My husband and I got married very young. It wasn't exactly the dream wedding....more like a few family members in the town hall. So, I have really been looking forward to renewing our vows on our 10 year anniversary (in about a year and a half). I was going to do it in Florida, on the beach but I decided to do it in New Jersey so that all of my family and friends can attend. We are in the Newark/Jersey City area. I would really appreciate any suggestions!! Thanks a lot!!
2007-08-30 01:39:06 · 12 answers · asked by alk24238 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, I have to admit that I am a little shocked at how negatively some people are taking this. First of all, I plan on having a ceremony with a chaplain instead of judge...that is something that is important to me. Second, it's NOT about the "gifts" or the "bridesmaids" or any superficial thing like that. I DO NOT look at this as a wedding...I want to RENEW my vows in front of all my friends and family. No gifts required at all....So, please, if you are going to lecture me about me trying to have the wedding I never had or whatever, then just don't answer because those are NOT my intentions. Thank you to all the positive answers who understand where I am coming from!!!
2007-08-30 10:09:42 · update #1
Ignore the naysayers. You both have been together for TEN YEARS! That is amazing compared to other relationships! You have every right in the world to have a celebration and to have it however you want it!
My aunt and uncle had a vow renewal service. She wore a beautiful white wedding dress and they had everything that goes along with a wedding there. They did not register for gifts, as they have been together forever, but they still got gifts from friends and family. It was a very beautiful ceremony and reception.
Check out http://www.theknot.com for site locations.
Celebrate your vow renewal however YOU want to celebrate it. I only suggest no registries, since you have been together ten years you should be set on items for the house.
Congrats, and Hope you have a wonderful Vow Renewal Ceremony!
2007-08-30 03:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
A Year and a half from now would put you right around christmas 08, not a really good time for a beach wedding. Especially in Jersey. A little chilly.
I am in DE but have performed ceremonies in Cape May and it is exquisite there. Why not have your big day down there? It can be a sort of mini destination wedding.
The fact that you are celebrating 10 years is wonderful and I commend you for it. I say go all out. Have it the way you want. Make you happy..
Of course etiquette says dont ask for gifts, so make it be known that none are expected.
Congratualtions on your tenth.
2007-08-30 05:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by psstoffagain 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Since you've suggested you'd like an outdoor wedding I found some Jersey sites to help you locate a out door place. I aslo came across some wedding sites local to you. I'm not sure there's anything there pertaining to your question but it provides a lot of information that could be helpful none the less. When you think of beaches in jersey it's wildwood, AC or cape may that area of the state (at least from the Pa view). Not necessarily wedding beaches so much but, i've included links to the states page referencing the beaches of NJ as well as states links to a tourism page (has listings of the gardens and arboretums in state) and the parks and forests listings page. You should be able to find something. Jersey is a beautiful state the further you move away from NYC/Newark and has a ton of history (maybe a historical site?). You should be able to find an absolutely lovely place. Good luck and Congrats!
http://www.state.nj.us/dep/beaches/
http://www.state.nj.us/jerseyfresh/agritourismhome.htm#gardens
http://www.state.nj.us/dep/parksandforests/
http://www.njwedding.com/default.cfm
http://www.newjerseybride.com/
2007-08-30 01:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
congratulations on the renewal ceremony why not have a hawaiian themed wedding with tiki torches, and stuff like that it would be cool and u can still have the beach theme without the sand in the food and stuff like that. plan it the way u wanted to do it the first timje and dont let no one talk u out of this or tell u uare wrong for doing it, lots of people on here will do this and its really not their decision but yours. read my wedding menu on food and drink/entertaining and see what u think, and then go to my profile if u want i am going to add u as a contact so i can get your questions and answer them if u want me too. take care and plan this the way u want ... god bless u and your family and have a good day...
2007-08-30 06:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A vow renewal is NOT another wedding, nor a do-over for the style of wedding you didn't have. Your wedding was what it was, whatever the circumstances were.
So a renewal of vows is a ceremony you have somewhere - at a church or another location, followed by basically an anniversary party - dinner and drinks for your family and close friends, most often at your home. No wedding dress, no attendants, no gifts - just a nice anniversary celebration!
2007-08-30 03:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
my only suggestion is as some others have already said. you already got married...young or not, wedding of your dreams or not, a vow renewal is not another wedding. it should be simple and small (the big party should be for 50 years) all your friends and family is taking it a bit over the top. I was married young too and just had a small wedding, but I'm not about to go out and do it all over again. I chose to marry young and I chose that small wedding...nobody forced me. so I suggest maybe having an outdoor ceremony maybe in your backyard or a family members and then having like a BBQ or something like that.
2007-08-30 03:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Vow renewal for a landmark anniversary like 10 yrs is a great idea. Congratulations to you both! Youll be fine with whatever you do, as long as its a renewal, not a mock wedding. No wedding dress, tux, flower girls, gift registry, you get the idea. A renewal and a party to celebrate your anniversary.
2007-08-30 02:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Whoa! I was with you 100% until I got to that "all my family and friends" part. I sympathize with all the brides and grooms who, for whatever reason, were unable to have a glitzy bash to celebrate their marriage's beginning. But I beg them to accept that the past is gone and it's too late. You CAN'T have a wedding NOW -- you're already married!
Now if what you mean is that you want to have a small gathering of nearest friends and relatives to see you renew your vows and THEN go on to a big catered 10th anniversary party -- well go for it!
But if you are wanting to have a set of matched bridesmaids waiting as you float down the aisle in an elaborate white gown before the admiring eyes of 200 of your closest friends -- forget it. You'll look silly trying to palm off what is at best a rerun as a premiere performance. Many of those who are invited will interpret you invitation as "fishing for presents". Don't do it.
2007-08-30 02:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You can still do it on the beach if you like - - search the net for 'beach weddings in New Jersey'.
Treat your renewal like a wedding when searching, you will get more results.
I believe Jenkinson's or Martell's in Pt. Pleasant might have something.
For a more regular kind of place, check out Nanina's in the park. Its on the Belleville side of Branch Brook Park - - lovely and if you do it in good weather you could have tons of photo ops in the park!!
2007-08-30 01:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
this sounds similar to my husband and i. we married at 20 & 21. we stuck to a budget that we could afford, so we weren't able to have our dream wedding either. our parents were both very supportive, but his were strapped for cash and my dad's a penny pincher. i have considered a vow renewal, but i wonder if it will live up to my expectations so many years after being married and whether i could/should get the big dress or something more simple. decisions, decisions.
http://www.superweddings.com/theweddingexpert2.html
http://honeymoons.about.com/cs/vowrenewals/a/Vow_Renewal.htm
2007-08-30 02:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋