He sits next to me in homeroom and he is really nice and we have alot in commen. i know this sounds shallow but im already not popular and he asked me to the dance. Im scared of what people will think.HELP??
2007-08-30 01:08:14 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know exactly how you feel,i have been in your situation, but if you like him you should go to the dance with him. be yourself and try not 2 care about the people. i no its hard, but would you be happier at the dance with a guy you like or sat at home watching tv????
luv Jadey
2007-08-30 01:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 options:
Option 1= go to the dance with this boy and have a fun time. Enjoy being young while you can and have some fun.
Option 2= don't go to the dance with this boy and sit home alone on a Friday night...gee doesn't sound so fun...
Popularity is a relative term...I mean, I was in band and theater and a bunch of other stuff. I wasn't "popular" with the cheerleaders and such, but I had a bunch of friends from all the groups I was in. I could hang out with whoever I wanted to. I did lots of fun stuff and had a great time. Some of those "freaky looking people" are some of those coolest, most fun people when you get to know them.
My advice is "don't judge a book by its cover." Some people will probably tease you, but a lot of this is only because they are jealous that you are comfortable enough with yourself to do what you want.
2007-08-30 01:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by princess_dnb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only a hair cut. If you live your life because of what people will think you will not step a foot out of your house, because there is always some one that will not like you for something you do. You can not let some one else pick your friends. As long as he is not doing anything illegal, what's the problem. Don't worry about being popular, sometimes that puts to much pressure on you to do what everyone else wants you to do, and you can't be yourself. Go have a good time.
2007-08-30 01:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not care what other people think. They are not you and beside, he likes and you say you guys have lots in common. As long as you are happy with each other, the rest don't matter. Being popular is not always a plus. He might turn out to be a great guy. So, give it a try. Just be careful.
2007-08-30 01:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by Je T'aime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to live the rest of your life in fear of what other people think?
Do you think that you will be more popular by turning the guy down?
If the answer to either of these questions is yes, then by all means, hurt this guy.
Otherwise, think about it this way. Anyone who would stop being your friend because you went to a dance with someone "weird" isn't your friend anyways.
Be careful, of course - even if the guy looked "normal" you would need to do that.
But don't spend your life trying to please people who are not even your friends!
2007-08-30 01:13:38 · answer #5 · answered by Larry V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were secure with yourself, you would not care. If he is nice and you have a lot in common, then why not? Also, just ask him to tone down the color of the Mohawk for the dance. I know that some people with Mohawks like to color them blue, or red or green. Does he just have the Mohawk or does he have weird piercings? Now that might make me say no, but if it is just his hair, go for it and have a great time!
2007-08-30 01:20:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If people only like you because you meet their standards and you dont give the boy the time of day because of what people think then you are cheating yourself. Their will alwasys be someone who doesnt approve. Do what makes you happy as long as it is not something wrong or immoral. It takes courage and self confidance to be yourself even if it is differant then the norm. Besides it is a persons insides that matter most.
Kathy
2007-08-30 01:14:56 · answer #7 · answered by c2god2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel lucky!
The guy you like, likes you back, and actually has the common sense to ask you to the dance.
Say yes, silly.
Who cares about what other people think.
After school years, popularity doesn't count. It's who you are and what you do that matters, always.
You must be a wonderful, unique person all on your own, and this guy actually can see that about you.
Savor it. Love the fact of all that.
Si-Lynn
2007-08-30 01:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you already aren't popular then what is there to lose. At least you will have someone to go to the dance with. I know it sounds like an adult thing to say, but kids in school are dumb. If they don't like you then who cares what they think. Even if they do like you and are judging you it shouldn't matter but i know it does. I say cut your losses and go to the dance with the kid.
2007-08-30 01:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if you like him and he likes you... that's all that matters :-)
You don't want to miss out on love because of popularity.... you know love will last a lifetime, popularity will only last as long as schools in.
I know it's hard being in high school .... the whole popularity thing sucks....
But dare to be different :-) You'll be better off in the end!
2007-08-30 01:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋