Rules in the Islamic faith question?

Question

my boyfriend is Muslim and I've been studing the Islamic faith.
i just have one question.
is kissing against Islamic rules?
and if you have any other rules you can tell me, it would be much appreciated. thanks.

Answer 1

Just to let you know ...... the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing is strictly forbidden in Islam to the point that men and women are forbidden from even looking at one another (unless they are related by blood or married to one another).

"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do."
( سورة النور , An-Noor, Chapter #24, Verse #30)

"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.)......" ( سورة النور , An-Noor, Chapter #24, Verse #31)

The phrase "protect their private parts" means not to have relations outside of marriage, whether it be sleeping together or even kissing, because kissing can lead on to other things, no matter how one may try to avoid it.

Here is a fatwa (religious ruling) on forbidding relations before marriage.

Relations Before Marriage.
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Question:

What is the view of the religion concerning [premarital] relations?

Answer:

If the questioner means by “before marriage,” before consummation of the marriage but after the contract, then there is no harm in such relations since she is his wife by virtue of the contract, even though they have not decorously consummated the marriage. However, if it is before the marriage, such as during the period of engagement or otherwise, such contact is forbidden and impermissible. It is not allowed for a man to enjoy a non-related women’s company, either by speech, look or private company. It is confirmed the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) said,
''A man cannot be alone with a women except in the presence of [one of her] mahram . And a women cannot travel except with a mahram .'' [1]

In sum, if that contact or association is after contract, there is no harm in it. If it is before the marriage ceremony, even if it is after the proposal and acceptance, it is not allowed. Such behaviour is forbidden for him since the women is a non-relative and non-wife until they conclude the marriage contract.

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[1] Recorded Muslim.Al-Bukhari has something similar.

Shaykh Muhammad bin Saalih al-`Uthaymeen
Islamic Fatawa Regarding Women - Darussalam Pg. 195-196

I hope this helps answer your question. For any other advise please feel free to visit my home page at: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/WELCOME-2-ISLAM/

Answer 2

Okay I know how you do feel!!!
You are the type of Christen that I really respect because you know how to think!!!!! And so polite I thank you for that.
Dear asker yes you can not kiss your boyfriend if he is a Muslim. it is clear yah?
But you could do anther thing support him to conceder getting married with you!!!!!!!! You seem a nice caring yang woman!!! You may ask me why I would do that.
Well I tell you why you will guarantee his love for you 1
You make sure that he will never cheat on you 2
You will know how serous he is in your relationships 3
When you understand what his all about then it will be nicer!!

Anther advice try today to not letting him kiss you and spice your relation with him!!!! Like in the movies you want something but you can have it!!!!!!
Tell you get married then you will see how amazing it is to wait for that moment to have a nice comfortable and carry and loving kiss from him, and I have not talked about making love too!!!!

So please consider what I have told you yah
You do not need to make him sinful just to please a desire does not take more then 30 min or may be one hour. Would you for both of you I am talking your religion and his. The same thing applies to both of you. oh by the way you could keep your own religion too!!! more to the story our prophet Muhammad صلى اللة علية و سلأم
he was married to a christen women then she shoos to become a Muslim.
Good luck

Answer 3

Its pretty much any physical contact with soemone of the opposite sex that you are not related to or married to that isn't necessary.....unless they are children or elderly.

So if you are a guy and a girl is gonna fall of a cliff or something you can grab her.

Some people argue about shaking hands. Argument here is that if you're at a business meeting or something and trying to sell an idea or whatever to someone of the opposite sex....if you don't shake their hand when you greet them, that right there could be enough that they aren't interested. So its "necessary" to make this physical contact.....others will say no....just don't do business with those people then if it matters that much.

And with all religions....people tend to pick and choose the things to follow and the things to ignore.

Answer 4

Email me if you have any questions hun.
I'm a white female, converting to Islam, my fiance is also a Muslim.
I've been through just about everything trying to understand the religion the best I can, and i think i'm doing pretty well.

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:)

Answer 5

Out of marriage relationship of intimacy between boy and girl are not advised in Islam.

If both partners are seriouse they may go for legal marriage, as Muslims.

Out of marriage relationship may leads to so many propblems, and this can be witnessed in our society now, if we have open eyes.

Peace:)

Answer 6

kissing someone who is not your husband or a relative to you is against the rules.
this site might help you better understand Islam and if you are studying Islam as a religion for you then I hope you become our sister very soon (:
http://www.islamqa.com/index.php?ln=eng
if you have any question feel free to email me it's my pleasure to help

Answer 7

even if it does if I were you I wouldn't put myself second to some ideology or religion what's it for anyway ?
if he can;t break his faith for you then he doesn't care enough to be in love either .