My 6yo DD is in 2nd grade and is really sensitive after a difficult 1st grade year. We have her going to counseling but our health care provider can only get her in every 3-4 weeks.
Yesterday was the first day of school and she hated it. She complained "too many bullies". One big girl shoved her in line. Today was no better, but the big girl came up behind her on the swings and scratched her back.
I'm telling her that some things can't change. Boys are not as quiet as girls, some kids will yell in line because they're excited and sometimes a boy just has to "shake his butt" (that one cracked me up). As for the big girl, I told my DD that I would speak to the teacher tomorrow morning. She laid hands on my daughter 2 days in a row, there better not be a third!
In the meantime my DD is begging me to move her out of the class and is miserable. I keep telling her it would be the same in other classes -- there's always at least one problem student. Any other advice??
2007-08-29 12:14:50 · 7 answers · asked by BeckyBeq 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
The difficult 1st grade year was due to a bully at school, her brother was very sick (home-school and hospitalization) for several months and one of her classmate's parents was killed in a car accident.
Teachers, what would you like to know if you had DD in class -- should I fill the teacher in on the backstorY?
2007-08-29 12:16:17 · update #1
Thank you so far. Yes, my daughter is WAY too sensitive. She's in a martial art, but she's very scared of getting in trouble. The bullying last year pretty much stopped when I told her that the next time the kid laid a hand on her my DD was to "take her down" and sit on her -- trouble be darned. Word got around and she never had to resort to it. Ugh, what's with kids these days?
2007-08-29 15:00:04 · update #2
I'm sure there aren't really that many bullies... but there are hyper six year olds running around, making noise, playing , exploring, and doing what kids do... tease one another. Your daughter is very insecure and ,yes, the teacher should be made aware. She may allow her to lead the line at lunch or have preferential seating near the teacher. Maybe she can pass out supplies. All of these usually help a student become more comfortable in new school year. You are correct not to ask to move her. It really wouldn't solve her problem and might even compound it. As soon as she makes new friends, this may be her best year!
2007-08-29 12:30:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids are the same as years ago...little shits. You need to tell the teacher the back ground and hopefull they can help build her confidence up and help to make a friend that will also help by just being there. Talk also to the school about councelling they may offer it too. Every 3-4 weeks will never be enough.
2007-08-29 17:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend letting the teacher know both what has happened the past two days, as well as about her prior uncomfortable experiences with school. Those can help the teacher know what to keep an eye out for (where he/she can, given that teachers aren't omnipotent), as well as know what she can ask the school counselor for advice on with helping your daughter.
2007-08-29 12:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by Maxum F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i was in 1st grade and 2nd nobody would pick on me because they know that they would get beat up if they did, tell you daughter to be more aggresive to the other children, if they dont then this will likely continue until they get into highschool, it is never fun to be made fun of, it all depends on what kind of family you are in, if you are a soft loving and caring family then you will likely be made fun of in school, if you grew up in a family that is tougher then your kid will get along well, go to school with her and see what happens, stand in the back of the room, i am sure the kids wont notice you, due to there short attention span, good luck!
2007-08-29 12:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by tomcatjak 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'd ask the college to mediate a gathering with you and the mummy and dad of those brats and handle the situation head-on. in the event that they don't choose, exchange faculties as we communicate and be valuable to explicitly tell them why you're doing so. I 2nd saving the fb messages by way of fact some mum and dad in basic terms don't get how merciless their priceless newborn may well be to others and you will likely choose evidence. i became into bullied and did not desire to circulate to college whilst i became into little. i ended up aggressive, shielding, and usual vicious with some intense anger topics in the direction of all and sundry who even appeared at me incorrect. One look and that i'd get of their faces approximately it by way of fact i did not choose all and sundry to even think of approximately bullying me ever lower back. i'm happy to declare I even have mellowed with age and parenthood, plus some anger administration instructions and working with youth to assist heal their emotional wounds has been healing to me.
2016-10-17 06:23:46 · answer #5 · answered by innocent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your daughter into Karate tomorrow. Seriously. Not only will she learn the defense stuff she will learn how to use it. She will learn that she doesn't use it for fun, but she CAN use it in self-defence. Also, it will give her a major self-esteem and discipline boost.
I recommend Karate for every child!
2007-08-29 17:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by paperpenandtea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to this teacher. and the principal thats needs to be nipped in the bud dont let this year go by and her get bullied
2007-08-29 12:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋