So my parents have been divorced since I was 2. And I lived with my mom till I was 4. But when I was 4 she just got up and took off. I have lived with my dad since and I am now 13. I visited my mom over the summer and we got into talking about me maybe living with her one day. And from the two weeks I spent with her I know I want to. I want to move at the end of this school year so I will be starting high school where my mom lives. I want my dads aproval alot but when im 14 I will legally be allowed to choose who I WANT to live with. So I thought maybe if I told him now it would make it easier. Give him time to think about it. What I need help with is a way to aproach him with this. I dont want it to come off as " I dont love you and want to live with my mom" I just have lived with him for 9 years and I think my mom deserves the last 4 before im 18. SO please help. I dont want to hurt him.
2007-08-29 15:03:05 · 4 answers · asked by mcrgirl94 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
baby girl, a father would understand his daughters need in wanting to know and be close to her mother. Make sure you let him know you're still gonna be his girl, but you don't want to grow up not knowing the woman who brought you into the world. Make sure to let him know how often you plan to visit, and that you will call him a lot to tell him what's going on in your life, and to find out about his. If for any reason he doesn't agree with it... then make sure to hear him out... he could have a very good reason. So don't get defensive too fast b/c you know either way you can soon if you want to... I'm almost positive he will understand, though. Good luck! I hope your relationship with your mother grows to be very loving and close. <3
2007-08-29 15:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by peacexlovexrocknroll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure your mom wants primary custody of you first, then approach your dad.
You need to tell him that you need some "mama time" since you are 13 and really need that kind of feminine education.
It might be one of those arrangements where you will spend school months with your mom and the summers and occasional holidays with your dad.
2007-08-29 22:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it as easy as you can, when he is reading or something, go to him and say" dad, i wanna talk, do you have time?" if he says yes explain it all to him just like you asked the question, im 12, and my parents split last january, e-mail me at barbaro_4_ever@yahoo.com i really dont mind.
2007-08-29 22:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by nickJ_luver13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going to be honest regardless of how you say it he will be hurt, but he will also understand that she is your mother. there is no easy way to tell him so just tell him. he will never think you dont love him so dont think that way. tell him how you are feeling just be honest with him he will see how much you are hurting, he is your father ,you know!!!!! i wish you the best of luck
2007-08-29 22:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋