Good Luck :-)
2007-08-30 02:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by Answerplease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In these kinds of situations men tend to get bored and really wont say anything then you have some men who will get bored and cheat, but one thing is that men never let go of there passed NEVER I suggest that you talk to him and find out whats going on because most men give you a reason to leave or do something crazy have you thought that the reason why he cant hold a relationship is because of how hes acting think about it men are weird creatures but easy to figure out just look at the signs
2007-08-30 02:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by sweets20 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your close friends and discuss it with them and they may be able to shed light on this situation. He needs to reassure you especially as you are so far from people who care about you. It may be that he is guarded because he has been hurt in the past, but you knew that before you moved, by the sound of things. Just doing some considerate little things for him like getting in his favorite dessert for example might make him realise you care about him.
2007-08-30 02:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has committal issues. You sacrificed a lot to be closer to him and it seems he isn't ready for your "gift". Maybe you need to move back home before you build up too much resentment towards him. He needs to figure out what he wants from you/a relationship. He needs to figure out if he even wants a serious relationship. Good Luck to ya!
2007-08-30 02:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by cookiesheet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is ask him what's up. If he won't tell you, then you need to consider where your relationship is going. Partners should be able to tell each other everything. If he tells you what's up, then you can hopefully work through it together. All the best!
2007-08-30 02:21:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's the ex girlfriend thing. it sounds more like he just doesn't want it to work. like it doesn't matter and he wants out. sorry. maybe he's just one of those guys who isn't into commitment.
2007-08-30 02:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋