Ok, I have this problem with my bf. Whenever he travels away, he completely forgets about me, he calls me once a day and says he loves me and misses me and he is sorry for not calling so often but its coz he is busy. When he is in town, he is crazy about me and my phone doesn't stop ringing even if we don’t meet but when he is in town he is so much into me. BUT once he is away, he is different. What does this mean? I interpret this as he doesn't really love me or not that into me and when I get mad at him and tell him that he doesn’t love me HE gets mad and upset (stealing my thunder). If I try to ignore the fact that he is not calling and I stop calling him he says that I don’t miss him! I’m puzzled. This happens every time he travels; I don't know how to deal with this!!! I love him :-(
2007-08-29 19:49:40 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
relationships are all about sacrifice... he probably feels like he has to prove his love all the time when he's in town because he can't give you the attention you need or want when he's out of town. i think you guys could come to some sort of resolution about this if you just communicated with each other at a time when you weren't upset with his lack of contact, and when he wasn't feeling like you're upset with him. rational communication is the key. if you guys really love each other, which it sounds like you do, then you should be fine. good luck!
2007-08-29 20:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Lola 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this has two sides to the issue... firstly you become used to his frequent calls when he's in town and equate that to the level of affection.. and i don't blame you for being made to feel that you are needed. But when he's away, there are really many factors that come in, like cost of calls, time difference, need to focus at work... (this is something that you might want to clairfy with him). I travel alot and though i do not have anyone to call other than my mum who gets worried... still it really depends on the situation.
On the other hand, it might be that when he's in town, there's insecurity that persuades him to do what he's doing... thinking that you might be with another guy cos he was away... emm... its complicated... but i think the best is to both sit down and be open about this... so that it can be in the clear.
Both need to be understanding about this... as matured adults.
Hope this helps.
2007-08-30 03:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by BeatenLonely 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow wow wow.....ok well let me help you out here. It seems like you both are having trust problems and in any realationship that is a problem, if he says that he loves you then maybe you should hold him to his word and stop trying to track his every move. The only reason he gets mad is that when you tell a guy that calls you every minute to make up for the time he lost when he was out of that he dosent love you you might make him really think he dosent need to care for you if you complain when he tries to show he loves you. It's said that the power of visualtion is the strongest power humans have if you think that this man is the one you want to live with picture your life 10 years from now still with him and help him work pass the hardship in his life. If you really love him then you will stop and think for a minute about what you think needs to be done and talk with him about what you think the problems are in your realationship.
2007-08-29 20:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by sonoka5 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Out of site / out of mind.
when you travel for business your mornings start early 7 am and your evenings end late 9 PM. someone always feels the need to take you out for a long dinner to show they are hospitable on the company dime , when all you really want to do is go skip dinner / eat peanut butter crackers fast back in your hotel room, so that you can get your email work done and prepare for your next meeting in the AM, press your clothes, check into your flights and get a spot downstairs in the business center to print your boarding passes and snooze.
you may love your spouse very much , but i can assure you it can feel like you can't make one more phone call by the end of the day. usually you will have five messages from them during the day .
2007-08-29 20:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mildred S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop being so selfish. He is out of town because of work, so obviously he must be working thus he is busy. Come to terms with the fact that realistically he cant be thinking about you 24 7, and that there are times that he wont have the time to call you just to have to reassure you ONCE AGAIN that he loves you. What a bummer it must be for him to only get the chance to talk to you once a day, and he is forced to xplain himself and defend himself. You are mean.
2016-04-02 06:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be possible that he is busy, perhaps his job is one that needs his entire attention. But, in my opinion; there is always time to call a loved one.
Why don't you try this. Sit down w/ him & carefully explain how you feel. Include the differences in his calling you between the times he is at home & the time he is traveling. Its not fair that you be treated in two different ways, merely because of a physical distance.
Good luck!
2007-08-29 20:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by LuckyJack 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WHAT's UP EVE!!!! :-) We the regulars here on yahoo answers, who know and love you dearly, do understand sometimes that dramatic things happen in our lives and it make you go "DAMN".....Why???? In you situation, It seems as if I know you like a close friend (even though we holla on Y-Answers) trust me on this. Like the good book says...."And this too will come to past". Right now y'all are going through either SEXUAL WITHDRAWAL SYNDROME or the "I can't stand your azz right now-but-i-still-luv-you-to death" Disorder. That makes some of the best love making ever!!! SOoo EVE, when he gets home don't start front'n like you are mad at him...GRAB HIM UP!!! tell him how much you miss him. Cook him up some chicken or something......You..."do" know how to cook, do you? Hit me back and let me know how it went. Y'all are just trip'n right now....You'll be happy again!!!!! MFAMUS
2007-08-30 15:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by mfamus25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume your boyfriend is out of town for his job? So he should be calling you constantly instead of concentrating on his work? Yet when he is in town, he is giving you every bit of himself?
Maybe what it means is that he loves you enough to where when he is out of town he still needs to hear your voice and talk to you every day. Maybe you should either tell him you want a servant, not a boyfriend, or maybe you should work as a team and build a relationship, instead of trying to make him worship you.
2007-08-29 19:58:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Goodkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a girlfriend just like you. She messages me all the time when we were together and she would start to imagine things when I did not return her messages. Your boyfriend loves u, we guys also need to have our own time, we will feel upset when our girlfriend does not understand this and keeps asking the same question. Besides love we guys also need time for ourselves, work, interest and friends.
2007-08-29 20:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by ray 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he loves being around you and with you, but he is on the go alot. When he is out of town he has higher priorities and ur pushed to the back of the list. Just my guess.
2007-08-29 20:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by johnnybelinda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋