2007-08-29 15:07:10 · 8 answers · asked by youcsy360 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
A dangerous assumption that people make is that those at work are their friends or buddies; they are not; they are merely your colleagues. While it is possible for colleagues to become friends outside of the job, at work, I consider them my colleagues only. You can't depend upon people's loyalty to you as a friend in such an environment. They there are looking out for number one and staying employed. If your neck is on the line, you are on your own mister! I make it a rule to keep colleagues at arms length. I never discuss with them my private life. I hardly even tell people at work where I even live! Every little thing people know about you will sooner or later be used against you at work. It is impossible to know people's agenda in such an environment (actually anywhere), but by reducing the amount of personal interaction with others you are limiting the ammunition they can build up to use against you.
Likewise, they don't want to share too much about themselves with you, for the same reasons I just gave. If you are thus perceived "too friendly" it can work against you with colleagues and administrators.
Go to work, keep your mouth shut, don't volunteer anything, do a good days work for whatever you are paid, and don't try to get close to people in such an artificial and stressful environment. When you retire, tell 'em to just keep their "gold" watch!
2007-08-29 16:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by The Invisible Man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be on the safe side, just stick to business at work. You can make friends after work with non-coworkers.
Never do anything to jeopardize your job and your income.
Everybody above me made a good point. They want to know, how personal are you talking about. However, the fact that people need to define "personal" shows that what is personal to some may be offensive to others. There is too much grey area when it comes to what is too personal at work.
So like I said, stay on the safe side and remain business professional at work. That way you don't cross any lines no matter how clear or grey the lines might be.
2007-08-29 23:00:53 · answer #2 · answered by atl_ace1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well getting to personal can be a problem later.
Always know who really is a friend. Personal talk among co-workers is not proper at work. If it's someone who you have
been going to lunch on a constant basis and you trust them then it's ok to get a bit personal. Sometimes they want to hear about your personal life. But keep in mind that if they get mad at you in the future they can spread your personal life. So only say what you are willing to hear back.
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2007-08-29 22:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by BettyBoopGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personal as in Personal LIFE!! or what?
Just think about it this way go to work to get paid no to make friends as there is no FRIENDS at any work there is always people who brown nose and tend to let the managers KNOW of any personal thing that happens to someone just so that can look GOOD For there employer
TRUST just do your thang
2007-08-29 22:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by panfila_y_que 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how close to are you the people you work with and how personal everyone else is.
2007-08-29 22:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by qwerty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fluke knows ,
Why are you so vague ?
Personal can send you to the top or
Kill your job . . .
All depends on "how" you are being personal .
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2007-08-29 22:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info provided - reask question with details, examples. We don;t work with you.
2007-08-29 22:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by heart_and_troll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how you define personal
2007-08-29 22:12:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋