he didnt trust anyone like me, no one was good to him like me and if he ever was with anyone else, he would be lying in bed thinking, gosh, he could have had me and regret it all his life, yet he met this women, lusted for her, and married her. We are both christians so I will not and I know he will not contact me either. But I am so heart broken and still love him, I know we were meant to be together and I know he loves me. I went to counseling, at church and private, both told me there is no way she will ever have the place in his heart he had with me, we also have known each other for about 20 yrs and 3 times been brought together. They said he has to be very sad inside too, he called me up to the day befor he married and told me his missed me and loved me. is there still hope? I really want a guys prospective too. we go to the same church and I have avoided running into him for 5 mts.this is too hard.
2007-08-29 21:50:11 · 10 answers · asked by none n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even though there has been many signs for you 2 to be together, There was apparently a bigger sign for him to be with his now wife. God works in mysterious ways, and he is not trapped in the relationship he has now. He is fulfilling the life he was meant to lead. You need to pull yourself together and fulfill yours. Time means nothing when follwing the ways of God.
2007-08-29 21:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by *star chick* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop right now! I'm trying not to be mad (and I'm upset to see someone hurt like this for so long, and to see that you let him treat you this way at all) because I just see you hurting yourself, and it seems like you don't even know it. Let's break this down, from Christian to Christian:
"he could have had me and regret it all his life"
But he didn't choose you. Actions speak louder than words, so you were apparently not the girl of his dreams. You have to realize that right now, and not believe the words he spewed from his mouth.
"But I am so heart broken and still love him, I know we were meant to be together and I know he loves me"
Stop wishing you two were together! Not only is it over between the two of you, but he married another woman! As a Christian, you should know that this puts him forever out of your bounds. Here I'll quote Jesus: "a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh" (Matthew 19:5). You were not meant to be together, apparently. He married someone else! So please, mostly for yourself, stop hoping for something that will never happen.
"I went to counseling, at church and private, both told me there is no way she will ever have the place in his heart he had with me, we also have known each other for about 20 yrs and 3 times been brought together."
Whatever place this woman takes in his heart compared to you is no longer your business...and being jealous of this woman is keeping you from starting the healing process that you should be going through to get over this guy.
"he called me up to the day befor he married and told me his missed me and loved me"
He lied. Maybe he missed you, but he certainly didn't love you. Love is a commitment, not a spur-of-the-moment thing, and he made a commitment to someone else for the rest of his life.
"we go to the same church and I have avoided running into him for 5 mts"
I'm sorry to hear this, but I can understand. Are there different worship services so that you could attend the one you know he doesn't go to? But you should not let one of God's children keep you from getting together with other Christians and worshipping the Lord.
I wish you luck from one Christian to another. And please, change your perspective. He wasn't forced to marry the other woman. His heart just wasn't for you. He should have known better as a Christian and a person than to hurt you like this. Please realize this so that you can move on, and heal your heart for the person to whom it really belongs, once you find him. God bless.
2007-08-30 05:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by wizball 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest moving on. He says these things but why hasn't he proposed to you? He said he loves you but why hasn't he proposed to you? That sounds very strange. You should just move to a new town, seek professionals counsiling, and find someone that will say these things and put the ring on your finger and stop playing these games that will only hurt you in the end.
2007-08-30 04:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not good at all-give it time, if his marriage don't last, see what happens, maybe he'll wanna go back to you someday, does his wife know about you? all you can do is stay friends, or even good friends-as long that you've known each other, don't hate him or ignore him,-good luck
2007-08-30 05:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He called the day before he married to say he loved you, and he is breaking your heart? Get wise to yourself.
2007-08-30 05:00:27 · answer #5 · answered by joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is complicated. she could have asked him to prove his love by getting married. whatever the reason for their marriege, you should try and respect it. Talk to him and find out where his emotions and feelings lie.
2007-08-30 05:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he chosed to be married to someone else, mean u are never been in his heart at all, so don't listen to him, be smarter and wiser.
2007-08-30 04:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by moonrider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm......... ur boy friend, loved u and then dumped u????????????????????????????????
so how can he be still loving u?????????
he just wants both of u
ur letting him destroy ur life!!!!!!!!
show him that u dont care (even if u do)
he cant be called a "true love"
2007-08-30 05:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is somebody else FOR EVERYBODY
2007-08-30 04:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by BDP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cool ....welcome to life Baby!
2007-08-30 04:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋