I'm not really sure if this was worth a fight, but I felt like my husband "crossed the line" with one of his young, female co-workers. A few times a week they eat lunch together. On his days off she'll text him with messages like, "we miss you here!"
Now, he's trying to help her quit smoking by taking away her cigarettes and hiding them in his car for her. The other day he had a work function we attended and when we saw each other she was somewhat snotty.
I talked/(yelled) to him for all of this because I've had it! He thinks I'm acting like a jealous wife and I'm losing it, but quite frankly I'm very upset that he caters to her every whim.
Should I be upset? Is he crossing the line? What's going on?
2007-08-29 17:42:51 · 7 answers · asked by Ronni 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yup, he is crossing the line and you have every right to feel the way you do.
He may rationalize that its all just friendship, but its a road that will lead to more than that. Its human nature!!!
He is not guarding his marriage, he is not taking your feeling into account. He is really into this girl.
I'm sure you'll know how to handle the situation. Be strong!
2007-08-29 19:20:14 · answer #1 · answered by ellen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can I ask you a question? Why did you marry this man? If you didn't like his flirting with women, why didn't you say something about it in the beginning of the marriage? Why are you waiting until now (where he's conditioned you to his behavior) to want to speak out and voice your opinion? It seems to me like he has the tendency to actually take his flirting a step beyond words. And I hate to say it,but you've sort of allowed it too happen. Being jealous and nervous is not going to solve anything. I honestly don't know what I would do if I was you, because I would have put my foot down in the beginning of the relationship. The only thing I can suggest is if he doesn't stop, cut him lose so he can flirt with all the women he desires.
2016-05-17 04:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be angry with him. Sounds as if the younger co-worker is playing some kind of game. (texting & the jealousy towards you) There may be nothing you need to worry about going on but let him know the boundaries...he needs to keep it a little more professional at work....
Best of luck to ya hun!
2007-08-29 18:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by amyrae219 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It certainly does sound to me like he is becoming a bit too "friendly" with this girl, especially since she is displaying possible signs of jealous snottiness to you. That would be a cause for concern to me, as that would probably only rear its head if she felt enough of a connection to your husband to have a reason to be jealous of you. I am not saying that he necessarily crossed the line so much as that she wants him to- either way, though, it sounds as though the situation could turn too intimate very quickly between the two of them.
2007-08-29 17:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Booklover37 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutley you should be mad as **** with him. He's way over the line and if the roles were reversed, imagine what he would do!! Even if they are just flirting it's so wrong-you're married and he should respect that every second of the day.
Also, you know somthing is up based on teh way she reacted to you at his work function. Go kick his butt!!
2007-08-29 18:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by bunnyfriend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup~he needs to set some boundaries regarding his "work" mate. How would he feel if it was you doing all this with a male "co-worker"? I bet he would hit the roof! If all else fails, Cheaters.com is there.
2007-08-29 18:01:55 · answer #6 · answered by bikerangelmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like he is not keeping things on a business level. I would probably start keeping track of his cell-phone records.
If it really gets out of hand, you may have to hire a PI to follow him around.
2007-08-29 17:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋