i hav a bf we hav a baby hes goes out wit his friends gets drunk cums hme @ 7am he did a myspace acct. n didnt tell me when i found it he added lots of girls i told him to add me he said no i told him to delete it he said no im workin not makn alot n he said no one cald him bak for a job wen i listend to vmail n they did we live together and i dont kno wat to do i cant live with sum1 who keeps secrets frum me i love him to death he is the only person i been with we been 2gether 4 3yrs i dont kno if i should stay or go?
2007-08-29 15:34:44 · 23 answers · asked by Confused 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should go and get an education...My 7 year old niece writes better then you
2007-08-29 15:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by Alissa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you got preggers too soon and for sure had a baby too soon in your relationship.... Then you went from being the babe, the huss, the hot sexy lady, to mother and housekeeper. He went from being the man, the stud, the sex machine, to father and provider.... and the child is a jolt and a killer to your cozy little relationship.... now you have this screaming, colic kid in your relationship, and no one told you that having a baaaaaaabbbeeeeeee wasn't going to be the fun romantic thing you had thought it would be.... He's trying to recapture his testosterone, and you are trying to fit into the role of mom. tuff life, hon.
If you were my sister, my mom would have drilled these four things written below into your head beginning when you were 13.... you need to get back into school, learn how to write English, and be able support yourself.... Here's the four from my mom
1. The most important decision you will ever make is who you choose to have children with... Use your head as well as your heart.
2. Have no more children than you yourself can support... you just may have to.
3. At absolutely any cost, finish your education, and come out of school with a skill that pays big buckos.... you will have to work sometime during your life, probably for decades. Get paid for it.
4. Have a stash of cash no one knows about even if you think you will never need it... You absolutely will, and the more the better....
Get back on track hon. Get back in school, and get some therapy for your relationship.... what has happened to you is soooo common as to be in Psychol 101..... Best money you will ever spend...
2007-08-29 22:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation, I have a baby with my boyfriend. He goes out all the time and gets drunk intill 7 in the morning to. I know i should go but I love him so much and want to make right descion for my baby to. I think only you can make the descion to go or stay. You need to think of your child first before all else. I know I will not be together forever with him because of his drinking. But for now I am fine.
2007-08-29 22:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by expecting_1_31_2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all stop talking in number sentences. It never showed much of anything but h8red for the english language. Next get some boxes and start packing his things. Next leave the packed boxes on the front porch and change all the locks on the doors. Then when 7am rolls around won't he be surprised.
2007-08-29 22:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by green3ch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a drinking problem and is seeing other girls. For the sake of your baby, you have to leave.
I would also recommend going to a few Al-Anon meetings. They can help you to cope with the drunk in your life, whom you love and who is the father of your baby.
For now, don't see guys, concentrate on your precious baby.
2007-08-29 22:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have finished school before having a baby! Goodness, your spelling is hideous!!
This is a relationship that is never ever going to work. Get out now, get child support coming in, finish your education and plan on working really hard to raise your child alone.
2007-08-29 22:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you already answered your own question,when you said u can't live with someone who keeps secrets, he needs to lose his free ride, an take the baby with you, he'll be ready to grow up when you tell him he can see the baby when he wants or you can just kick him out, let him see whose really there for him, but do something quick he's not being responsible for that baby, an he needs to it took the 2 of you to makeit, it takes the 2 of you to raise it.
2007-08-29 22:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by KELLY S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from experience stop now before it gets worse. you have a baby to worry about. you need to be able to focus on that not on the fact that he is coming in at 7am bringing home god knows what types of STD's. tell him to get lost.
2007-08-29 22:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a jerk!!! !!! !! ! I say, well you have been together so long! Just tell him you want to take a break. that is what I would do. Take a break, dont break up totaly, because three yrs is a long time. Just, dont talk for a month and see how much you really mean to him! I hope it works out hon!!
2007-08-29 22:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by daenarys 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Run as fast as you can..he will never change...file for child support...and please do yourself a favor you deserve much better..you and your child......sorry.....Or give him an ultimatum...you want to be a family..if he cant commit to that... he goes its that simple...sounds to me as if he has alot more secrets then you will ever know....Do you have family you can go to for a while? or friends? If you need to file a protection order if he threatens you....god bless gf.
2007-08-29 22:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋