My son decided to join the 7 th grade football team this year and he hasn't even completed the week of practice and he's already looking for excuses to quit the team. As a younger child he also tried peewee football, and baseball and quit that too. My husband says he can quit if he likes but I think he's becomming a quiter in everything he tries. I don't want him to grow in life thinking that when the going gets tough he gets going. Am I wrong for wanting him to see things through?
2007-08-29 17:58:47 · 11 answers · asked by sassy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I agree with you completely. If my kids want to do something like football, I make sure they commit to it fully for a set period, no quiting. I don't care if they do well or not, but I dang sure want to make sure they try their best at whatever they do. If they don't want to do it again, fine, but I do expect them to fullfil their commitments they made when they start something.
2007-08-29 18:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by smf_hi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are not wrong. Kids these days quit a lot and I think it's like a phrase they go through til' high school. I mean this isn't that serious, but when he reach high school and still quitting everything, then that's a real problem that you have to face. Right now, don't force him, he's still a kid and you might seen this on the Huxtable (Bill Cosby Show), where Theo quitted a lot of things too, but he came out fine. Right now, don't take it that serious and just have small talk with him, but later in life like high school and he's still doing it, then have a serious talk with him about life and if you quit then you will never achieve your goal of The American Dream.
2007-08-29 18:08:17 · answer #2 · answered by Live&Learn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk with him and let him explain why he wants to quit football. Is he no good? Too small? Picked on by other players? Maybe he is not a sports oriented kid? Talk with him and try to help find interests that he is passionate about. I can understand you wanting to shape his character and his resolve but you also have to let him be a kid. Maybe take the football out of his hands and replace it with a book or a sketch pad, or a erector set... sports can place a lot of pressure on a young person. I think that between you and your husband you have the situation handled. Talk about this trend as a family and be supportive. Good Luck.
2007-08-29 18:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He really needs some discipline in this.
Quitting every time the going gets rough is not a good pattern.
Talk with the coach and see if he has any suggestions for motivating him.
Come up with a "carrot and stick" approach that will work.
What you might consider is giving him more chores around the house, and the choice of doing these chores or doing fewer chores and keeping up with the football team.
You have already paid for equipment... so quitting with this expenditure already made is really awful. He needs to be made to pay for the equipment and fees.
2007-08-29 18:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know what you are saying but he is just trying to find something in sports he can have fun at not make a career of. I think the fact that he keeps trying to find something he likes shows he is not a quitter.
2007-08-29 18:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong but you also can't force him to continue.
You need to set ground rules for joining a sport.
Explain that he is letting the team down when he quits.
Also try and find out why he is quitting.
Maybe he wants to be a part of something but he is not sure what.
2007-08-29 18:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by penny 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely not.. take it from a quitter, he will hate it now but respect the decision later. Make him play the piano, stay in football, head the dance comity, try out for and preform in the play... when all is said and done he will appreciate all you did to keep him well rounded.
2007-08-29 18:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jym 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He really needs to start compleating something. Learning to quit when things get tough, will get him no where and he is now at that age where he needs to learn that sometimes you win and sometimes you loose. Sometimes the one who tries and practices the most will win. Get him in gear or you will pay later.
Is the father a quitter???
2007-08-29 18:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
explain to him how he is being a quitter. but dont make him feel bad. its the worst when a parent feels ushamed of you... it makes you feel like you want to kill yourself. lighten up. its really hard to always try to impress your parents. im a kid and... my mom has always wanted me to be sumthing im not. she thinks im a whimp and a loser. it makes me sad. really sad... i am a sensitive person and she isnt. when she gives me that look of disapointment... i just want to shoot myself. just think abuot that. try to put yourself in his shoes
i really really do hope things go great w/ you guys. me and my mom... well this is the time when i need her most and well our reltionship is dead.....
good luck
2007-08-29 18:09:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont let hem be a quiter u can all was help him out
2007-08-29 18:06:06 · answer #10 · answered by bbncc123 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋