I cant seem to make friends with my mom i try so hard but it never works.We never agree on anything and we fight 24/7.And i make her so mad sometimes she'll slap me or grab my arm real hard and i hit her!It just comes out i cant help it.And sometimes she'll cry and it makes me so sad!
Can someone help me please i hate being this way with my mom=(
2007-08-29 18:22:52 · 5 answers · asked by mia marie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well maybe ur mother and urself shoudl take sum consueling together...to c if u can work out ur differences
2007-08-29 18:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need a little space.
Sound like your mom is in a pressure cooker situation. First of all, do what you can to help her out.
You don't mention your age, but I would be willing to suggest a few shifts.
WHAT ARE YOU TWO FIGHTING ABOUT?
Are you fighting over the place being a mess? Try to pitch in and clear the place up for when she comes home from work.
Clean the dishes and get the kitchen ready for dinner.
If it is about you going out, then try to come up with a compromise for hours. Get your chores and homework out of the way so you are covering your bases and showing some responsibility.
Any little thing you can do to take some pressure off her will help.
When your two are about to get into it, learn to back off and quiet down. Go to your room or go sit out on the porch, but don't allow it to come to physical blows... ever.
The only thing you really have control over is yourself, so you have to be willing to remove yourself from the conflict. You know you can't win an argument with her anyway.
Depending on how old you are, you can probably either get a job or create a job for yourself just to make yourself scarce... the trick is to cover your chores and schoolwork and stay out of trouble.
I know people that created their own gigs... got a kid next door that started a route... 10 families that pay him $10 a week to scoop the doggie-doo out of their yards so the kids can play... he swings through twice a week and clears it out well (rubber gloves and a pooper-scooper) and bags it all up. They love it. They can entertain in their yards!
2007-08-30 01:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ageless is right it might be a case of your gene, maybe your mum is going into menopause and it is ruining her and you on the other hand has that teenage naughty gene.
try to think before doing something always take a min or 2 to think, if i do this will it upset my mum? will it make her angry?
she is your mum and you both need each other. sit with your mum and tell her that you no longer want to fight, tell her you want to start a new relationship with her that has no fights and you guys could be doing stuff together.
if you realy want to mend your relationship with your mum then do things like: make tea for her early morning and take it to her bed, when she is in the kitchen go help her out, show interest in the things she does.
when she gets angry at you and starts shouting just say "im sorry mum i didnt mean to upset you" in a very polite manner. this will take her aback and she will start realising thr intensity of the situation.
go to her for help on homework, whatever you do try to involve her, make her feel loved and she will make you feel loved, don't ever try to hit your mum again that is very bad.
before you do something stupid just think about this - if my mum died today, how would i feel having done all these bad things and not even telling her im sorry? i didnt even tell her i love her - this will be your regret.
most important tell her you love her so much....... even if things don't go well at first, keep on doing what i have said and keep on insisting, things will change for the better.
good luck, cheers.
2007-08-30 02:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by baby gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the war of hormones. your young raging hormoes with her getting older hormones... you just have to understand each other and try to accomodate the moods you are both going through at the same time.
Just because she is a mom don't think she is not going through some of the same things you are... you just need to hug each other and be there and help and love. raising girls is very difficult. just give her some help and support.
2007-08-30 01:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate being friends with my mum becuse me and mum don't get along with each other at all and i do hate my mum all the time and somtimes mum take me to the shops then back home
2007-08-30 02:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by carlamrobb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋