I have been dating this same guy for 2 and a half years, in the beginning I could believe that if he said it he would do it. Now he tells me things and never deliever. I want to break it off but when I do he trys to make me feel bad. But what should I do , One thing is marriage, for a while now he has told me everyday it is gonna happin , I cant bank on that , we never made a date , no rings are not place on hold so how do I know , just by what he says? Ladies ever had this type guy how did you cope? Maybe he is imature? Or possibly wasting my time so I wont go else where? What should I do? Men reply also, I would like to know what's up with this dude!!!
2007-08-29 22:10:02 · 9 answers · asked by Gingersweet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need our assessment of what you should do?
wake up lady before it is too late.
DUMP the Jerk.
2007-08-29 22:14:23 · answer #1 · answered by bgee2001ca 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stand back and look at this...he promises you things and then he's tries to make you feel bad? That's not a good sign. Imagine you had a sister or best friend in your same shoes...what would your advice be to her?
You've been with him 2.5 years, that's enough time to know whether or not somebody wants to get married. That's enough time to have saved up and bought a ring by now. You'll never know if he's just charming you on or if he really plans to follow thru unless you leave him. If he comes after you, you'll know, and if not, you'll also know. Considering his feelings is nice and all, but you are neglecting your own, don't you think so? There's guys out there who will follow thru on their words with actions. How much more time do you want to wait for something that might never happen is the question, and that's what you have to decide.
2007-08-29 22:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by Amy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's nervous about making things happen for you. You're not so clear on what's actually happening. Is he being obviously a jerk towards you or timid?
If you feel like nothing is getting anywhere with this guy...then you need to figure out what's really tying you down with him. Because you dont HAVE to stay with him.
Is he really ready for marriage? Because that is a huge commitment.
I always thought that the feeling should be right. You should just KNOW that this is it, this is what i want and nothing should stop me from accomplishing what i want to happen (such as marriage).
If he's not game, he may need more time than he is saying.
Maybe you guys need to talk things out...Have you done that? Talk eveyrthing out or he still says th same thing to you?
If you done all that is possible, than the answer should be clear on what you need to do that is best for you.
Si-Lynn
Good Luck
2007-08-29 22:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he loves you, but is afraid to make a commitment. I have heard of men like this. I never had one, all of the men I ever dated delivered. This guy has issues. I would tell him that he has three months to produce a ring and set a date, and if it is not done in that time frame, you are not going to waste any more of your time on a pipe dream. He can take his hot air someplace else. I wish you the best, and hope chicken boy starts to act like a man.
2007-08-29 22:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by gigi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you now dating my ex boyfriend??? ;-)))
Give yourself a break from him, and see how you feel without him. he may also like having his independence back, who knows. If marriage is your goal and not his move on. We never got back together again, although he wanted me back. Our relationship wasn't going anywhere or in the same direction. Sad but true. He was really a sweetheart. Good luck to you both.
2007-08-29 22:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by kick it 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my personal experiences, men will say anything that you want to hear to either shut you up or get what they want out of you. Some of them feel guilty and actually do it, but the majority just talks with no action!!
2007-08-29 22:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the time.
2007-08-29 22:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by dtravelbiz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only telling us the things HE doesnt do - what about the things YOU dont do - its always the guys fault - blame them for everything, blah, blah, blah - WHY dont you do something about it and if he gets cold feet he will run away!!!
2007-08-29 22:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
THATS WAT WE DO
2007-08-29 22:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by blackboi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋