a woman can be so exicted about thier wedding day, they go out and celebrate, their mom's tell stories to their daughters, they have fun picking out all the stuff. but as for guys they act like its the most miserable thing they can do through, their not as happy.
guys is it becuase you finally realize that youre going to be waking up with the SAME woman in bed for 50 years? is it becuase you can't stand the thought of NOT being able to party and lick women's legs and grab their chests anymore? is it becuase the word Commitment frightens you?
and why is it that the guys always have to have a bachelor party, they have to get laid as much as possible before getting married? thats not nice? i dont hear many women doing that
2007-08-30 02:07:14 · 13 answers · asked by 9-pounds-lighter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
GRUNT! if men dont like the idea of getting married then why do they put themselves in this situation, it doenst make sense!! they look so miserable all the time
2007-08-30 02:18:40 · update #1
greeneyes i dont have an attitude problem so CHILL and brush your dirty teeth!!
2007-08-30 02:32:19 · update #2
It's because this is all geared toward the Queen for a Day fairy princess crap. This is all about Her Day, and heaven forbid you suggest otherwise. She gets a freaking march...Here Comes the Bride. The only man in America to get his own march is George W. Bush with Hail to the Chief.
The average groom wants to get married, but the pageantry is just to shut the bride up. He realizes he's just playing a part in the playlet, and this is part of what he has to do to appease his intended.
2007-08-30 03:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Women normally are excited because we like to do stuff like dressing up beautiful and guys don't. For as long as I known women were brought up to have a husband and kids and house and men were brought up to have a job and take of the house. Men are also afraid to get married because women change. We are more demanding on men because we feel we have now and he not going anywhere...wrong...there is divorce. Not to say that the man doesn't love his soon to be wife....9 time out of 10 he seen his friend, family member go through with it and are not happen. Or he has single friends who are saying man you can't do this and that. Men get more negative thoughts before he gets married from alot of people. Believe it that can put a damper on your wedding. But, if he goes thought with it....he loves you to much to let you down.
2007-08-30 02:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is even more excited about the idea of being married than I am (and I think it's a pretty cool thing!). He even has some general ideas of what he'd like the wedding to be like. But, as with most men, he has no experience planning a large, elegant, social event with a bunch of details (a Super Bowl party for the guys is as sophisticated a thing he's ever put together). He has no idea how to make a wedding happen. It's hard to get excited about details you don't understand. I run everything by him, so he's as involved as he's comfortable with. But, let's face it, left to his own devices, would he create centerpieces and design invitations and programs? Would he even know to contact a florist? In most men's worlds, these kinds of things just magically happen, and so they don't even know what there is to be involved in. So, the details of the wedding he's not so excited about, but the future of our marriage, he is. That's way more important to me!
2007-08-30 03:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think you're being a bit overdramatic and bitter? Think of it this way - how many guys do you know who are interested in picking out flowers? How about in clothes shopping? Do you know any men who like to pick out candles, ribbons, or jewelry? Planning for a wedding involves a lot of really girly tasks, so you can't possibly expect a guy to be as excited about it as his bride. My husband was excited about helping to plan the "guy" aspects of the wedding, cars and food - he picked a huge escalade limo and helped to taste-test and pick the food.
However, if the guy is, in fact, "miserable" about the IDEA of getting married, he shouldn't be getting married.
And guys don't ALWAYS have bachelor parties where they "get laid as much as possible." In fact, I don't know of a single quality guy who does that. Even most of the ones who go to strip clubs just watch and then go home. My husband went out do dinner with some friends before our wedding, and they gave him some gag gifts (like sex toys and a whip) for our honeymoon. His best friend had a picnic with all of his guy friends, and took his groomsmen out for shaves the morning of the wedding.
Perhaps if you worked on your attitude a little, you'd have an easier time finding a quality guy.
2007-08-30 02:23:40 · answer #4 · answered by greeneyes_bjb 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most men do not care for details, and unfortunately that's what most of the wedding is about. For example, it doesn't matter a bit to the groom what type of flowers are in the church, or even if there are flowers there at all. Whether your bridesmaids are in green or blue doesn't matter. Centerpieces? Who cares, he thinks. He of course cares about the marriage, but it's hard for him to get excited for the wedding. For them, gushing over color swatches IS one of the most miserable things they can do.
He does typically care about the reception, because to him it's just a big party, and he wants to throw the best party. So the drinks packages and the music will probably be the two things he'll get the most involved with.
Also, I have never heard of a groom getting laid at his bachelor party in real life. If you are concerned about the party, talk with him about it. He needs to keep his conduct in check with what you're comfortable with, but at the same time, you need to trust him.
2007-08-30 02:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my fiance is just as excited as i am! he picked the place to get married and where the reception is, he is having a client of his father's (he owns a car shop where he restores classic cars) to let us drive a car of his from the ceremony to the reception site. plus i also run ideas by him before making a final decision.
I do know of a few guys who fooled around at their bachelor party, which is very wrong, but other than that i don't think guys do, and if they do they shouldn't be getting married. I trust my guy not to do anything like that.
There are a lot of guys who don't want to get involved with the planning, who would be just as happy to have a jop ceremony. men just aren't wired for planning such big events and can find it boring. very few get involved and i am glad mine is. and i do not think you have an attitude, you just want to know why!
2007-08-30 03:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by nytengayle13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, my husband was very excited about our wedding day - he planned most of the wedding and we used his creative ideas. He even made our wedding cake, being a pastry chef and specializing in cakes. It worked out absolutely great! Married now 2 years, together for 4 years. It basically comes down to meeting the right guy, which I did.
2007-08-30 02:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
women often have bachelorette parties as well. i don't think anyone believes that either of these parties is to have sex with a bunch of people before the big day.
i think men do get excited about the big day. however, since they usually are excluded from a lot of the planning, because the bride has her mind set on HER dream wedding it doesn't hit him until the day of. you will often see men getting emotional as they watch their bride walk down the aisle.
i also think that men don't sit around and cluck like hens for hours and hours about the pros and cons of white ribbon versus ivory ribbon. that doesn't mean they aren't happy to get married. after all, it is typically men that do the proposing.
2007-08-30 02:21:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think men see what it does to their girl and how it makes him & the fiance the center of attention and they don't always like that.
Do you really think a guy wants to sit down and pick out wedding colors or china patterns for the registry?
Also, before you get engaged everyone is asking when you will get married. Once you announce the engagement it moves to "whens the wedding" and "when will you start having kids". That is alot of pressure.
2007-08-30 02:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First up, girls make it clear, directly or indirectly, that a wedding is about them. Even going as far as prescribing the type of suit we should wear during the day. So what else is there for a guy to do? Besides, we're too sick thinking about Post-Bachelor Trauma that we have no idea of what's going on. Having someone invade your space, and not just for Friday night, but for your entire life is too traumatic for me. I guess that's my excuse for not being married even now.
2007-08-30 02:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by mq2 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋