is my weight a problem for dating?

Question

well i feel as if my weight is a problem. and im afraid of not getting in a relationship because of it. will it affect a relationship?

Answer 1

As long as you have a heart, and a space to open up for love, everything is possible. Weight will not affect a relationship at all. In fact, i would salute anybody who dates you because they look at your personality and not externally. They don't judge you for what you look like, but what you are. I have two girlfriends, both over 180 pds but have long term relationships. In fact I envy them so much.
Make yourself available, adore yourself (i mean it!) and be yourself. You are who you are.
you might be hearing this a lot of times that people look at your inner personality. it is true though.
If it keeps you worrying, perhaps weight loss? (for health purposes too) You need to build confidence and to love yourself!
I know you can do it. Just believe in yourself. Love yourself and you can love others too!

Answer 2

Anyone can find love and a relationship, it is just the other person that is the question.

Here is a hint: be comfortable in your own skin (despite weight or anything of that sort) and people will be drawn to it.

If you find the right girl, she won't mind if you have a few extra pounds as long as you are genuine, funny and kind. Sure, some girls ARE that shallow and won't date a guy with some extra pounds, but notice how I said "the right girl".

There is the right person out there for you, someone who will accept you regardless of weight, height and occupation.

Good luck.

Answer 3

There are 2 kinds of "ideal weight"-- one is from the medical point of view and the other is from the cultural p.o.v. Talk with your doctor. If you are ok from the medical p.o.v., then don't worry about weight. OTOH, if you have a weight problem from the medical pov, then it sounds like you are mature enough where you can make some better choices (RE: food) to make a difference, not just in appearance, but in terms of good health. The ideal weight from the cultural pov varies widely from culture to culture.

Answer 4

Your weight should not have anything to do whether or not you are dating someone or not. It all depends on who you are you trying to persue and attract. If you are trying to attract the ober-hottie, then yes it will be a problem. If you are trying to attract and date the girl next door, then it shouldn't be a problem.

You need to lose the weight for yourself. Not for someone else's approval. You are the one who has to live with the potential health risks with the added weight you carry. Until you lose the weight, you need to work on your sense of style, self-confidence and your charming ways in order to attract a woman. Unless you are willing to work on those skills, you won't attract anyone. Regardless of how much you weigh.

Answer 5

A relationship? No. Unfortunately in today's society being overweight does make it more difficult to get a date. That said, it doesn't mean you're doomed to walk the planet alone. Every girl likes different types of men. I'm sure there's a girl out there just right for you.

Answer 6

If you have a problem with your weight then others will have problem with it too! You have two options,
1. get in shape or
2. learn to love yourself the way you are and others will love you too!

Answer 7

dude thats easy. i have a weight problem too but here's the thing theres some gurls who dont like guys that are fat cuz they think it's not attractive and gurls that do like guys that are fat or dont mind having a fat bf. but the difference is gurls thats in a relationship with a bigguy is usually the type that is worth keeping cuz she really likes the guy for who he is, and i gotta tell ya man theres alot out there and fine as hell too.....so gud luck.

Answer 8

It will only effect your relationship if you let it. Sounds like your the one who it really bothers. Insecurities is a big turn off for the opposite sex. So be proud of your body, no matter was size it is and that will be irresistible!

Answer 9

Well,everyone have to be more confident with our self.Meaning to say,don't care about your body size or what ever.The people that want us more interesting is the people that cannot see the best of us.Means,they don't love us.The girl that want the truly relationship is the girl that want
love us in whatever form we are.

Answer 10

"They will often tell me they can't love themselves because they are so fat, or as one girl put it, 'too round at the edges.' I explain that they are fat because they don't love themselves. When we begin to love and approve of ourselves, it's amazing how weight just disappears from our bodies."

from Louise Hay, You Can Heal Your Life 1984..Louise Hay (1927- ) [1] is the American bestselling author of several self help books and the founder of a publishing company called Hay House Publishing.