I sort of already know the answer but I need some help.
My exgirlfriend is 12 and I'm 14 and we've been together twice but my exgirlfriend both times wanted a secret relationship because people tend to be a little imature in high school if they know anyone in those relationships, so we only ever told her bestfriends.
The first time we were together I tpld everyone and we broke up not because of that but because my exgirlfriend's bestfriend Steph had been bullied and she took it out on me a my ex so we thought it was because of us being together so we split up and I rang Steph that night so she told me whay she was upset and then by time the next day my ex had found out what I'd done and said she didn't want to go out with me again but we stayed friends.
About a month later my exgirlfriend asked if I wanted to kiss behind the Science Block and we got back together again on the same terms and this time I respected them and told no one.
I was a bit nervous about kissing so...
2007-08-30 01:27:23 · 14 answers · asked by Lily R 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...we didn't do it straight away but when I was ready and asked if my ex wanted to go round the Science Block she said no cos I'd aparently been telling everyone again, when I hadn't told anyone, this time I even refused to tell her bestfriends apart from Steph who knew from the beginning. A few days before a kid who was my ex's age had a lucky guess of who I was going out with cos I did say I had a girlfriend but no matter is I said Yes or No he'd still know who I was going out with cos no means yes to him and yes means yes so I said he was wrong gave him a fake name and said she went to a different but he still went to my ex and said I told everyone and seen as he knew that was proof anoth and now my ex doesn't want to go out with me again.
Me and my ex stayed friends and still are and now she has a boyfriend but I still love her alot and I no longer even want to get over her now. About a month ago my ex told me the truth about why...
2007-08-30 01:28:08 · update #1
she dumped which is the story above and it made me really angry at this kid as it was really hard to get my ex back and he's now got it so she hardly trusts me.
Yesterday I decided to ring Steph cos I've only really been posting questions on here about my ex and Steph's the reason me and my ex got together both times. When my ex fell in love with me, Steph helped my ex out and when my ex dumped me Steph helped me win her back. First time I asked for Steph's help this time Steph said I should back off but yesterday after I told her the whole story she said I should tell her what really happened and she can't hate me if I've done nothing wrong and I may have the chance I want in the future. I know she's right but I get incredibly nervous, the first time me and my ex were together I gave her my phone number in an e-mail cos we always e-mail each other if we're talking about our feelings for each other, and I thought she'd dump me because I'd sent her my phone number,when I knew she...
2007-08-30 01:29:15 · update #2
...wouldn't. Now though I'm even more nervous cos I've only got her as a friend now and I know telling her the truth will make her trust me again but I know if I muck it up she'll no longer even be a friend.
What should I do?
Should I do what steph says and tell her the truth?
2007-08-30 01:30:16 · update #3
I'm sorry if it's to long and complicated.
2007-08-30 01:37:55 · update #4
Sorry, Oria C. One quick question ,since when did kissing mean sex.
2007-08-30 01:42:03 · update #5
I never had sex with her.
2007-08-30 01:44:49 · update #6
of corse you should tell her the truth!! how else will she know!!!! you have to take a deep breath and do it.
and where does it say they were having sex???? please someone point this out, am i being stupid??
2007-08-30 01:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
God that was a big story!!
Tell her the truth and leave the ball in her court, honesty is always the best policy and remember, no one can ever say anything against you or judge you when you've told the truth.
I know this is a really big deal to you but honestly, in a few years it wont matter any more, you've got a lot of growing up to do and one day - way into the future you will not be scared or nervous and friends wont tell stories about you and you will find someone you truly love and who loves you in return.
I know you don't want to hear that but it is true, one day you wont even remember either of their names.
Good luck wee man, I hope it all works out for you.
Orla C - He never mentioned sex - he's asking a reasonable question which pertains to his age group, get your mind out of the gutter and leave him alone - Do you remember being 14 or were you born an adult?
ROCK _you're talking to a young adult here, remember that - If a friends child came to your house asking for advice you wouldn't call them a pervert in a million years so don't do it on here!
2007-08-30 01:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by threecraws 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes of course you should tell her the truth, if only to set the record straight. If you are really nervous about calling her write her a letter. Then you can say what you want. Once you have done this though, leave the ball in her court and let her think about it for a while.
Just one question, you say your relationship was secret at school, is she seeing the new guy on the same terms or is she going out publicly with him?
2007-08-30 04:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oliver: I aint answering this, Roweta is.
Roweta: When I first got together with Oliver, it was really his best friend, Ash, who got us together. Ash was the one who suggested that Oliver sing Redundant (Oliver chose the song, Ash just suggested that he seranade me) and Jake, their other best friend/bassist for their band, quickly became my best friend and told me that Oliver and I would make a great couple. How right he was! Jake also said this to Oliver, and that's one of the milestones that got us together! Ollie will give you the short version.
Oliver: The short answer is yes. For the long answer- you've just read it!
2007-08-30 02:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by AG Bellamy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well best friends are'nt always right. But they can put forward their ideas which can be helpful or not. Anyway tell Charley exactly what happened and tell her also HONESTLY that you have'nt gotten over her by the way and probably never will. She'll appreciate the honesty.Good luck
2007-08-30 01:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you really want to go out with this girl then tell her the truth, honesty is always best, if your ex really likes you then she will except what you say, as for kissing there is nothing to be nervous about just let it happen naturally and I'm sure it will be great.
2007-08-30 01:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by fruitcake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two are 12 and 14 and having sex? Good gracious. No wonder she didn't want anyone else knowing .... and here you are putting it on the Internet. If I were you, I would delete this question and just concentrate on getting better marks at school, and she should do the same. Leave the girls for later.
2007-08-30 01:38:52 · answer #7 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't be sorry. I doubt there is a person with so much patience to read your whole question. I didn't read it anyway. Make it short if you want smb. to reply.
2007-08-30 01:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just call it"friends'' for right now and if she suddenly wants ya to be more than just friends then go for it.good luck.
2007-08-30 01:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Crystal B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends and maybe in time you can become more than friends!!!
2007-08-30 07:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋