i realized today that i don't "believe" that d person i love (he doesn't know about my feleings) could

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love me back.
the funny thing is, it sounds like i have low self-esteem, but i don't.it's just this man i feel not good enough for..for some reason, i feel like he won't really like me if he got to know me...i don't know if it's out of fear of rejection, hurt, or what that's making me feel this way.
but i feel i am so different from everyone in this place and this man could never love me...
it's always the kind of guys i am zero attracted to that are after me. i know for a fact they r not right for me...and i feel like i have lost hope in ever finding someone i love like crazy who will love me back the same way...

any ideas? i appreciate ur feedback...
how can i change the way i am feeling about my situaiton?

Answer 1

You feel that way for multiple reasons, the big one is that YOU DO HAVE SELF-ESTEEM ISSUES!! Are you a pyschologist? Well then listen to one studing to be one, thats classic self-destrutive behavior. You've also done a good job of seperating yourself from your community, I'm a very werid boy, very, just look at my account. I have horrible times finding ms.right, doesn't mean I don't give ladies that try, but again I'm a werido, I think to much, I care WAY to much, and I give myself to people's lives WAAAYYY to readily, which makes me sort of the odd-man out here, but I can still FIT IN!!! Thats on you, sometimes for the sake of social interaction we need to tame ourselves, and be universial, you know able to communicate with all peoples, love all peoples, and understand them. So your really dealing with a situation were your being your own worse enemy. Until you really realize why, how, and what I mean by that you've got some self-exploration to do! Its important to understand better yourself that way you can breck some of these ways of yours. Also there is a big CULTURAL crisis going on that people can't really get a grasp of. Lets just say its everyones problem and it has everything to do with what your dealing with which just so you know ISN'T YOUR FAULT!!! But not doing something to deal with it is. But I digress the problem has to do with an unhealthy view of what love really is (did you know love goes deeper then just plain old romance? they just don't teach you how or why of it!) combined with a complete and utter breck down of our interpersonal relationships due to an over emphasises of the ego. Or in other words, we can't have good deep relationships any more because quite frankly were ALL insecure. I hope at the least it helps for you to know your problem isn't jsut yours, were all dealing with it in our own unique way, mine as you can see is a tad werider then others, yet I do GREAT! So peace, happiness, and good relationships our only out of your grasp, because you let them....