he's 4 or 5 years older than me..we both know were interested in each other ..I dont know what to do..so i give him cold stares cause its kind of wrong and I think he's too good for me..what should I do ?..forget about him..?
2007-08-29 15:19:55 · 67 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm 20 years old..
2007-08-29 15:24:17 · update #1
sometimes he act like he's not interested...even though I know he is..
2007-08-29 15:35:13 · update #2
I think personality wise im not his type..he seems like he likes people that are talkative,outgoing. I think because im giving him cold stares so he trys to avoid that he's interested in me..or he's losing interest..and when I said..he's too good for me..cause he's pretty smart, hot, friendly,, he seems unfriendly to me now..
2007-08-30 17:10:56 · update #3
Maybe wait until your class is finished for the semester and then approach him. Id advice not to get involved with a teacher when he has authority over you. Just remember if he's interested in you how many other students of his is he interested in?
2007-09-06 14:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by hotlilblondie831 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to be attracted to a teacher when you're in college, and I assume it is college since you're 20! He's only 4-5 years older but the thing is, what is the school's policy on teachers dating students? You really need to know the answer to that if only for your sake. If they have a policy but it has exceptions such as a teacher dating a student in a class he/she is teaching, etc. then you would have to wait until you are no longer his student! If they frown upon fraternization altogether he is definitely over-stepping his boundaries and I would be careful. He could be headed for trouble.
The most curious thing is why you might think he's too good for you? Perhaps his attraction for you actually makes you feel good! Why do you think he is attracted to you? I wouldn't forget about him only due to the probability that you can't, at least not yet. Do you know what his marital status is? How does he treat you when you're not in class but when you pass each other outside or in a building? Does he address you or practically ignore you when he's with someone else, like another teacher? Do you ever see him mingling or walking with other female students? If you're giving him cold stares how does he know you're interested in him?
Just be careful, be watchful and good luck!
2007-08-29 15:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by Chris B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could say yes do what you feel in your heart is right if you two like each other then go for it. but when it comes down to a student and a teacher i'm sorry but that is not going to work. you want to look at it in all angles, what if even you two are exclusive and nobody knows and just so happens someone find out then you both are pretty much screwed. And that's when it can get into legal actions. Girl do you watch young and the restless, lol!
2007-08-29 15:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by mamiiwitcurves 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is too good. Don't ever think that. It is not wise to date your teacher. Legal age or not he could get into a lot of trouble. I would forget about it. If you are both single when you are done with school or at least that one then go for it cuz you would no longer be a student and the danger of him losing his job would be over.
good luck with what ever you choose
I'm speaking from the point of view that you are in college if you are not in college and are in High School then if he tries anything report him.
2007-08-29 15:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It truly is "kind of wrong"...fatal for his career [most schools and colleges have clauses in their academic contracts about not messing with students] and would devastate your own school situation....being famous for getting a teacher sacked isn't really what you want to be famous for, right?
If he's giving you the moonbeam eyeball, sis, he's definitely NOT too good for you...he knows better, he may well be married, he's your TEACHER, and if he's trying it on, he's No Good Whatsoever. He may have a classy academic reputation, but man-wise, he's a shlub. Anybody who plays where they eat, so to speak, isn't worth the ink on his credentials. Cold stares are just the ticket!
2007-08-29 15:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by constantreader 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 18, don't even THINK about it. It's illegal. The teacher will not only lose his credential, he'll go to jail for statutory rape...and you'll also get a reputation.
Even if you are of legal age, dating a teacher is STILL a BAD idea. Most universities have rules about professors fraternizing with students...and they are enforced. Why when you are both legal adults? Because it's considered a "power over" relationship. Not only can it get the teacher/professor fired, it will cause you to receive resentment from other students/faculty, and you will be suspect if your grades appear to be high, and it looks like you didn't earn the grades on on true merit. You don't want that following you into a career. No one likes a person who looks like they moved up "on their back!"
Don't do it. Be strong about it. Forget him. Switch classes if you must
2007-08-29 15:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How could he be too good for you? What are you yesterday's trash? I don't think so. You need to improve your self esteem, you are just as good as anyone who walks on this planet. If he is interested in you, that says he thinks you are worth it. At 20 years old, 4 or 5 years older is acceptable. If you do date him, date him for a long, long time and don't have sex until you are married.
2007-08-29 15:30:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it as long as you are old enough to do it. I mean, if u were underage it would be different. Also, wait until youre out of the class to start seeing him.
Get his number the last day of class or something. I say go for it. : ) Five years is NOT a huge age difference at all. It is still acceptable to about EVERYONE on the planet. noone will look at it as weird. Plus, if u think he's too good for u that is lame...don't ever think anyone is too good for u.
Also, dont listen to everyone freaking out about the situation. They are idiots in my opinion. Your teacher is a twenty five year old guy looking for a friggin girlfriend and all he wants is to check u out and maybe hang out with you.
2007-08-29 15:26:19 · answer #8 · answered by amblahblur00 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For both your sakes wait until he's not your teacher. If you're in your teens wait a little longer as five years is a lot at that age. If it's meant to be it will last distance & time.
AND nobody is ever too good for you young lady!! Change your thinking before you end up with a loser.
Good luck girl!
2007-08-29 15:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds kinda hot to me. Not to mention how fun the stories will be years from now about how you did your teacher.
Just ask yourself this- Do you think one day you might regret screwing around with him? Or would you regret not screwing around with him? I say do him if you want him. Seize the day, Baby. Besides, it's just so damn hot to be so damn naughty. The opportunities to incorporate some good scandals into your past are far to rare as it is. Be a bad girl, just be smart about it.
At the very least it may improve your gpa. lol
2007-08-29 15:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by kelly d 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋