i was really mad at my *boyfriend* cause everyone kept telling me that he was using me for money (which started to make SO much sense) , and just when i finally got over the heartbreak, just when i started to get used of ignoring him, he called me (i was usually the one that called him so it caught me off gaurd) and asked if i want to go to the mall with him and his friend (they said it was cause we had SO much fun the last time.. even though i barely talked!) ~ so i said no cause i had the feeling that he was trying to get some cash out of me.
and he was being all cute with me, begging and stuff, but i still said no, i felt bad all night and kept on thinking on whether im doing the right thing?
2007-08-29 21:24:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guess what hon......... you did the right thing!! When someone really cares for you, they're not pushey and don't beg. They don't put demands on you or try and manipulate you either. Your decision shows that your self-esteem is improving a lot. You did the right thing and I'm proud of you!
2007-08-29 22:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by wildflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. Why the mall ? Becasue he was going to tap you for cash again. If he calls again, and you really want to see him for the sake of it, then see him somewhere that is free- like a park. When you suspect that someone has another reason for spending time for you rather than because they like, respect and enjoy your company, you are right to trust your instincts. If hea really wants to see you, he'll call again. In the meantime, spend time with your real friends and enjoy company that does not demand cash from you.
2007-08-30 04:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by sass c 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you paid attention to a red flag. I don't know how much attention I would give to what others say. Maybe to be fair, ask him why he wants you to go to the mall. Or just be honest and tell him you didn't want to go because you thought he was trying to get you to buy things for him. But it's probably better not to have told him this when he asked you to go, because he would've denied it and pestered you even more.
2007-08-30 04:33:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jonathan H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You definitely did the right thing.
That sounds to me that he's using you for money.
I'm glad that you didn't give in to him and went along to the mall.
He might as well be a gold digger.
2007-08-30 04:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by jigga_0824 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How certain are you that he is using you for your money? does he ask you to buy him lots of stuff, or never repay borrowed money?
Otherwise it could be that your friends made you see something that wasn't there. Ask him why he wants you to go.
2007-08-30 04:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by Maggs 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know you did! Your not his sugar mama! he needs to grow up and get some of his own moneys!
2007-08-30 04:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by brandi g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋