Ok so the problem starts like this
many years ago my friends parents split when she was only a little girl. just recently her dad was acting weird the past few days.1 night we heard him say "i love you". we thought he had a girlfirend and were both excited but scared to ask him. so she made a fake msn messenger as a random guy and added her father. she started asking him questions and said if he was single. it turns out that her father had been in an open relationship with his flat mate who is male for 10 years and had lied to her for all these years. till this day he doesnt no that she knows anout him being bisexual. she absolutly hates his flat mate and so do i,but not because of this issue. my friend doesnt care that her father is bi but cares that he has lied to her all this time. but what should she do.. keep quite or tell him that she knows but doesnt care that he's bi.? or do u suggest something else. thank you so much!
2007-08-29 21:27:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
p.s no body knows about this not even his best friend
2007-08-29 21:44:47 · update #1
its not just that he's bi that he's been lieing about. there is other stuff to that make the suituation worse. like he apparently has 8 other brothers but she only knows 3 of them.
2007-08-30 00:58:11 · update #2
i mean SHE has 8 brothers
2007-08-30 00:59:00 · update #3
If your friend has a reasonably open relationship with her father, talking to him about his misleading her is essential. When the issue of basic trust arises and one feels betrayed, feelings can be hurt and bad thoughts harbored forever. She will feel better if she tells dad that Bi is ok but dishonest isn't. He's probably very embarrassed but should be man enough to understand and listen to her feelings.
2007-08-29 21:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is angry because her father did not tell her a personal fact about her life. He probably doesn't feel comfortable discussing his sexuality with his daughter.
Yet your friend tricks her father, and lies to him, pretending to be a random guy to get to the truth.
Think about it. Does your friend look like she is in the right here?
2007-08-30 00:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The guy isn't Bi he is gay and her mother probably has something to do with him keeping this secret. Some times parents keep things from their kids to protect them.
2007-08-29 21:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by Belinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow your dad is something iguess. well she can tell him she knows hes bi or whatever and come clean. hes afrid he wold lose her i am sue that is why hes never told her it would be nice for both of the to come clean. as for the other relatives in his life i can't aiimagine why hes kept that an i think i would tell him and see what he has to say just for curiostly.
2007-09-06 14:56:21 · answer #4 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she tricked him into telling her intimate details of his life, then she is no better than him for lying.
The whole bi thing? Disgusto!
2007-09-06 15:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by DawnanawnaBB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...this sounds complicated. but i think your friend should acknowledge the fact that she knows her dad is a bi-. like seriously.
it just doesn't sound right for her dad to not know.
2007-08-29 21:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's keeping such a big part of his life a secret, then what else could be be hiding?
2007-08-29 21:34:09 · answer #7 · answered by Shaggy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋