my mom.... she is just. uhg... how can i get her to listen. im unhappy and hse doesnt take me seriously. she just thinks i over react to everything.... n maybe i do. idk but one thing is for sure i am not happy.... and she just wont listen. i feel so alone and i have no one to talk to. help me!! how do i get my mom to listen and start to realize how unhappy i am.
2007-08-29 17:59:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know whatcha mean, I had the same problem and still do to some extent now. Sometimes people talk 'at' each other rather than 'to' each other. You both need to sit down in a peaceful environment and really take turns listenting to each other-because chances are your mom feels the same way you do. Make sure that you acknowledge what she's thinking and she'll be more apt to listen to you. It sounds cheesy, but somtimes it's easier to put our thoughts down on paper so maybe writer her a letter-I will guarantee it will get her attention and she'll be more sympathetic towards you.
2007-08-29 18:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by bunnyfriend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not be able to get that across.
Some people have the idea that kids' views are not valid. Your mom may be too busy handling other situations to listen to you.
What you can do is find other people to form your support base... kind of a mom-surrogate.
Perhaps your friends' parents or an aunt could become your sounding board/counselor.
You can always talk to a counselor or teacher at school.
2007-08-30 01:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried writing her? Write a letter. Sometimes things get through more when they're on paper. And when you talk to her, don't beat around the bush. Be blunt. You have much more of a chance getting her attention. If it's about sex, use appropriate, but graphic words. Same with drugs. Same with depression!
Sometimes I think parents don't realize that their kids know much more then they think they do. Any honey please, if you can't get her to listen, talk to your school guidence conselor. I had a wonderful one! I know it sounds corny, but I needed someone that cared and that wasn't gonna just punish me if I said something wrong.
2007-08-30 01:11:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeahh i know what you mean!! My mom usually never listens to what i say and i feel like i have no one to talk to but id just sit her down and say mom i need to talk to you and tell her how unhappy you are about things!Thats what i did.
2007-08-30 01:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by mia marie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write a letter to her.first think rational.dont say anything you will regret because no matter what she is and always will be your mom.think about how you are feeling and what you want out of it and how you want the relationship with her to be.dont point fingers at anybody just say u feel unappreciated.tell her all the good she has done for you and ask her opinion.she just doesnt want to be left out of ur life and doesnt want to loose you.
2007-08-30 01:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about writing how you feel - that way, you can edit it to take what you know she will consider the "drama" out of it....and in your letter ask if there is any way she can get you counseling, so that you have someone you can talk about your problems with who is neutral.
2007-08-30 01:09:30 · answer #6 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋