2007-08-29 18:05:24 · 20 answers · asked by clueless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When this is the pick up line:
Okay, so I came over here to ask you to dance, but I'm kind of concerned. I mean, we could hit it off really well, end up having a few drinks, next thing you know you're giving me your number because I'm too shy to ask for it, I finally get up the nerve to call and we take in a movie, have some dinner, I relax, you relax, we go out a few more times, get to know each other's friends, spend a lot of time together, then finally have get past this sexual tension and really develop this intense sex life that is truly incredible, decide our relationship is solid and stable, so we move in together for a while, then a few months later get married, I get a promotion, you get a promotion, we buy a bigger house. You really want kids, but I really want freedom, but we have a kid anyway, only to find that I am resentful, the sparks start to fade and to rekindle them we have two more lovely kids, but now I work too much to keep up with the bills, have no time for you, you're stressed and stop taking really good care of yourself, so to get past our slow sex life and my declining self-confidence I turn to an outside affair for sexual gratification. You find out because I'm careless and a lousy liar, you throw me out (justifiably so) and we have to explain to the kids why mommy and daddy are splitting up. That's just too sad. Think about the children. For God's sake, if you dance with me and we hit it off, let's just keep it sexual, because we both know where it's going.
2007-08-29 18:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by RC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's too fast when either person in the relationship feels it is too fast.
If your uncomfortable at the speed it is going at, then it is more in likely going too fast for you and you should voice your feelings. Likewise, you should make sure to grab the feedback from your partner to see how it is going for them.
On another token, you both might be blindly rushing into things too fast and you should never turn down constructive advice given to you by your friends. I'm not saying let your friends choose who your to be with, but sometimes we don't see the obvious things when we are in "love". Especially if you havn't been with someone in a while it will feel as if you havn't felt this great in a long time and it's all too easy to overlook even important things you might be neglecting (such as a child, a family member, maybe a friend or even your bills).
Best of luck to you in your relationship, and hope it's going at the speed that's safest for you and your partner. :)
2007-08-30 01:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by untamed_soul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy or girl you are dating and what you want out of a relationship. If you want a meaningful relationship, fast is one-nighters and f__k buddies. Some like to take it slow while others like to move fast. Generally speaking, too fast is sex before 8 dates.
2007-08-30 01:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too fast is probaly when you have just meet the guy/girl and getting married after 1 or 3 weeks
2007-08-30 01:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's making you uncomfortable, if it's making your partner uncomfortable, you're going too fast. If you don't have access to enough information, privacy, or safer sex supplies, you're going too fast. If you're worried that you're going too fast, you're probably going too fast!
Take your time and respect your own boundaries and your partner's boundaries -- you've got plenty of time! (Also, if you already did something and regret it - just don't do it again. Having past a point doesn't mean it's a "thing you do" now - if you weren't ready for it when you did it, admit that to yourself and your partner, and don't remake the same mistake.)
Be honest and caring with your partner, and insist that they be honest and caring with you.
2007-08-30 01:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by galaxor, destroyer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly...kiss is 2nd date or 3rd date, sex after a month (many dates in the month) and a STD check, three months to 6 months is exclusive relationship, don't get engaged until a year, and marriage a 6 months to a year after that. If you can't find or resolve any problems after that much time then you're good.
2007-08-30 01:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you met someone last night, then had unprotected sex. That's too fast.
You must have some type of values and what you believe in. Everyone is different.
2007-08-30 01:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you meet her today, have sex tonight and dump after tomorrow morning!!!
Okay no too fast is when you are not sure if you want to make the next move. Like you take her to meet you parents, but you are not sure if you want to. but if do it anyways, that's called too fast. you should wait till you are 100% sure that you are ready!
2007-08-30 01:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he propose to me after meeting me three days. a promise ring two days later and married?
gosh is how fast my relationship with my man.
2007-08-30 01:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1-5 days try 2 get 2 know her better dont pressure her into saying yes.
2007-08-30 01:10:12 · answer #10 · answered by :'I 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋