I'm 16, I've already lost my virginity. I was with a boy that i fell in love with at the age of 14 and lost it then. Early i know, well now everything has come crashing down. We broke up, I've been going through hell trying to get over it. I regret so much giving myself away so young. I was in love, but things just went to **** after having sex with him. To all young girls out there, please save sex for later. It's not worth losing it to some guy who won't treat you with respect. I got used and walked all over. I'm basically trying to pick myself back up and start over again. How do i know if I'll ever be ready to let someone back in my life? And if i do, i dont want to be constantly accusing them of using me for sex...but thats how i feel all guys are. I need help...
2007-08-29 19:35:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i tihnk you should take some time to get back on your feet. Spend time with friends, shop, got o the spa, hit some clubs...fool aorund with guys, just cause its fun...
don't be untrusting of guys...they're rnt all bad...14, im 13, but i have really intense feelings sometimes and then later i regret doing soemthing that used to feel so right and i used to be so sure about...It's in the past tho, i mean...you can t live your life around this jerk...don't let it get to u and mess things up, things that could be really good. If a guy really does care aobut you, wen ur in something w/ him and he knows aobut it and knows how ull fell, hell care about you enough to respect that you need a little more time to build his trust...
hope it helps, and not all guys are like that...ull c if they r patient and true hearted enough about things to wait until your ok, and theyll be there for you...
2007-08-29 19:42:14 · answer #1 · answered by O.Live.juiceXX 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey, dame. Some guys aren't like him. Okay? That someone is waiting for you, he's maybe just out the corner, or someplace/ Let time guide the two of you to each other. Yeah, you're right, figuratively-speakin', huge percentage of guys are jerks and are just wanting the "sex" part. Don't ever lose hope. Someone's going to be there for you, dear. Try to learn from your mistake, it will be a great help and a great scale for you to see that "someone". You'll know that time after uuhm, trying to spen some months off focusing on yourself, on what had come and gone. Be positive. Okay? The jerk is better off without you and that you deserve the best there is. If you ever find him, love him much, be cautious, and enjoy life. Take care
**Vanessa** i think you're a sicko
2007-08-29 19:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by InLove with InLove 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To all young girls out there, please save sex for later.
NO!!! Wrong advice...you just didn't have sex for the RIGHT reason..you had sex thinking the guy owe you some kinda commitment for the rest of your life...which is NOT why i would have sex that's why soo many girls are dissappointed....You should have sex for your pleasure and your pleasure only...Now its over because he's just not that ATTRACTED to you anymore...
Now that he's no longer ATTRACTED to you, that doesn't mean he used and walked all over you..please you just realized that...lol
There must have been something that you liked about the guy since you 'lost your virginity' to him....
***to the guy below "how am I a sicko"
I just don't see the point of blaming the guy, he has the RIGHT to get what he wants...as SHE does...She stayed with him......I'm sure he didn't force her to 'LOSE her virginity'...lololololo
2007-08-29 19:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm glad you admitted that you were wrong to lose your virginity at such a young age...i wish that when you did it, it was special the way it was meant to be....it is really unadvisable to have sex especially early on a relationship...you have to get to know the person first...there are so many men out there who are only after sex...and then after they get it they lose interest in the girl and move on to their next target...yours was a hard-learned lesson...and im sure you are heartbroken and insecure...but all you can do is pick up the pieces of your life and move on...next time when you get in a relationship don't rush into sex...if the guy loves you, he will respect you and wait for you when you are ready...believe me...if the guy thinks that you are worth the wait, he will wait...
2007-08-29 19:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry so much about guys honey, you're young. You have plenty of time for that later. Just have fun being a kid. Hang out with your girlfriends and have fun. You'll know when the right guy comes around. Trust me. It's an unexplainable feeling you get when you find the man you are meant to be with.
2007-08-29 19:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i actually went through the same exact thing as you.
i lost my virginity to a boy i was 'in love' with when i was 14
and now im 15 almost 16 and i still regret it because we were so much in love but when you put sex into the picture with guys, they turn into BLEH!
and eventually i just got over it and moved on.
i stopped doing anything sexual other than kissing for a while.
basically it just takes time.
2007-08-29 19:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should see a councelor, or a school psycologist, they can really help you out right now, if you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents. The internet is not that much of a great place to ask questions like this. Sometimes real talk with people will get you what you need.
-cliff
2007-08-29 19:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by vagvpwebmasta 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 06:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by rud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there isnt anything you can do now to get that back, personally i dont see the big deal. If you dont wanna have sex, then dont have sex. easy :) Is he using you for sex? well there isnt any secret method to learn to trust sombody, one of my favorite quotes is: "The only way to make a man trustworthy is to trust him" -Henry Lewis Stinson
2007-08-29 19:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋