I need a more in depth explanation on why a Christian has to marry a Christian.....?

Question

I would just like to understand that idea a little more in case that argument arises from boyfriend's side of the family. We are discussing marriage, and I'm trying to figure out the way a Pagan/Christian ceremony would happen. And after reactions I've had on here, I would like to understand more fully why some Christians are telling me that he wouldn't marry me if he was a "true" Christian.

I just don't get it. You can't help who you love, right?

Answer 1

Well, the scripture people usually quote is "do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers"

You can't help those you love, but in reality, it is not the wisest decision. I'm not saying it can't work, but with the basic beliefs of the Christian faith, many don't see it as wise or acceptable to marry someone who does not share their faith. I don't know how involved your husband is in Christianity, but the more deeply he feels, the more likely it is to create problems. I'm just being honest, religion is major issue for a couple to disagree on. I would not recommend a Christian to marry someone of a different faith, and I personally would not want to do it, but I don't want to give you the idea this doesn't make him a "true" Christian or that your relationship will fail. If you both choose to proceed, expect to have to deal with major issues if he is very involved with Christianity.

Religion is just not a factor for some people in marriage, whether it should be or not. If both of you feel that way, I don't think it will be a big problem, but yes, generally Christians believe (wisely in my opinion) to marry another Christian with similar beliefs. Either way, I wish you both luck.

Answer 2

I'm no Christian, so I can't answer from a Christian's viewpoint. But I am a Pagan that married a Christian (at least that's his label - since he doesn't study his religion, I don't consider him religious).

I figure that Christians "require" marriage between two Christians so that the children of the union would be raised as such. There would be no questions as to how the kids would be raised. Since it is the woman that is the stereotypical child rearer, her being a Christian would be mandatory. She also is the head of the family (I speak of the times of old, I didn't say head of household. Everyone in a give/take relationship knows that women have a sort of leverage over their men - simply because what makes her happy makes him happy - he couldn't care otherwise). What the woman believes is generally accepted by the man. Take, for instance, the European conversion to Christianity - many of the kings that converted (Clovis, to name one) became Christians after marrying a Christian! It's a great way to convert religions in a give/take relationship. Have the queen win over the king who now, being Christian, is ordained by god and doesn't have to answer to the people, converts all his subjects.

In conclusion, having a Christian male oath to a Pagan female is scary for Christians. Even though the Pagan will not convert her man (unless he expresses desire for it), the subject of religion will come up. Because Christians are active converters, they believe everyone one is. You'll bring your man "into the ways of the devil" rubbish. Notice that if the tables were turned, if a female Christian wed a male Pagan, it isn't so taboo. Christians figure she'll show him the "true way" (more rubbish).

Answer 3

Well the major reason is a lot of people's beliefs end up getting in the way during marriage if they are not the same... for an example if a Jew and Christian gets married....do you celebrate Haunnaka, Christmas, or both? In what religion to you raise your kids? Are the both of you going to go to seperate churches and practice a seperate religion? Marriage is ordaned by God...also I have seen situations where the wife was a Christian the the husband was not and the husband ended up getting the wife out of church all together....it can just be an iffy situation with possible multiple headaches lol.

Answer 4

The two shall become as one,so in other words either you will change and become a christian or he will fall from the faith and become a pagan,a marriage consists of two people being on the same level for oneness and prayer and religious beliefs ,there will be great conflict in all areas for each of you will try to change each other and it wont work,a christian should not be unequally yokes with an unbeliever,but if you to marry,each are bound to each other unless marriage infedility or if the unbeliever leaves a believer is not bound to such circumstances,now the question comes in are you willing to let your husband continue in his faith with out question and then if you two have children how will you raise them under what belief system?you can not confuse your children on what to stand for,and maybe its for your husband to bring you to christ=unless the Lord builds a house the labors labor in vain.there are alot of things to consider and even if you do not read the bible I would advise you to read 1 Corinthians chapter 7,and chapter 11 wish you all the best Lisa

Answer 5

The Bible states that you should not be 'unequally yoked' to a non-believer. Basically, that if you are strong in your faith you should be married to someone equally as strong and has the same belief system as you do.

You can't help who you love, but love cools and you need to look at things practically. Would either of your beliefs cause conflict with the other in the future? How would future children be raised? There are a lot of things you must think through before you marry anyone of any faith.

Answer 6

Well, the bible says something about being equally yoked but I agree with you. You guys should get married if you want to and the family will have to accept it. I would just make sure you guys have the same values and agree on how to raise the children. Otherwise, it will be very difficult to make the relationship work in the long run.

I wish you guys all the best. I am agnostic and my boyfriend is mormon. I wouldn't have it any other way. lol

Answer 7

You can always "help" whom you choose to love, much less whom you marry.

Almighty God warns Christians not to be unequally yoked, in other words, do not marry someone who is not a believer/follower of Jesus Christ and The Holy Bible.

Simply put, everything Pagans believe in and worship is a direct insult and blaspheme against Almighty God. Jesus Christ says, "Mankind can not serve two masters. He will either love the one and come to despise the other or vice versa."

In the eyes of Almighty God, a Christian person is one who loves, follows, and believes in Almighty God and Jesus Christ as their only personal Savior and Lord.

In the eyes of Almighty God, a Christian who marries anyone
who is NOT a saved and redeemed Christian is as offensive and doomed as a Christian Holocaust survivor would be were they to marry a Hitler-loving, Nazi death camp commander.

They are polar opposites at very point that matters in the long run of a marriage and are and can be destructive to the growth and happiness of a Christian, because as a Pagan you may have a physical attraction, but the heart and the spirit are not and can never be unified and united in all things, and those blatant differences will cause untold pain, trials, and dissension between you in the years to come. This life is not easy under the best of circumstances and a marriage that is not united and unified in heart, and mind, and soul, and not just in the body (the physical) is doomed to failure and heartbreak for BOTH of you.

THAT is why Almighty God says not to marry anyone who does not share your heart, mind, and soul beliefs...because HE knows as do countless others that physical attraction and physical love is never strong enough in and of itself to weather the storms of life.

Answer 8

The bible says to not be unequally yoked together. and the reason for this is...it creates confusion, strife, anger, and communication issues. I am telling you this from experience. I am actually writing a book about this very subject. Love is great....but it does not keep a marriage together. i am a married woman and i can tell you that trust, communication and common bonds on things that are important to you are the key. Religion is to important of and issue to decide to overlook....believe me it WILL come up and be a problem in the end. Gods words are there for a reason. We pretend to know what is best for us. But if you read the word of God. YOu will find that our issues that we believe are unique are really not.

Answer 9

I once heard an illustration which might answer your question:

When two people get married, if the most important thing, and the goal, in each of their lives is the same, then, as they grow towards their respective goals, they will simultaneously grow towards each other. Picture the goal as the summit of a pyramid, and as they each approach the summit, they grow closer to each other.

Whereas, if the most important thing in their respective lives differs, then as each grows closer to his goal, they will grow apart from each other. Or at least, not any closer.

Therefore, not only is it best for a Christian to marry a Christian, it's also best for a witch to marry a witch.

Answer 10

I saw that guys post... obviously he's never done a study on it. Unequally yoked means to be placed with someone who is AGAINST the believers religion to begin with... Look at King Solomon... the wisest man in the Bible married HUNDREDS of non-believers and yet was not once called "unequally yoked". If they did any kind of study about their beliefs, they would know this... because elsewhere in the New Test it states there are believers who are married to non-believers and, supposedly, the non-believers gain "believer" status just by being married to a believer...............

There's nothing for you to get. They need to learn what their beliefs really are before they try to set standards for other people. They look pretty silly stating such things and trying to say it's the Bible... when in fact, it isn't.... it's only their opinion.... and really none of their business as far as that goes anyway.

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