well,me and my fiancee is goin to wed on the next 4 months.both of us are soo excited!bcause this is what we've been waiting for.the prob is,my dad family doesnt like my fiancee.whom i've been with for more than 7 years.my fam told me that the reason why they don't like him,is bcause he came from different family background .his parents divorce when he was 13,and since that time,he lives by himself.then about his rehab story!i know he used to be a very bad guy,who grown up without anyone!
what should i do?i do love him soo much
im 25 and he is 27.he doesnt has any financial problem.and both of us dont have any children
2007-08-30 00:01:28 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now where exactly is your problem ? You say you love him and he loves you... thats basicly the reasonwhy two people should get married in the first place. About his background... who gives a damn what the boy´s been through in his past ? If I was in your place I would tell my dad to go´n suck wind, but then my father is a very understanding guy... Anyway, get married, get lucky, have many children... that´s your life, not your fathers.
2007-08-30 00:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you respect you father but honestly it has been seven years I know you have seen every side of this man. And if you love them all go for it. You have to realize no matter what no one will pro ably be good enough for you in your fathers eyes. And if the reason your father don't like him is cuz of his past then your father really needs to be told to grow up. I am sure your fathers life was not all peaches and cream. Ok your fiance's parents divorced when he was 13 Honestly I am sure he had alot to do with that. (Not really) and yeah he might of had other problems but your father needs to open his eyes and realize that your fiancee has grown up and taken control of those issues One last thing if your father can't tell he makes you happy then he pro ably does need an eye opener. I say have a long deep conversation with your father if that don't work I say do what it is that makes you happy. You can not please everyone in and around your life and if you try your life will be miserable
2007-08-30 09:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by MEMYMOM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't around to advise your parents about whether they should have married or not, why let them decide who you marry? You're an adult, not a child. Look around you, everyone has a different story, even if they look great on the outside, everybody's had something to deal with in life, not everybody can have the same great family history either. If he's dealt with his rehab, your parents shouldn't hold that against him. You need to give yourself permission to live your life, and your parents need to do the same. They need to let go and trust that they did a fabulous job raising you, but they do not get to decide who you love and who you marry. That is all your choice. You might have to stand your ground but no matter what, it's a shame that your parents are withholding their blessing on you. Maybe now it's they who need to learn from you (not to be so close-minded). Congratulations by the way!
2007-08-30 07:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your problem is you yourself have doubts about your fiance, or your father's opinion wouldn't matter that much to you. If you have been with this man for seven years of your adulthood, you should know him far better than anyone else. Nobody's perfect (dad), but listen to your inner voice, myself. Is there something that you are not looking at straight-on? Or are you just not ready to be married yet? You seem to be conflicted over something that should be simple: do I love him AND is he marriage material?
2007-08-30 07:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your folks are only trying to keep you from being hurt. Face it, this guy was a user. What makes you think that when things get tough, and they will, he wont go back to useing again? Take a real look at what you are taking a chance on.
2007-08-30 07:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by jms043 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your father to have an open mind and to sit with your fiancee to find out more about him, as in his personality, not his background.
2007-08-30 07:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by Green Phantom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him. Marry him if you wish. Your parents are being very unreasonable. They arent happy so they dont want you to be happy.
2007-08-30 07:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋